Ezekiel1337 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I finally had the confidence to let go today. I came to talk to her and tell her that i was ready to move on. Didnt seem that she liked that. She even literally told me, that she wanted me to not go out and get into a relationship while she tried relationships and if she didnt like them, came back. Selfish. I said no way, as soon as she moves on, i move one. Difference is, im in it for the long haul, so my relationships will last a long time, hers wont. She's 19. Plus, she's gunu go look for guys at bars and clubs, even more of a reason not to expect anything long term. I was perfectly ok with moving on. But she started crying. She said that she didnt want me to get married, because she did know what kind of guy I was. The long term commitment guy. She was crying because she always wanted to be my wife. But she knows, if i find someone that makes me happy for a good amount of time that im going to want to marry them. She is distraught. Because she wants to believe me when i say a guy that treats her like i did is a minority, but she wants to find out for herself. But if thats the case, then i got to move on. Not because i want to make her jealous, but because its what needs to happen. I have a new girl, that wants to appreciate me. She likes the things i like, i can actually have an intelectual conversation with her and shes on the same page. I dont think my ex expected for me to find anyone. And that i would just be there crying until she came back. But, its nice to find out that people have been waiting for their chance with me. This girl is literally head over heals with me. Shes waited 2 years of the 3.5 ive been with my ex for her chance. I dont want to break her heart, but i made a promise to wait a month with my ex before we made any decisions, so as to have no regrets. At first, my ex wanted to move on right away, now shes changing her mind. Shes been meeting guys, and told me that every one of them is an *******. But it's only been 2 weeks. I told her there IS a guy out there that can treat her right. But the more i told her im ready to move on, the more she started crying, and the more she started telling me she was changing her mind. Things are getting complicated, but this new girl just seems to want her chance. Her opportunity to be treated the way i treated my ex. My ex has been with me since she was 15, shes 19 1/2 now. She doesnt know any other way to be treated. So shes taking it for granted. This new girl has watched this relationship for 2 years now. This new girl happens to be my first girlfriend, which later became one of my good friends. She's been in a lot of abusive relationships. So i think she wants something new. And this is her chance, and mine to. But my ex doesnt like it. I think im ready to move on though. I want my ex back... but there is no logical point to it. I put most of the effort into the relationship 75% me abd 25% her. She takes me for granted, she never admits when she's wrong. I dont think i want to go back to that. I want someone that appreciates me.
justaman99 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 A person whom never admits they're wrong is someone you don't want to be with. Trust me. You have a good thing with the new girl. Everything you say about her is positive and more of what you're looking for. Why are you even considering going back to the ex? So you can what, prove something? Be careful. Don't lose what's good. -Just
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Why the two topics ezekiel? Could this not all go into one? And to further highlight on the above poster... Someone who never admits they're wrong, is a narcissist. (Or some sufferer of a personality disorder). God I love labeling people who have obvious issues.
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