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hi

after 19 years of solid relationship with mister selfish - i left my ex after he decided i would not be a mother ever and called me a lier when i said i might want to have a kid..!

.i am now single and

discovered the sad reality of people playing cool, men not texting back to play hard to get:cool:..guys saying any crap to get their way...etc...

..etc..but ,at last ..i met this guy who has been lovely and straight forward..and dropped the cool act...he 1st chased after me ..i was not interested but conquered me..:( it's ok..i am not too in pain..i am goign numb i think...

by teh way...i have no choice...

because there are no guys of my age and because i can not steal husbands...i have to date guys 10 years younger than me

..he is 32 .i am 42..(we look the same age/THANK YOU nivea Q10 )

..we met 2 months ago...we are involved in a common project..we were a very good match...but mister toyboy all of a sudden,doesn't want a relationship..tells me he doesnt mind if i date over guys ( he is not seeing anybody else - i am sure )

now since he said he wants to remain single..

he texts me , calls me, wants to hang out all the time and is always asking me..who called me..asks me details about my male friends..and seem to get a kick out of insinuating guys fancying me..???

he compliments me all the time...etc...

he says the most romantic things...got me a xmas present...etc..

 

his bad side !

he drinks too much - and has a temper.. 3 times in a row..started shouting at me..( i never responded, i never did anything wrong- the subject of his shouting had nothing to do with me.. - i just listened and told him what i thought of it teh day after..in a calm way..-i thought he was ridiculous- he has argued with the gaz cooker also..twice..! ;():sick:

because of his outburst...i am starting finding him less and less attractive..but...shame is

is..we are totally matching..!taste,,hobbies...thought..

timetable even...

:eek:it took me a long time to find this guy...and i am very disappointed and discouraged:(

 

i work alone,,,live alone...have no kids..no family...

i spend most of my days alone...

i go on holiday alone...my life has been like this for 2 years

i have friends and a social life..but...they are just friends

i think most of people would go crazy if they were me...

i am just tired..of meeting idiots...and ..i think...i found another one.who doesn't value me at all and doesnt know his head from his bum !

should i follow the rules of those books and play bitch for him to like me more..should i give up ?

:confused: thanks ;)

Posted
hi

after 19 years of solid relationship with mister selfish - i left my ex after he decided i would not be a mother ever and called me a lier when i said i might want to have a kid..!

.i am now single and

discovered the sad reality of people playing cool, men not texting back to play hard to get:cool:..guys saying any crap to get their way...etc...

..etc..but ,at last ..i met this guy who has been lovely and straight forward..and dropped the cool act...he 1st chased after me ..i was not interested but conquered me..:( it's ok..i am not too in pain..i am goign numb i think...

by teh way...i have no choice...

because there are no guys of my age and because i can not steal husbands...i have to date guys 10 years younger than me

..he is 32 .i am 42..(we look the same age/THANK YOU nivea Q10 )

..we met 2 months ago...we are involved in a common project..we were a very good match...but mister toyboy all of a sudden,doesn't want a relationship..tells me he doesnt mind if i date over guys ( he is not seeing anybody else - i am sure )

now since he said he wants to remain single..

he texts me , calls me, wants to hang out all the time and is always asking me..who called me..asks me details about my male friends..and seem to get a kick out of insinuating guys fancying me..???

he compliments me all the time...etc...

he says the most romantic things...got me a xmas present...etc..

 

his bad side !

he drinks too much - and has a temper.. 3 times in a row..started shouting at me..( i never responded, i never did anything wrong- the subject of his shouting had nothing to do with me.. - i just listened and told him what i thought of it teh day after..in a calm way..-i thought he was ridiculous- he has argued with the gaz cooker also..twice..! ;():sick:

because of his outburst...i am starting finding him less and less attractive..but...shame is

is..we are totally matching..!taste,,hobbies...thought..

timetable even...

:eek:it took me a long time to find this guy...and i am very disappointed and discouraged:(

 

i work alone,,,live alone...have no kids..no family...

i spend most of my days alone...

i go on holiday alone...my life has been like this for 2 years

i have friends and a social life..but...they are just friends

i think most of people would go crazy if they were me...

i am just tired..of meeting idiots...and ..i think...i found another one.who doesn't value me at all and doesnt know his head from his bum !

should i follow the rules of those books and play bitch for him to like me more..should i give up ?

:confused: thanks ;)

 

Let's make a list of bad things here:

 

1) He is toying with your emotions because all of a sudden he doesn't want a relationship. He doesn't even care if you date other guys! Shouldn't he want you all to himself?

 

2) He drinks too much. This never turns out to be a good thing.

 

3) He has a bad temper. Most people with bad tempers keep them at bay when you are first dating. Then it just gets worse.

 

Those are 3 major deal breakers. It is disappointing when you find a guy you really like and it doesn't work out the way you want it to. I have been there many times and it is frustrating. You are left feeling like you have to search all over again.

 

Think about what you said you want though- someone who values you. If this guy did he wouldn't have these issues. I see so many people settle for someone they aren't entirely happy with and it is sad. What would you rather have- a dead end relationship or be happier being alone? Please don't settle for someone you know is not going to love you the way you want to be loved!

Posted
hi

after 19 years of solid relationship with mister selfish - i left my ex after he decided i would not be a mother ever and called me a lier when i said i might want to have a kid..!

.i am now single and

discovered the sad reality of people playing cool, men not texting back to play hard to get:cool:..guys saying any crap to get their way...etc...

..etc..but ,at last ..i met this guy who has been lovely and straight forward..and dropped the cool act...he 1st chased after me ..i was not interested but conquered me..:( it's ok..i am not too in pain..i am goign numb i think...

by teh way...i have no choice...

because there are no guys of my age and because i can not steal husbands...i have to date guys 10 years younger than me

..he is 32 .i am 42..(we look the same age/THANK YOU nivea Q10 )

..we met 2 months ago...we are involved in a common project..we were a very good match...but mister toyboy all of a sudden,doesn't want a relationship..tells me he doesnt mind if i date over guys ( he is not seeing anybody else - i am sure )

now since he said he wants to remain single..

he texts me , calls me, wants to hang out all the time and is always asking me..who called me..asks me details about my male friends..and seem to get a kick out of insinuating guys fancying me..???

he compliments me all the time...etc...

he says the most romantic things...got me a xmas present...etc..

 

his bad side !

he drinks too much - and has a temper.. 3 times in a row..started shouting at me..( i never responded, i never did anything wrong- the subject of his shouting had nothing to do with me.. - i just listened and told him what i thought of it teh day after..in a calm way..-i thought he was ridiculous- he has argued with the gaz cooker also..twice..! ;():sick:

because of his outburst...i am starting finding him less and less attractive..but...shame is

is..we are totally matching..!taste,,hobbies...thought..

timetable even...

:eek:it took me a long time to find this guy...and i am very disappointed and discouraged:(

 

i work alone,,,live alone...have no kids..no family...

i spend most of my days alone...

i go on holiday alone...my life has been like this for 2 years

i have friends and a social life..but...they are just friends

i think most of people would go crazy if they were me...

i am just tired..of meeting idiots...and ..i think...i found another one.who doesn't value me at all and doesnt know his head from his bum !

should i follow the rules of those books and play bitch for him to like me more..should i give up ?

:confused: thanks ;)

 

surely the way forward is for you to meet new people more often. I don't know how many you have dated the last 2 years but maybe you need a bit more experience to see why you pick the wrong types or if it's just about timing/luck.

 

do you need advice on how to meet men?

 

19 years is a long time to be out of the game. you have a lot of catching up to do

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