Lucky555 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I'm supposed to see him tomorrow. I want quits. On the phone tonight he sounded aggressive towards me when he was trying to GET ME TO COMMIT! I dream of having a great boyfriend nothing I would like better, BUT snack boy just doesn't cut it. How would you all tactfully call it quits!
carhill Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 "Hey, snack boy, get on the clue train and find another chick to buy you snacks" Or, the sound of silence....
Star Gazer Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Or, the sound of silence.... Usually I'd advocate honest communication, but silence is my vote for this piece of work.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 he actually asked me tonight if "I would take care of him" I'm like NO, hes like well if we were serious? I was like NO you need to take care of yourself and I will take care of myself." He was trying to get my interest level of him, i said, "I am getting to know you better and I am seeing if we are good together, obviously there is attraction but I want to see if we are compatible." I don't know where this "take care of me" came from!!!!!!!
jerbear Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Give him money to get a snack so he can go away. I believe honesty is the best answer, just tell snack boy that it is not going to work.
carhill Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Heck I thought he was talking fellatio or something Just don't engage him. Something came up. He can lose your number
Author Lucky555 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 This guy is quite the NEEDY CHEAP LOSER. I understand he works hard for his money as do I!!! I am not wealthy but i know how to save and i know how to shop wisely! I just want to end this on a good note because he knows some people I know and I like it to be "NEAT AND TIDY" to SHIP HIM AWAY from me that is.
jerbear Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 he actually asked me tonight if "I would take care of him" I'm like NO, hes like well if we were serious? I was like NO you need to take care of yourself and I will take care of myself." He was trying to get my interest level of him, i said, "I am getting to know you better and I am seeing if we are good together, obviously there is attraction but I want to see if we are compatible." I don't know where this "take care of me" came from!!!!!!! After what he did, I would suggest telling him as it is then go silent. It is just weird that he would talk about you taking care of him.
Star Gazer Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Yeah, I take it back. Tell him how it is (NEEDY CHEAP LOSER!!!) and then go silent. What an odd bird he is!
Author Lucky555 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 After what he did, I would suggest telling him as it is then go silent. It is just weird that he would talk about you taking care of him. Very weird indeed. THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I DATE! its like he went from this caring great guy to this SNACK MONSTER! hahaha I can't imagine jumping into a relationship with this guy! Honestly I am not concerned because this guy is showing some characteristics that are VERY WEIRD. I don't want him to see my car and do something to it out of madness. This is why i need to break up with him tactfully. "i'm too busy right now for a relationship and I think your a great guy but this wont work." (How is this)
jerbear Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Very weird indeed. THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I DATE! its like he went from this caring great guy to this SNACK MONSTER! hahaha I can't imagine jumping into a relationship with this guy! Honestly I am not concerned because this guy is showing some characteristics that are VERY WEIRD. I don't want him to see my car and do something to it out of madness. This is why i need to break up with him tactfully. "i'm too busy right now for a relationship and I think your a great guy but this wont work." (How is this) I would suggest this rewording: "i'm too busy right now for a relationship and I don't think this would work for us." The great guy part might give him an opening.
RichGuy Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I don't know where this "take care of me" came from!!!!!!! By "taking care of me" he probably meant SEX in this context. Of course, you were thinking about snack MONEY. This near total breakdown in communications between the sexes is one reason why we have a thriving couples counseling industry in this country.
Tomcat33 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 "i'm too busy right now for a relationship and I don't think this would work for us." The great guy part might give him an opening. Totally agree with that suggestion. It's universal code for I want out. By "taking care of me" he probably meant SEX in this context. Of course, you were thinking about snack MONEY. This near total breakdown in communications between the sexes is one reason why we have a thriving couples counseling industry in this country. SO true I couldn't agree more!! Great insight.
You'reasian Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 By "taking care of me" he probably meant SEX in this context. Of course, you were thinking about snack MONEY. This near total breakdown in communications between the sexes is one reason why we have a thriving couples counseling industry in this country. True!!!!!!!!
Mary3 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I would shout : " Extra butter on my popcorn Snack Boy ! " Then sneak into the movie theatre and ditch him. Just kidding , that sounds mean.. Tell him your are looking for a different flavor of seasoning and he's not it...
2sure Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 OK, if you insist you must be tactful because you have mutual friends... " You know, I have to tell you - you are a great guy. Thats why I'm kind of disappointed... but I'm just not feeling it." That is honest, it works, and should leave you without fear of social retribution.
Tomcat33 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Actually you know what? The BEST way to get rid of this leech and you won't even have to move a finger, he will do all the dirty work for you is to get him to pick you up and you leave your wallet at home. Or better yet tell him you are saving up for a big purchase and cannot spend any money at all that if he wants to take you out it will have to be his treat. If you MAKE him pay for everything he will be out of there faster than you can say "buy me a snack, boy"
You'reasian Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Seems tougher than it will be. Hearing about snack boy makes me feel generous about spending $50 at a Japanese Steak house with a good lady friend - and we stuffed our bellies!
jerbear Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 If you MAKE him pay for everything he will be out of there faster than you can say "buy me a snack, boy" Talking about snacks... your avatar looks yummy.
Tomcat33 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Talking about snacks... your avatar looks yummy. Edit: Changed my mind... You want a bite of my kitty burger?
The Collector Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Actually you know what? The BEST way to get rid of this leech and you won't even have to move a finger, he will do all the dirty work for you is to get him to pick you up and you leave your wallet at home. Or better yet tell him you are saving up for a big purchase and cannot spend any money at all that if he wants to take you out it will have to be his treat. If you MAKE him pay for everything he will be out of there faster than you can say "buy me a snack, boy" It's funny how he's a leech but has spent more money on her than she has on him.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Edit: Changed my mind... You want a bite of my kitty burger? That sounded really dirty. LOL OP: I agree with not saying, "you're a great guy, but..."
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 I'd take the "will you take care of me" as a sexual reference... Who would come out and ask such a thing after a few dates? If you are getting an odd vibe, I'd go with silence.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Edit: Changed my mind... You want a bite of my kitty burger? I have a dirty mind... The first time I saw the avatar I saw kitty- sandwich... eat... never mind. I would just ditch the dude.
jerbear Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Edit: Changed my mind... You want a bite of my kitty burger? Here kitty kitty... don't worry, jerbear will take care of your kitty. (think alternate names for kitty) I have a dirty mind... The first time I saw the avatar I saw kitty- sandwich... eat... never mind. Ditto. I thought of something similar.
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