Knight_Ctrl Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I was watching spongebob and it was the episode where spongebob loses gary. and I ****ing lost it. Why the hell does the stupidest **** have to remind us of our exs. Now I'm boozing up, crying, and even then dog is concearned...how do dogs know when something is wrong. What the hell is going on guys, why do I care still. How can I get through several days and not give a **** until just randomly boom and I'm a ****ing mess.........
Kage111 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I have definitely been there. Ever since she left me, I've only been able to watch Discovery Channel.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Kage, Discovery OWNS. Myth Busters, Time Warp, Survivorman, Man vs Wild... are you seriously complaining? I live, sleep, and breath discovery channel. As for you Knight, it's only natural don't worry.
EmperorR Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I know it all to well, went to the mall today, walked by a jewelery store and I remembered me in there buying my exes engagement ring how happy I was. I can't even watch wall e for crying out loud, because that was one of the last things my ex told me how she's going over to her "friends" to watch wall e, I hate wall e
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Definitely, emperor. Absolutely. I can't watch Dark Knight or ANY movie we EVER saw together.
emotionalydistraugt Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I went to quaker steak and I went there with my ex one time ever. I almost had to leave. My mom almost ordered the same thing she used to eat and I quivered. This has been one of the hardest weeks of my life
kizik Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Knight, you're gonna get through it, but it has to get worse before it gets better. As far as boozing it, all you're doing is trying to prolong the inevitable pain that this breakup has caused you. I was very sure during the first 3-4 months after my breakup to avoid drinking heavily. You have to feel these things naturally. And you have to know that you're not the only person to feel this awful emotion. We're all on this board for a reason, and that is that we are going through, or have gone through, hell and heartbreak. You ask "why do I still care". I ask you, how long has it been since the breakup? To expect yourself to heal quickly over the loss of a loved one (think: death) is to be naive. Hell, I'm 8 months post-breakup and you still see me posting on this site. And I think about my ex every day. But when I think about her now, it doesn't hurt. Not unless I choose to completely delve into memories and self-pity and self-torture. I'll tell you what I told Joker - you have to practice thought replacement, using a special memory to replace her with. And the special memory cannot involve her.
Trimmer Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 It's amazing what triggers those feelings, and how strong they can be. For me it's music. My breakup basically "ruined" certain songs and artists for me, because the association is so strong, and they recall the emotional memory so completely that I just have to stay away. You may not realize it now, but there's at least one light at the end of this tunnel: I promise that some day, you will laugh your asses off at the fact that it was Sponge Bob and Urkel who triggered your deepest emotions. ( C'mon... little laugh? )
openbook08 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Definitely, emperor. Absolutely. I can't watch Dark Knight or ANY movie we EVER saw together. dam dark knight, that was the day he swept me away & told me hed made a huge mistake, how sorry he was, how every girl he looked at had my face looking back at him, how he doesnt deserve me but how he wanted me back & that i was it for him....he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. similarly i cant watch scrubs anymore
openbook08 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Watch, listen, relax, laugh.... ya love that song!! esp when driving!!
Author Knight_Ctrl Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 omg im sad for you. i feel your pain. everyone i ask says it took them months - years to get over their true loves. i know im going through it. hes done with me moving on his next pet, and im here crying hen steve urkel tells laura in family maters that he loves her no strings attached just the one to his heart. =( i say you workout, go out with your friends. and no moe SPONGE BOB, lol good luck, take your time to heal too because ppl jump into relationships too quick before mourning the last one,/ See though, all of my friends cept like one live away from here going to different colleges. I cant work out because i shattered my ankel (cast is off now but I still cant use it). I feel betrayed, spongebob of all things. Spongebob was my escape until now......damn. I think my expectations of myself are to high is all. I keep trying to rush everything.......I need to stop.
blackrider27 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I used to always play video games while talking on the phone to my ex, Now i can't even play half the games i've played because i remember every single convo we've had. I can't even go in this chinese food place or stop and shop, because my ex and i always went there. I had to look for every single thing that reminded me of her and put it under my bed. I wish i could get the chinese place and stop and shop tore down haha
Author Knight_Ctrl Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 I used to always play video games while talking on the phone to my ex, Now i can't even play half the games i've played because i remember every single convo we've had. I can't even go in this chinese food place or stop and shop, because my ex and i always went there. I had to look for every single thing that reminded me of her and put it under my bed. I wish i could get the chinese place and stop and shop tore down haha The day that I am unable to play video games is the day that I die. I feel for you bro.
heggs Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I can even concentrate on anything without her around, ****ing **** as.
blackrider27 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 listen to flight of the conchords and stephen lynch, they ALWAYS put me in a great mood lol.
GloryDays Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I feel for you, it's really hard. I did so much with my ex just around the town that almost everything reminds me of him. I go to stores and have flashbacks of the times we were there together, etc. The worst part for me is that everything in my apartment...he bought me. He spoiled me! My microwave cart, my tv, tons of pics on my walls, so much more you wouldn't believe it. I never asked for alot either...he just did it on his own. Actually the desk I am sitting at right now and my computer monitor he bought me.
blackrider27 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 i'm just afraid that in my next relationship i'm gonna not take her anywhere lol. So that if we break up i won't go to the places.
Author Knight_Ctrl Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 seeing as how places and things remind us of our ex's. Are we able to take new people out to those same places without emotional relapse? =/ I've taken several different girlfriends to the same place. All of whom I was serious with..........are places only ruined while we are single? Damn confusing life.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I PURPOSELY date girls that live 45min-1hour away just so if we break up I don't have to see any of the stuff again or anything. (Usually). But God spit on me the other day when one of my movies I was on set filming (i'm a professional actor. no bragging), took place about 5 minutes from her house. Best believe it was hell all 14 hours I was filming it.
sinkerswim Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I PURPOSELY date girls that live 45min-1hour away just so if we break up I don't have to see any of the stuff again or anything. (Usually). But God spit on me the other day when one of my movies I was on set filming (i'm a professional actor. no bragging), took place about 5 minutes from her house. Best believe it was hell all 14 hours I was filming it. Tom... do you think that it may be better in my situation when I move back home to PA from Illinois..that everything wont remind me of him? Although, he has been out there with me numerous times. We do have memories in PA as well. OMG..I feel hopeless.
Author Knight_Ctrl Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 I PURPOSELY date girls that live 45min-1hour away just so if we break up I don't have to see any of the stuff again or anything. (Usually). But God spit on me the other day when one of my movies I was on set filming (i'm a professional actor. no bragging), took place about 5 minutes from her house. Best believe it was hell all 14 hours I was filming it. thats pretty badass man, what are you filming? just curious. also how the hell did you manage to keep it together filming so close to your ex? You must take martial arts for dicapline. Props man
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 The movie was called The Rooks. Nothing kept the pain away. I had the lead role in the movie so I bragged to myself in my mind about that to try to keep it clear of the ex, but alas it wasn't powerful enough still. It was painful because she lives 1+ hours away and I thought I'd never have to even go NEAR her town again, yet alone ****ing 5 minutes from her house. It was like finding out you have cancer, to be perfectly honest, when I found out where it was filming. There's just no sidetracking that type of super pain.
motive2002 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 You're just gonna have to remind yourself that, yes, you aren't over the ex yet and it hurts, but it won't last forever. It won't always be painful. I'm totally with that poster about the music thing. There's a few songs that make me cringe about the ex to this day. Of course she just HAD to be an Eagles fan. Damn her anyway
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 i can't listen to valerie anymore.................well i can, but not without remembering him singing it to me. we had a long distance relationship, but we saw each other every weekend. i have red hair (NOT ginger!!!).....................but it was the attached sentiments that got me! "i miss your ginger hair and the way you like to dress, won't you come on over, stop making a fool out of meeeeeeeeeeeee". he said that was how he felt during the week because he just wanted to see me so much. i hope he thinks of me now everytime he hears that song. same way i think of him. only that's a silly hope because i know he's moved on. two months down the road..................i have no job, but i'm looking now. i've had way too much time to think. so much so that the bad things he did don't seem relevant anymore, even though i know they still happened obviously and how crap they made me feel. all i can think about is how good we were together before it went wrong. when i need to be thinking of how crap it was in the end.................or not thinking about it at all!
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