4givrnt4gtr Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 So my ex that wanted his stuff back wrote me a really...odd email, to say the least... First he was miffed that I threw his c rap away. And looked like thats all he wanted to say cuz after fussing at me over it he said he wishes me luck with life etc. Then he out of nowhere continues with how he had wanted to contact me before but his pride and lack of courage didnt allowed him to. That there is some hatred for him and that it was expected (CONDESCENDING s o b!!!) but that I should not give up the good memories for the few bad ones.. He also mentioned how despite what may have happened since our break up there is still a hole and pain (im not sure what this even means!!) and that it probably it was too late for "those words" to mean anything He also said that what he had was real...whatever that means, and that if Im ever sad and need help getting cheered up to not hesitate to call him.... What he heck does it all mean?!?!
msjules Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I would take what he wrote at face value and not try to look for any hidden meanings. It seems to me that he has had some time to think about things, is being nostalgic, and is seeing the good times more than the bad times. Easy for him, as I am assuming he is the one who dumped you. Not so easy for you, though, and he is not seeing it from your perspective. Again, I am assuming that he dumped you because you are here and he is not. I have to laugh because he thinks he can cheer you up after hurting you? I don't think he is trying to get back with you, but as I said, he is feeling nostalgic, may be missing your company a little, but there is nothing in his words to reflect any regret or a desire to reconcile. He wants you to know that he did have feelings for you at one time, that it was real for him and that's about it. I would not turn to him for cheering up, though. I really doubt that would happen, talking to him would probably only make you hurt more.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 I would take what he wrote at face value and not try to look for any hidden meanings. It seems to me that he has had some time to think about things, is being nostalgic, and is seeing the good times more than the bad times. Easy for him, as I am assuming he is the one who dumped you. Not so easy for you, though, and he is not seeing it from your perspective. Again, I am assuming that he dumped you because you are here and he is not. I have to laugh because he thinks he can cheer you up after hurting you? I don't think he is trying to get back with you, but as I said, he is feeling nostalgic, may be missing your company a little, but there is nothing in his words to reflect any regret or a desire to reconcile. He wants you to know that he did have feelings for you at one time, that it was real for him and that's about it. I would not turn to him for cheering up, though. I really doubt that would happen, talking to him would probably only make you hurt more. Haha no, I broke up with him. It was actually a messed up relationship where I felt unappreciated and taken for granted. At the end i realized I deserved better than that. I even gave him one last chance and asked him what he felt for me. He obviously could care less cuz he said he "thought" he loved me but didnt think he was in love with me and that he wanted to get to know me better. (We dated for a year and a half at this point) Thats when I said DEUCES!! I didnt hear from him after that, until recently, which makes me curious as to why in the world he is contacting me after three months. Im good and gone from this. Im dating someone new, who treats me right. I'm just curious as to why all of a sudden he wants to initiate contact, especially after it looked like he could care less if he lost me or not.
Adri Ana Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I'm just curious as to why all of a sudden he wants to initiate contact, especially after it looked like he could care less if he lost me or not. I hear this today for the third time . First two ones were from the friends that wanted some advice . But all cases are just so individual, You need to act the way which you consider the best .
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