cat-power Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I'll try to keep this short! Met a guy last year on a project, we only saw eachother in daily meetings, smalltalk, but he did save my arse a couple of times (always backed me) This year i'm back on this company (i do projects- selfemployed) we saw eachother he came over and kissed me, caught up etc. (got the whole story on his divorce- never asked but he must be divorced for about 3 yrs now) I sometimes walk into his office just to chat- 3 months ago I found a present om my desk, came from him- something I use for work. Our paths crossed 2 months ago on the refinary, we chatted and as we parted he grabbed my hand and held on to it. (this was when the spark flew over for me ) Took me 2 months to gather up confidence to walk into his office again- he kissed me on the cheek (belgian custom for close friends) and we talked for an hour- in which conversation he also asked me if I was single (YES!) and why. somehow....I also asked him how old he was, I was shocked (no...rephrase surprised ! )as I thought he was 45-48 but he is in fact 58....20yrs older. As he told me he doesn't look, feel or act that age...yeah, i knew that, if he hadn't told me i'd never have known. Problem: I'd like to get to know him better....but I think he's waiting for me to act...seeing he's so much older...OR the age difference shocked him as well (i'm 37) OR he's not looking for anything. my head spins...what do I do...what's your take ? I must be around the same age as his kids ! I don't care, not often (for me NEVER) that you meet a guy that is on the same page the same hobby (horses) so ...what do I do !
Miss Ting Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Forget the age difference. LIke you said, had he not told you, you would've never guessed..so really, it's not important...don't suddenly make it an issue just because you know it now! Make the move.
Author cat-power Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 so you guys think he's waiting for me to make a move because he doesn't want to pressure me because of the age-thing ?
Geishawhelk Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Cripes, communication would be a wonderful thing, if only people would do it....! Be a Woman of the 21st century! Contact him! Make a dinner date, or do something fun together (like ice-skating, roller-blading, horse riding, bowling.... that kinda thing!) Invite him out and suggest an activity! Take the plunge, take the initiative and take precautions! (J/K about the last one.... move casually but carefully!)
Author cat-power Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 I get what you're saying, but the reason for this post is that i've had bad experience with divorced guys, they come with a lot of baggage and i've been the rebound girl one too many times. They seem to be very good at planning stuff like moving in together...or even moving to France ...and then just dissapear :oWhich is why I wanted some input from others first, to know if i'm reading him right I also have to be very wary of what I say and do as i'm in a 99.9% male environment and don't want the reputation of being easy. And...he's my client as well, though we don't work together.
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