Goalseeker Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Sorry to be so dramatic, but hopefully I can find some solice here. My ex broke up with me after 4 years together last march. She did'nt want me to fall out of love with her, and some sort of weird friend thing ensued for another three months - despite my damaged heart. Finally I couldn't take the abuse (blame for relationship issues) - example, we were at her place and she looks at me and out of the blue says "I know you always did your best for me, but it was never good enough." So, I called her one day and told her goodbhye. She again would text me asking me to go out as if nothing was said. Later I put aside my standards of privacy and looked at her email, which I am sure she didnt think I could get into, and found her telling her friend of her cheating on me - poop! So.. I dont know why I cant get her out of my head. I feel bad about how poorly she thought of me, and feel even worse that all my memories of her end with her cheating. Any advice, is this normal, and why do I still dream about her and feel like crying - it sucks. I have never gone through anything like this before. Sorry about the novel.
LiveandLearn Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I'm sorry you're going through this Goalseeker. You're one of many on here that have gone or is going through the never-ending rollercoaster of emotions that you are currently on. What you're feeling is definitely normal; you're not alone in that department. We've all been there. Heck, that's why most of us are on here in the first place You just have to take it one day at a time. As your name denotes, you should set small mini-goals each day. The goals can range from jogging 1 mile to starting a friendly conversation with 3 strangers. Anything you can think of that will give you a reason to get out of bed and out of the house. It will definitely help you get through your days, especially the days where you're just feeling like absolute sh*t.
Surfer Dude Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 You'll be fine, healing takes time. After you read her mail you realized she cheated on you, plus she has the nerve to ask you to hang out with her after insulting you. This person has some serious issues, you should be glad you're done with her. The pain of loss is always difficult to take, no matter whether the breakup was amicable or if we were treated like crap. You loved her, that's why you're feeling this gap now. Forgetting someone you loved is difficult and the road will be rough, but you will make it. There will be setbacks but don't let that discourage you.
Author Goalseeker Posted January 10, 2009 Author Posted January 10, 2009 Thanks, I appreciate the support and am glad to hear that it is normal. Thanks again.
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