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I'm kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place right now, not sure how I should proceed. There's these two girls I know, let's call them Katie and Kelly. They're about as different as two people can be, especially in how they relate to me. I met Katie through an internet personals site, and we've chatted online/phone calls for a weeks now. We have also met a couple of times, gone to a movie and went out for coffee. I'd say we made friends pretty fast, and that's nice. I've actually been the one who keeps the fact that we "met" through a dating site in the forefront of our relationship. She's a little bit insecure, because she's, well, what some men might call "voluptuous," some might call "curvy," and some might not be nearly so kind. More to the point, I can tell that our long-term goals and dreams are in almost direct conflict with one another, so that's one reason I'm not sure if I want to be with her.

 

Now Kelly I don't know nearly as well. I met her through my work. I'm a drugstore cashier, and she works at a hair salon down the block. But my goodness, whenever she comes into my store, I swear my stomach starts doing somersaults. The pulse quickens, the temperature rises, the nerve endings fire, the ability to formulate coherent sentences nearly escapes me...it actually sounds like physical illness as I describe it, but man, it feels AWESOME whenever she's around. I'm sure you've all felt this way about someone. If not, I hope you do someday. We've had conversations, and gone a tad deeper than simple "Hey how's your day going?" cashier-customer conversations, and she's really friendly. I'm dying to get to know her better, but I'm not sure I can take any initiative in doing so - you can go to a drugstore under false pretenses, even several times a day, but a hair salon?

 

The last time I pursued someone based chiefly on physical attraction I got hurt pretty bad, and I don't know, that might be holding me back. I can still count on my fingers the number of times I've face-to-face met each girl, so I'm not actually at the fork in the road, I'm just the type of person who thinks about it a ways away.

 

And yes, I know this is kind of a nice problem to have :laugh: but it is really preoccupying me.

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