Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Always told I move too slow. Thought she'd loose interest.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Always told I move too slow. Thought she'd loose interest. Nah, she won't. Who told you that you move too slow? I've jumped in quick with some guys and taken it slowly with others. It's more about finding a balance between being aloof and being too anxious. It's just the booking two dates in a row thing... The first stages of dating are confusing! That's why I said just try and relax and enjoy the process. Don't think about it in terms of earning control or relinquishing control. Just have fun. Kiss her when it feels right- and plan one date at a time for now. If she's agreeing to a next date, even if it's a week later, she's interested. Just get the third date in on Friday and feel things out.
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Past attempted relationships. Kinda hard to get to know someone just over dinner. Rather go to a sports game, museum, play, etc. Eh, I thought it by her on Saturday. She seems to like Saturday's. Thanks for the advice D-Lish.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Make the next date a sporting event and dinner! Suggest doing something you want to do. I don't mind dinners because you get a chance to talk. I'd be very happy if a date took me to a hockey game though:). If she is working lots and lives a bit of a distance away from you, it might be hard to have weekday dates. You don't have to put all your eggs in one basket either... if there is a chance to date others- go for it. Keeps you busy, and keeps you practiced;). So, did you set up the next date for next Friday? Or Saturday? To be honest, I like to reserve my weekends for my friends, so getting the weekend dates this early on is a score.
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Saturday seems to be the day I've seen her for the last two times, might as well keep with the same day. She lives the next town over. About 20 minutes. While we are both teachers, she also does tutoring at an after-day school for kids. So, I can understand that she's always busy. That was why I wanted to book (like a flight) a head of all of the fuss. People tell me physics is difficult to under stand. This type of "chemistry" has nothing on physics.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 As I said Ruggy- my friends and I used to joke whether or not a date was "weekend worthy"... Sounds as if you are:love:
twoscoops Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 just to answer your original question -- I would not worry about kissing in public. Just do it when the moment is right, it is not like your first kiss will turn into a hot makeout session. Well I guess it could
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 One thing that did catch my ear was what she was looking for. She said she is looking for someone with a similar upbringing like hers. Plus, she wants to have a kid by 34/35. Didn't dive into the age or kid thing, but I guess I am still in the running as a contender (feels like a boxing match). Thing is it is so damn cold out hard to do more than a quick peck. Though, when she does do the quick peck, her eyes are close; mine are still open. Not sure if that means anything.
allina Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 I think the date went very well. Considering the fact that she went for the kiss (I don't think it matters if it didn't land right on your lips ) she must be interested in you. I don't know any woman who would initiate a kiss, even much of a hug with a guy she isn't interested in. Plus, it was a 5 hour dinner date, so she was definitely enjoying herself. I think you did very well. I say don't rush it too much if you feel the need to take it slow but make sure she knows you're interested in her. Do call and keep in contact with her between dates. Other than that relax and have fun, I think you're doing well.
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Possibly. One thing that bothers me is she is really, and I mean really bad at returning e-mails, txts, and vm's. It could be anywhere from 4 hours to 12 hours before I hear back from her sometimes, and other times, within 2 hours. And I know she gets the mail on here Sprint phone. She has said in the past that she's notoriously bad at returning messages. Another thing, I am always initiating the correspondence. Then in person, she's much more interactive. Not sure if she's measuring me up or something. Very confusing.
likestolaugh Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Possibly. One thing that bothers me is she is really, and I mean really bad at returning e-mails, txts, and vm's. It could be anywhere from 4 hours to 12 hours before I hear back from her sometimes, and other times, within 2 hours. And I know she gets the mail on here Sprint phone. She has said in the past that she's notoriously bad at returning messages. Another thing, I am always initiating the correspondence. Then in person, she's much more interactive. Not sure if she's measuring me up or something. Very confusing. 4 to 12 hours? dude, that's not so bad...
Haner Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 Dude, you need to chill and take it one step at a time. Responding to your emails in one day is not slow. You guys are just getting to know each other, she's not your girlfriend yet. You sound like a very controlling and obsessing guy. If I were the girl reading your posts here, I would dump you without a second thought.
likestolaugh Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 you know, he might not be like that in real life... but prefers to cover all the bases online, so to speak...
Author ruggy Posted January 24, 2009 Author Posted January 24, 2009 Haner, your funny woman. I only have one issue, its she's horrible in returning vms and txts. We met again on today for a quick bite. Who knows. A quick ONS and a relationship is different, at least for me. Familiar with the ONS, but at 30 approaching 31 (next month), trying to change. I think I remember why I did not do too many relationships. Too complicated in knowing what the other is thinking. This is not there with ONS. Much easier. Perhaps, relationships are over rated.
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