ruggy Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 What is the best way to end a date with a kiss, but in a public place, like after the restaurant or movies?
Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 If you want to score better brownie points, why not take her to her door? Not only will you have time alone, it's also not really safe for a girl to be wandering around by herself, late at night.
Touche Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 What is the best way to end a date with a kiss, but in a public place, like after the restaurant or movies? Ok, well I'll assume you're a guy. When my H and I were first dating, I'd say the first two or so dates, I wouldn't let him pick me up/drop me off. Instead I met him at our agreed upon destination. I'm assuming that's the case here. For us, it ended with just a hand holding and quick hug the first time...in the parking lot as he walked me to my car. And the second time it was with a peck on the cheek, again right before i got in my car in the parking lot. So is this the first date? Not sure I'd try for a kiss on the first date. You just have to use your intuition on that. Hope that helped in some way.
Confusedalways Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Maybe walk her to her car and do it there? Or as you part to your separate cars?
Touche Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Maybe walk her to her car and do it there? Or as you part to your separate cars? Why did that make me laugh? (Oh and you stole my answer! )
Author ruggy Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 Met for drinks last week. Going for dinner Saturday night. The Sushi restaurant we are going to, believe it or not, has valet parking. Prob. should had checked that before calling and booking the table. :/ So, I was going to kiss her, but in public, as the first time, I am not sure if that would be a wise decision. Then again, if I don't, would I be "friend zoned". Happens a lot to me cause I am too slow. Trying to pick things up a bit. We're both 30, and live about a town apart. She's meeting me there. I picked it in my town to see if she would drive over (20 mins). I would think, if she would not be interested, she would had not accepted. Actually, she said for me to pick the place. I purposely chose this one for two reasons. I did not want to pick one near her so she would think I am trying just to get laid. Second, to see if she would drive the extra time. That's the story.
Author ruggy Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 Maybe walk her to her car and do it there? Or as you part to your separate cars? For a second there, I thought you typed do her there.
Touche Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Hmmm...interesting. Maybe it's me but I would have been turned off by the fact that you had her come to your town instead of either meeting in the middle or meeting in her town. It never would have occurred to me that my date wanted to meet me in my town to get laid. No. I would have just thought he was being nice by saving me the driving. You think too much. Have you been on those ridiculous Don Juan type sites? I'm suspecting that. You don't get "friend-zoned" after the second date if you haven't kissed her. Ridiculous nonsense that smack of those sites for little boys. You are either going to be friend-zoned or not...a kiss on the second date will make zero difference. You need to just be natural and stop examining every little move. I'd be a basket case out with someone like you. RELAX!
Author ruggy Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 No, no. We are meeting in the middle, the town in the middle. And, when we went for drinks, we went to a wine bar in her area. Hey, I know I am a little nuts at times, but trying not to screw this up. Yes, I do think too much; I am a science teacher. Very hard to change. Trying to loosen up, but, the kissing in public part, in front of strangers, not sure how she'll act. If it makes any difference, when we first met for drinks, after about 2 weeks of e-mailing back and forth. She hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. She did the same when I left. So, again, not sure if she is like this with everyone, so I am clueless on how to proceed.
CrashLanded87 Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 try to just kiss her on the cheek... if she looks like, "Is that all?" Then obv. you know that you are clear.... If she is satisfied... then you know where you stand... and if she is irked by the fact you kissed her on the cheek.... then obviously... she doesnt think of you that way
Author ruggy Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 Also, in the middle of the dinner, if I said I would like to see move of you instead of the weekend. Would something like that come off weird?
finkelstein Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 im no dating genius but id say that it dont matter public / non public.if she wants you to kiss her then she wants others to see to. as long as the kissing gets done. as for when the time is right youll see it in the eyes chico, they dont lie. like nike ( i forget how to spell but whatever the shoe brand is) has allways said just do it.
lino Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 If you get the chance after dinner, take her for a walk through a park or along the waterside if there is one. After a bit of that sit down somehwere in either of those environments and kiss her there. I kind of agree with the thing you said about being 'friend-zoned' If you take too long to make the move, I think most women get turned off by it. However I also agree with the poster who said you can be 'friend-zoned' even if you make a move at a good time. I think it'd be best for you to try and kiss her after your next date because that way you won't be wondering 'what-if' later. Hope it helps
The Collector Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Another good reason to avoid dinner dates. I wouldn't kiss in a restaurant. In future arrange dates that involve a casual drink in a bar, then go to a different bar and you can hold hands, kiss etc on the way. Or invite her back to your place to look at your etchings or whatever.
BlueHarvest Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Or invite her back to your place to look at your etchings or whatever. Etchings you say? Heh, this made me laugh...
Citizen Erased Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Or invite her back to your place to look at your etchings or whatever. Ah but what kind of lady would she be, to take a gentleman up on his offer of viewing his etchings? Scandalous!
allina Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Kiss her when the valet goes to get the cars. You'll be alone for a minute, if it's cold outside it's an excuse to get close, tell her you had a great time and go in for a quick kiss.
Author ruggy Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 Will attempt. Would this be considered the first or second date? First time we met was just over drinks, to get to know each other.
allina Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Will attempt. Would this be considered the first or second date? First time we met was just over drinks, to get to know each other. I'd say second. And if she's giving off a positive vibe and seems in to you go in for the kiss
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 So, all, here's the deal. We went out to a nice restaurant Saturday night. I picked the place, told me to surprise her. She said she was impressed. Also, when she went away to the restroom, she told me to order for her, and she was happy with the order. We both arrived there at 7:00 PM and talked until 12:00 AM. Said we should leave, as it's getting late. I find we learned a lot about each other. She did kiss me when she got to the place and at her car. It was each a quick kiss and a hug. However, the kiss was not really on the cheek, but then again not really on the lips. Kind of touching both areas. Albeit, closer than the kiss at the drink date. It was also 15 degrees out, so did not really have much time. Is this a concern? Asked her what she's doing tomorrow, said she's busy during the day, but how about dinner? I agreed. She just called me back a few minutes ago at home and said she's working all day tomorrow and wanted to reschedule to Tuesday, Friday or Saturday. I said why not Tuesday and Saturday. She said Friday or Saturday would work better. I did not want to push that I wanted to see her twice this week, as it may look as I am coming on too strong after two dates (one drink meet, one full dinner date) In terms of the check, it came, she offered to help pay, I said I got it. Put my CC in the little leather thing they give you the bill with, did not look at it. Was not sure if that was a test or not. She said, are you sure, I said do not worry about it, I got it. It was a bit pricer than I thought it would be, but we finished a bottle a wine. We both have the same values, ideals on life and such. I would think, if she had lost interest in that date, she would not had spent 5 hours with me. She was also laughing a lot and smiling through-out the time. Though, when I said when can I see you again, and she said tomorrow night, dinner, and I agreed, she did turn around quick to hug and kiss me, as stated above, pretty fast. Kiss, which was in between half lips/cheek (may be because of my aim, not sure. Went faster than I pictured in my mind), if she was not interested in me, would she had said tomorrow night dinner? Is this good or bad? Pardon me for dissecting every piece of the date. I do that with everything. Been with women before, nothing serious. Its been years since I had a relationship. I'm a bit jumpy and walking on eggshells here.
likestolaugh Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 I dissect everything too. It's unfortunate. Anyway, it sounds like things went well. Her interest level is probably at the point where it's not a lock or anything, but she'd certainly like to see you again. Personally, I always take things one date at a time. All that matters is that you see her again, and it sounds like you will good luck!!! (btw, I'm going through [and posted about it] something kinda similar atm, so let us know how it goes!)
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Look forward in reading it. I just don't get only one date instead of two this week. Am I coming on too strong? She did mention a movie and dinner. Weird though, I am always picking the place. Is this normal?
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Just take it one date at a time, and try not to think too much. You don't want to play your cards too quick and book her for 2 dates in advance. Just play it cool. If someone asked me out for a 3rd and 4th date at once... I'd probably get a bit anxious. I think she's setting the pace to take it slow- so go with that. Just enjoy the process- try not to overthink it and let things happen naturally. When it's right for a make out session- you'll just know it.
Author ruggy Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Yes, I can agree, she, in terms of the dates is in control. It does irk me, as I am independent person. Going back and forth for her approval of the time and day seems belittling; even if she tells me to pick the place. Much different than I am used too. Is this how it usually is? I sent an an e-mail saying that Friday was fine and meeting on Tuesday too would had been nice. Not a big issue.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Yes, I can agree, she, in terms of the dates is in control. It does irk me, as I am independent person. Going back and forth for her approval of the time and day seems belittling; even if she tells me to pick the place. Much different than I am used too. Is this how it usually is? I sent an an e-mail saying that Friday was fine and meeting on Tuesday too would had been nice. Not a big issue. Hmm... You revealed too much to her by mentioning your disappointment about Tuesday. It shouldn't be about control at this stage, when it's only been two dates! Why is scheduling a date and time that works for both of you an issue for you? It's almost like you are pushing to have things happen too fast. Even if that's not your intention- booking two dates in a row at this early stage is going too fast. Just relax, try and be patient.
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