mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 My GF was telling me how her cousin is friends with Juelz Santana and that if she wanted she could go to his house and meet him through her cousin. Normally I wouldn't care about this but earlier on in our relationship she told me that she thought Juelz Santana was sexy. So I'm like iight whatever I respect that. Its just when she shows so much interest in dude to actually want to go to his crib and meet him what am I supposed to think? I already know why she wants to meet him. Its her schoolgirl crush she has on him. I'm sure if she wasn't attracted to him she'd have no interest in meeting him. Should I be a little upset over this at all? Am I overreacting?
atwitsend Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Not if your with her. And if not just be sure to tell her she can have the dream or she can have the dream merchant. Just not both. A dream is one night. The dream merchant is an endless supply.
christian6 Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Should I be a little upset over this at all? Am I overreacting? Yes, you are overreacting over it. It's not such a big deal, in my opinion.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 Her thinking he's cute is okay with me, we all have people we think are attractive. But wanting to meet him based on that bothers me. I asked her if she'd be okay with me meeting Candace Cabrera because I think she's sexy and she got upset and got off the phone. To me that's the equivalent of wanting to talk to someone you think is attractive. Or me approaching a nice young good looking lady to see what she's all about while I have a GF at home or at work. It just feels out of line if you're in a relationship. Even though he's famous her actually going to his house to meet him if she had the time is very possible through her cousin. I guess that's why it bothers me. When a girl tells her guy "ooh I think Shemar Moore is sexy" he shrugs it off because he knows she'll never meet up with him ever in her lifetime.
The Collector Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 It depends on how much you trust her. Lots of people would risk a relationship they weren't particularly invested in for the sexual partner of their dreams. Why can't you visit the guys house with her?
Author mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 It depends on how much you trust her. Lots of people would risk a relationship they weren't particularly invested in for the sexual partner of their dreams. Why can't you visit the guys house with her? That question never came up, me going with her. I've been with her for 8 months so it isn't that long of an investment. I've kinda lost taste for her and a little respect. The only real motive behind her wanting to meet him if she had the opportunity is because she's sexually attracted to him. I asked her if that was why and she refused to answer the question so I'm pretty sure that's the reason. I know it isn't cool to even feel this way but it's like my GF isn't my GF, she could be anybody's girl if they look good and thats all it would take. Its kind of a turn off.
The Collector Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 If you were invited to Candace Cabrera's house (whoever she is) and she made a move, would you go for it?
Dexter Morgan Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 My GF was telling me how her cousin is friends with Juelz Santana and that if she wanted she could go to his house and meet him through her cousin. Normally I wouldn't care about this but earlier on in our relationship she told me that she thought Juelz Santana was sexy. Ok, this behavior I never understood. Everyone naturally can have an attraction to someone, especially a celebrity. But what purpose is served by telling your significant other and rubbing it in their face. A girlfriend one time would say that about someone, a celibrity, and I'd brush if off. but it was like she was obsessed and felt the need to tell me who she thought was hot. So I just had enough and said, "you are free to leave anytime and see if you can pursue them" So I'm like iight whatever I respect that. Its just when she shows so much interest in dude to actually want to go to his crib and meet him what am I supposed to think? I already know why she wants to meet him. Its her schoolgirl crush she has on him. I'm sure if she wasn't attracted to him she'd have no interest in meeting him. Should I be a little upset over this at all? Am I overreacting? Well, if its a celeb, its a hard call. If its a Joe Schmoe that she finds attractive, then no, you aren't overreacting.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Her thinking he's cute is okay with me, we all have people we think are attractive. I agree, but she can keep it to herself. What is the purpose of telling you she thinks another man is sexy? Really, what possible purpose would there be to tell you that? I know full well anyone I am with is going to find someone else attractive, but I don't want to hear it.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 If you were invited to Candace Cabrera's house (whoever she is) and she made a move, would you go for it? Not if I'm committed to someone else. Maybe its me but I wouldn't feel a need to want to meet her because I think she's sexually attractive especially if I'm committed to someone. Why would I need to do that if I already have someone? I read her wanting to meet him as a need for more attention and its kind of disrespectful to me cause its like a subtle way of telling me that I don't fulfill all her needs. She shouldn't be wanting to meet a celebrity who she's attracted to if she's happy with her BF right?
Jada Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 She could have *stars in her eyes*, from a female perspective and I'm not saying what she is doing is right here, she just might want to meet her idol. I have no idea who the male in question is. It's a bit like getting to meet your favourite supermodel (if your a guy) someone you've crushed on for years just seeing them in the flesh and a rare opportunity at that, most guys would go for it, it does no harm in the end. She'll still be coming back to you. It's just a fantasy that's all.
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