pinkbubblexz Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I have been dating my boyfriend for two years, when we first met I had long dark hair. He never really commented on my hair until I cut it short and highlighted it back to its natural blonde tones. I prefer my hair this way and I recieve never ending comments about how great it looks and how it suits me so much better. When I first got it coloured without even asking my boyfriend told me that he liked dark haired girls with long hair better and that he would prefer if I coloured it and grew it back out. Today I told him I was going to get my hair trimmed so it wasn't so long and in my eyes and he said to me "I wish you wouldn't"... so I let it go again. But every time we watch a movie or something he'll point out girls that he finds attractive and they look absolutely nothing like me. I've bought up the issue countless times and he just says that he doesn't know where I get the idea that I'm not attractive to him, because he tells me all the time that I am. It's starting to affect our sex life as I can't stand the way that he looks at me, for thinking that he wishes I was somebody else. What do I do? How do I raise the issue so that he takes me seriously? And how do I get over the fact that I'm not exactly this guys dream?...
refurb Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 It sounds like he doesn't know how his comments are affecting you. Tell him you don't appreciate the comments. RF
blueberry Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 What do I do? How do I raise the issue so that he takes me seriously? And how do I get over the fact that I'm not exactly this guys dream?... err... newsflash... hair colour has got nothing to do with whether a partner loves you or not. its about who you are honey. stop placing so much importance on whether he loves you for your colour or not. if he breaks up with you because of your hair colour now, then you are bound to lose him anyway as its a very shallow reason to be with someone. My guy will love me even if i shaved my head. its whats inside that counts. whats gonna happen when you go grey? eek!
dreamergrl Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I think your insecure with yourself. Unless you left something out, he just mentioned that he liked your long dark hair. With him mentioning a girl he sees on t.v. or whatever, if you were confident in yourself (inside and out) this wouldn't bother you. Remember, he's with you, not someone else.
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