torranceshipman Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Hi there, I thought something major had happened by the title of this thread! - but all I can see is that he's told you some things that you want to hear. They may or may not be true...but nothing seems to have changed? Maybe I'm missiing something in your post, though? One thing I think is strange though, is that he said the W is trying to fight to NOT have the D, yet in the same conversation the MM recounted that after he said he wanted it, he then said he wanted her to meet you, and so hen she'd agreed to meet you, the OW, in that same conversation? I am pretty sure things couldnt have happened like that! I think he is trying to be diplomatic and tell you what you want to hear. I'm not saying he has bad intentions necessarily, but by the same breath, how is this latest conversation any different between you two than a thousand that came before, promising certain things that never happened? Not trying to put a downer on things, and lke I say, he could only have good intentions here, but I'd be quite reticent to earmark this conversation as some major thing when it doesnt seem like much. With this guy I'd put you faith 100% in ACTIONS but maybe reserve judgement on words until the actions follow through. And by actions I dont mean what he TELLS you, I meanliteral concrete actions.
NoIDidn't Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Even if it doesn't descend into a fight, you know what it does in the end? It gives his wife (and maybe, indirectly, her family?) a solid target other than him for her hurt feelings over the end of their relationship. The more I think about it, it just feels as if he's propping up Wildsoul as a shield against the things he can't or won't deal with... My thoughts exactly. I couldn't find the words when the thread was first started, but Trimmer hit my thoughts on the head. Don't let him do that to you. Sounds like she agreed to meet to give you the "once over" and to see if he was telling the truth. Not something you want to be in the middle of. Wild, didn't I say this when you first started posting here: slow down. Slow way down. Sorry to say this about your SO, but he gives me the creeps.
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