Allowing others to support you ..

[Eve]

I must admit that I have experienced a period of being very nearly depressed. The key to not succumbing (for me) was allowing someone to support me and not letting myself go too deeply into my flaws, nor project my issues onto others. Mainly this period has been influenced by a change of job.. new team, new dynamics etc... plus a particular change in the dynamic within my family.

 

A new colleague of mine spent one and a half hours talking to me yesterday, completely out of the blue. I feel fully energised again! but really it was a hard thing to allow him to probe my 'wall of defence' which I thought noone else really notices.

 

Does anyone else have issues with allowing others to support them? How have you overcome this?

 

Regards,

Eve xx

[quankanne]

not really issues, just don't want to bother people with my problems when they've got problems of their own, you know?

 

I've got four really good friends who are willing to hold my hand, hear me out and give me a shoulder to lean on when I need it, and it makes a world of difference because not only do they listen, they help me see things from a different perspective. And that's been priceless.

 

though the one girlfriend from college treats me like a little sister sometimes, and fusses if I don't take care of myself

[lilmrcheerful]

Hey ya

 

It can be hard because depending on what your issues are may depend on who you'd want to talk to about them who would effectively understand how you feel and would genuinely be there for you, you know, for example if you had a close sister who you could talk to about relationship problems or a best mate to talk about other stuff. Sometimes I have to balance who I can trust with the information, especially work colleagues who appear to be understanding but then the whole office gets to hear what you talked about.