GloryDays Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Sitting at work today...another boring, sad day. My phone recieves a text...it's my ex boyfriend. I've been NC with him since this past Saturday. He says" "Hey I wanted to apologize for what I said to you the last time we spoke. I am no longer bitter or angry towards you. Realized handling things the way I always have is not the way I want to live anymore. Well I hope everything is going good for you. See ya around." SEE YA AROUND?! Are you kidding me? I have NOT responded and I'm not going to. People who know the situation are telling me that they think he's trying to get a reaction and WANTS me to respond. I thought the see ya around meant he wanted me to know he's over me. My mom and friends tell me otherwise. They say be prepared because they think he'll contact me again and that he just wants to get inside my head and have control over me. What are your opinions guys? I am NOT responding...just asking what you think he's trying to prove? Make himself feel better for apologizing for the nasty things he said to me?
audrey_1 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I've been N/C since this past Saturday, too, and holding! So should you. He should take his fishing expedition elsewhere. You can't be bothered. You're too busy healing, right? Right??
Author GloryDays Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 Your right audrey! I'm not going to respond because I feel there must be a reason we didn't work out and nothing is going to change. I don't want to talk to someone who has no respect for me, has hurt me time and time again and has given me the silent treatment so many times throughout the relationship. Who knows, maybe he tried it with some other girl and it didn't work out so he started thinking about me. Regardless, I'm done. I'm telling myself I have to be done.
kizik Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 You're doing the right thing by ignoring him. Yeah, he's probably trying to get a reaction. He's definitely trying to get the upper hand by appearing to be the one who says "it's all good." My ex did the same thing, sending me an email that apologized not for her behavior, but for not paying me back $40. WTF? Self-serving BS.
Author GloryDays Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 kizik- exactly! No where does he say I'm so terribly sorry for the vulgar things I said to you...etc. His text was all "I" "I" "I".... All about him...
kizik Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 What about this part? "Hey I wanted to apologize for what I said to you the last time we spoke."
Tomatotop Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Definitely good not to respond, but as you suspect he's trying to get you to respond, and then he won't respond back and he'll have the upper hand. This way you have the upper hand, and he'll wonder why you didn't respond. He just wants you to know that he's doing OK...he could genuinely just want you to know or he could also be trying to make you jealous and show that he's "totally over it" and is moving on. Either way, stay strong and you'll feel better about yourself knowing that you're not sucomming to him!
Author GloryDays Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 Your right, he did apologize, but it's kinda like that song "it's too late to apologize" Let's put it this way...last Saturday when we had the worst fight ever I was really trying to figure out why he didn't want to spend new years with me, why he wouldn't work on us...if it was someone else etc. I made myself look pathetic. BUT what he said in return made him look worse...he said "put my C--K in your mouth and I'll give you all the answers you want lol" That's nasty. How could you ever say that to somebody? He's a lousy human being. That's the first time he EVER spoke to me that way...and it's his last!
saturnsfall Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Ok, never talk to this individual again. They have no right to contact you, ever. Stay strong and don't break NC. You're doing the right thing.
Ty Wanabu Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 He will defintely cantact you again. Just give it time. Everyone woeks at their own pace. He is trying to get you to respond/react to what he is saying. It is nothing but a ploy to make you feel sorry for him and to lure you back in. The "See ya around", is him feeling sorry for himself. If you did respond, my feeling is that he would be on his best behaviour until he got you back where he wanted you then you would see the old him again. Ya know, the silent treatment, no respect...and all the other BS you no longer have to deal with. You're doing the right thing...STAY AWAY!!!
confused_2008 Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Tell him to put his C--k in a f****** meat grinder. I don't understand how people can say this crap. I remember reading in a thread a few weeks ago about how this guy was breaking a girls heart, saying they couldn't be together, she was crying and what not, and he asked to get sucked off one last time. Pathetic.
Author GloryDays Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 Thank you guys so much. It's helping me to talk to all of you. The urge comes and goes to reply to him...so many things I'd like to say, but I know it isn't worth it. saturnsfall- That's exactly what my good friends and my mom said to me. I'm not going to talk to him. The hard thing is...I have to keep remembering those terrible words he spoke to me and remind myself that he has no respect for me. It's the first time he ever talked to me like that...so I think that's why it makes it harder. But, I fully understand that someone who is verbally abusive can be just as bad as someone physically abusive. Ty Wanabu- Agreed 100%. It would always go back to the same old ways because MOST people don't change. (I truly believe some people can, but not many). He has made it a habit to drive past my house everytime we broke up in the past. Well, last night I finally allowed a good male friend to stop by and visit with me (basically cut alot of ties with my friends for the jerk in the past- my mistake). So, I wonder if he drove by and saw the truck here. I'm thinking if he did, he might not contact me again, maybe he will...who knows (he hated this male friend...actually he hated all my friends, male or female). confused_2008- It is pathetic and it's lousy. 2 years with this guy and we were friends before we dated. As angry as I've gotten at him I could never be so crude.
Hersheys Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 So, I wonder if he drove by and saw the truck here. I'm thinking if he did, he might not contact me again, maybe he will...who knows Oh Glorydays please be strong enough to never reply or contact that guy ever again. He is disgusting. So what if he doesn't contact you again? You shouldn't want that kind of guy in your life. If you feel the urge to contact or reply to him just remind yourself of what he said to you. Be glad that he's shown to you his true colors. Now you know that the person your pining for is not that great after all and truly not worth your time and attention.
Frankasy Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 It looks as if a lot of people here are on no contact since last weekend and I guess I'm one of them too, since last Sunday. Anyways I'd have to agree with your mom and friends, he's just probably trying to get into your head, in fact I'd probably would have done the same. No contact is right way.
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