Dutch2008 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 My fiance and I have been together for 9 years and we have 2 boys together (4 and 3). Yesterday, he wanted me to jump in the shower with him, while we have both of our kids in the house! Who would be watching the kids? So I kinda blew him off and then he says "Oh, I should have known...you wont ever get crazy with me!" I of course roll my eyes and say "I'm not the crazy type" and he then says "Yeah I know". I then say " You sound so dissapointed" and he replies "Well, thats because I am". I dont know what to make of this. He should know by now, 9 years, that I am not the freaky, crazy, do things at the spur of the momment type person. He should also know that I am not going to leave my children without supervision, to go "do it" in the shower. What to you think he is trying to get at here?? I don't understand why he would be SO DISSAPOINTED that I am the same person (when it comes to sex) as I have always been. Granted it is a little less frequent since having children, but like I mentioned before I have never been like that. So I need help, what do you think he said this for? And what do you think he is meaning by all of this? Thanks in advance;)
gopher Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Sounds like he is looking to spice things up with you, that he wants to get his freak on with YOU, which is a good thing. He just picked the wrong timing with the kids being there... Are you open to new and different things with him?
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Surprise him by dropping the kids off at the grandparents house for a sleepover one weekend and make it up to him. You two can have loud sex and not worry about the kids. Go out to dinner, then come home and have a fun evening/night together.. your relationship needs this! That's HIS way of letting you know that he's feeling neglected and wants some intimacy.
tanbark813 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 What to you think he is trying to get at here?? He wants sex with you, particularly in the shower. So I need help, what do you think he said this for? He wanted sex with you, particularly in the shower. And what do you think he is meaning by all of this? He wants more sex with you and thinks that mixing it up (quite possibly in the shower) would be fun. Lastly, I know you said you're not the freaky, crazy type but I wouldn't exactly call sex in the shower "crazy".
sugar_and_spice Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 he may be feeling neglected. how is your sex life otherwise?
Lishy Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I think he was unreasonable to ask you to leave the kids unattended to have sex in a shower where you would not even be able to hear them and yet they could possibly hear you having sex I am guessing he wants a bit of excitement but has gone the wrong way about it! Talk to him and when you do you should tell him to communicate and not make you feel like a bore just because you care about your kids! Oh and for the record, I AM that kinda girl but I would never leave my young children alone to do it!!
Hi.P.O'Crit Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I know you say you're not the freaky type. But it doesn't really sound like it here. Yesterday, he wanted me to jump in the shower with him, while we have both of our kids in the house! Who would be watching the kids? So I kinda blew him off Sounds like had the kids not been there you would have jumped right in.
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