nana yaw II Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I'm in the process of changing my personality, since i know people who are dull get no dates. do most people go for men who are dull? when i am outgoing, would this improve my chances?
likestolaugh Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 naw. people don't like to be around fun people....
Prodigal Princess Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 when i am outgoing, would this improve my chances? Not if you're still ugly.
Author nana yaw II Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 Not if you're still ugly. ok. i don't see what i did to be insulted, but there you go....
dashing daisy Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Don't take it personally, I think it was just a rude joke. Why do you think you're dull? From what I can tell, all you are lacking is self-confidence...
crosswordfiend Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 actually, if you're dull it should be easier to find someone to relate to. lots of dull people out there.
Tomcat33 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I can't believe how many mean posts were made wow that was unecessary!! There are plenty horrible people who get dates so being dull should be no worse. Everyone is interesting in their own way, why do you think you are dull?
amaysngrace Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 You can't just change your personality, can you? I've never heard anybody say that before so I guess I never knew it could be done. How do you change your personality anyway? Seems a little phony to me.
Geishawhelk Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 nana yaw: a guy who has to prove himself all the time,has big dreams and stands for what he believes in. That definition comes from the Urban Dictionary. I think someone might be just trolling for sympathy...... Or just trolling, really.
lightning spades Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 okay, time for a serious answer. yes, being outgoing will drastically improve your chances. start living an interesting lifestyle and get yourself some confidence and you'll find that you'll be getting dates much easier. and yeah, changing your personality is totally possible. everybody does it. it's what naturally happens when we grow, learn more about the world, learn more about ourselves, and become better people. if you put more attention to it, it'll just accelerate the process, but i don't know anyone whose personality never changes. unfortunately, some people change for the worse.
prettybaby Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I don't think it's a matter of dull vs non-dull. I think it's mainly a matter of being comfortable with yourself and actually being with someone who matches your personality somewhat. I consider myself pretty fun and interesting, but I don't click with everyone. Some personalities just don't match with mine; we all face that at some point.
Kasan Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I'm in the process of changing my personality, since i know people who are dull get no dates. do most people go for men who are dull? when i am outgoing, would this improve my chances? You do realize that along with becoming more outgoing, you will need to change how you view people? No more disliking people for how they look? I know, I know, baby steps.
lovestruck818 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Honestly, call me shallow i don't care...if a guy is smoking hot and has a crappy personality, I would date him in a heartbeat. If he is the nicest guy but he isn't so great looking, not a chance. Truthfully, looks have more to do with it than personality...IMO.
lovestruck818 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I don't think it's a matter of dull vs non-dull. I think it's mainly a matter of being comfortable with yourself and actually being with someone who matches your personality somewhat. I consider myself pretty fun and interesting, but I don't click with everyone. Some personalities just don't match with mine; we all face that at some point. hate to say it....it's a matter of being good-looking vs. not good-looking.
crosswordfiend Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 hate to say it....it's a matter of being good-looking vs. not good-looking. this is harsh but i find it to be true. you can have the personality of a fish and have the ladies all over you if you have the right look. on the other hand, i'm noticing that many of the relationship issues that my friends run into arise because they start with finding someone hot and then trying to make it work.
prettybaby Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 hate to say it....it's a matter of being good-looking vs. not good-looking. That's BS. Lots of ugly guys out there who get plenty of girls. Why? Because they're self-confident and fun to be around with.
TwilightSky Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 That's BS. Lots of ugly guys out there who get plenty of girls. Why? Because they're self-confident and fun to be around with. I think some of the people that say "ugly guys can't get girls" are socially isolated. I see it ALL the time. Whether its down to luck, or personality, whatever it happens. I've had plenty of offers, but, if the girl just seems like a shallow b**** only interested in my looks (and you can tell some of them are just self-absorbed, really crappy in relationships) then I'll reject them. Seriously, bitchiness is a serious turn-off. I guess I'm one of the rare ones that can't get over their sense of entitlement. Yeah, I need to be attracted to that other person I'm with, but personality DOES matter. So, that just makes it even harder to find a girl I'm "compatible" with.
Author nana yaw II Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 You can't just change your personality, can you? I've never heard anybody say that before so I guess I never knew it could be done. How do you change your personality anyway? Seems a little phony to me. i think by changing how you think and how you react to things.
Author nana yaw II Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 So you're dull eh? What is dull? What qualities do you have that you can polish up? I think no matter what qualities you have, if you are confident and self assured any number of ladies will be attracted to you. dull is not being lively and outgoing.
lightning spades Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Girls are inherently less superficial than guys. If you're an ass ugly dude, you can still be landing tons of dates if you've got the confidence to pull it off.
Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Seriously, being a bit boring isn't much of a problem IF you're a genuine and kind person and you are somewhat intelligent. Boring could be a lifestyle or a way of expressing yourself or just the way you think. There are many ways to be boring, some of which can be changed. I like lively guys, but I'd much rather have someone shy, quiet and dependable than someone who's all show and no substance.
crosswordfiend Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 Girls are inherently less superficial than guys. If you're an ass ugly dude, you can still be landing tons of dates if you've got the confidence to pull it off. I disagree. I think girls are just as superficial. The distinction is that they are particular in a different way. You can be ugly but still have a set of features that a girl is looking for and be in.
lino Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I disagree. I think girls are just as superficial. The distinction is that they are particular in a different way. You can be ugly but still have a set of features that a girl is looking for and be in. agree. If a guy is really witty and funny or has money or some form of power he can make up for what he may lack in the looks department.
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