Loss 4 words Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 What a day..I got online about 3am this morning to check my email and whatnot and to my suprise, I had a message from my GF's baby's daddy's "fiance" if you can call her that...and low and behold I was informed that she had a "secret" myspace account depicting her as the future wife of her baby's daddy....yeah, i was FURIOUS at this point....she NEVER told me about it and to make it worse, she was wearing a piece of jewelry that i had given her for Christmas in the picture...and yes, the photos were the originals becasue they were the full size.....i didn't sleep at all.... before i get more into it...a lil back story-- She and the father of the kids split up about 2 years ago....and all of a sudden he's telling her that he's getting married and all that...and my GF can't stand his "wife" at all...she doesn't see how he really is at all...and my GF has tried to warn him...but she continues to not listen so she made a 'fake' profile to play games with her....along with telling her that they are still sleeping together and all that...i was there when she said it....so i know that it's a lie...but this whole other profile thing has got me heated....i told her i dont like the games on either side of the fence but she just doesn't know when to leave well enough alone... ok, back to the story....So i in turn created a fake profile to see if it really was her or if this other chick is just trying to mess with me....sure enough, it really IS my GF....it made me SOOOOO sick.....She says that she loves me yet feels it needed to play these games....I REALLY wanna believe her, but it's hard to do so...I almost called and said that it's over and not given her the time of day to explain...but that's out of my nature so i relented and gave her a shot to explain herself..... Im totally baffeled by this...I called her and she kinda admitied it...had to pry it outta her though...she claims she told me, but i know for a fact that she didnt...im mad at that fact and the fact that she would even play these stupid games anymore...we're not in HS anymore so let's act like adults about it...My GF hates her and doesnt want her to be with the BD, or around their kids.... I can say this with a heavy heart...if it doesn't quit like really soon, it's over...im not giving my life to someone who sits and plays games with other people even if they feel justified....cuz im the one in the middle of it all.... All the while, she just seems to be acting a lil bit out of character....just small stuff...like wierd texts and what not....maybe it's all a sign to get the heck outta dodge with this one and move on....maybe when she decides to grow up it might work....
curiousnycgirl Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 OK so let me see if I got this straight - your G/F's ex B/F's current G/F sent you an email saying your G/F has a secret myspace profile saying that she (your G/F) is engaged to her ex B/F. Is that correct? If so - then you confirmed it is really her, and she admits to having some warped need to play these games. Again if this is right - RUN FOREST RUN. Who needs that drama, get out while you can - she needs to grow up
You'reasian Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 .....She says that she loves me yet feels it needed to play these games....I REALLY wanna believe her, but it's hard to do so...I almost called and .. Love doesn't play games. Let her go.
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 OK so let me see if I got this straight - your G/F's ex B/F's current G/F sent you an email saying your G/F has a secret myspace profile saying that she (your G/F) is engaged to her ex B/F. Is that correct? If so - then you confirmed it is really her, and she admits to having some warped need to play these games. Again if this is right - RUN FOREST RUN. Who needs that drama, get out while you can - she needs to grow up Yes, you would be correct..it's a mouthful trying to explain... I truely don't get it....why the need to play games if she's "in love and happy with me"...it's got my blood pressure up and my anxiety in full swing...She does all this yet still wants to get a place together and have a ring on her finger...and we haven't been together 6 months.
malibustacydoll Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I agree with breaking up with her. She obviously still misses her ex or has some feelings otherwise she wouldn't still being involved with such drama. Sadly she is the one creating the drama. You do not need that.
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 I agree with breaking up with her. She obviously still misses her ex or has some feelings otherwise she wouldn't still being involved with such drama. Sadly she is the one creating the drama. You do not need that. We had talked about me playing games too with the "wife" and whatnot, but the more i think about it, them more I become a hypocrit then...not a the thing i ever want to be... I did email her back and basically told the "wife" that i knew about it and i wanted nothing to do with the 3 of them...it's their game and i won't partake...i like to think that im old enough to NOT need the games or DRAMA.....
malibustacydoll Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 If you're not living with her I would just tell her to come back and talk to you when the drama is done. Just ignore her for a few days or a week or so and take time to clear your head and let her think about it. If you do end up staying with her I would require her to delete that page and tell her not to him unless it is regarding the child they have together. I would also warn her if she does another stunt then it is over. I think that is more than fair of a warning. She was clearly toying around with an ex which isn't cool especially when you're with someone. She needs to make sure that she is over him-- it doesn't sound like she is.
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 If you're not living with her I would just tell her to come back and talk to you when the drama is done. Just ignore her for a few days or a week or so and take time to clear your head and let her think about it. If you do end up staying with her I would require her to delete that page and tell her not to him unless it is regarding the child they have together. I would also warn her if she does another stunt then it is over. I think that is more than fair of a warning. She was clearly toying around with an ex which isn't cool especially when you're with someone. She needs to make sure that she is over him-- it doesn't sound like she is. She says she is and that she is only toying around with him for the sake of hurting him the way he hurt her....yet he says that he always compares EVERY girl he's with to her...isn't that enough for ANY woman to know that they made that big of an impression on them ?? I'm not a female so i wouldn;t know....personally, i think it is.. If not for the kids, i'd DEMAND that she NEVER speak to him ever again, but i can't rightfully justify it at this point....even then she very rarely talks to him about the kids...its more of a "hey, how's it going....." type of thing....once again with the games...
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 If you're not living with her I would just tell her to come back and talk to you when the drama is done. Just ignore her for a few days or a week or so and take time to clear your head and let her think about it. If you do end up staying with her I would require her to delete that page and tell her not to him unless it is regarding the child they have together. I would also warn her if she does another stunt then it is over. I think that is more than fair of a warning. She was clearly toying around with an ex which isn't cool especially when you're with someone. She needs to make sure that she is over him-- it doesn't sound like she is. The more and more i think about it, the more I am so content with the fact about just giving her the choice, it's either me or it's the game...and yes, a warning will be issued because I dont need this garbage anymore. Either the page and all un-needed contact goes or I go...it's really a simple choice... We talked about it again tonight and for the most, all she could come up with is that "she loves me and want to move in SOON and get married" was the universal answer to some questions...that and the feeling like she's really trying to hide it now...but im not dumb...she says that she was IMing another friend but it doesn't take 5 minutes to do so...and then totally avoid the questions...or even statements for that matter...when questioned about if she was on myspace, she said she was...but she was on the "other" one...didn't seem to me to have a good reason to be if the "wife" doesn't get on everyday...that and she was being over-sweet for my tastes...it's like all she did was tell me she loves me casue she knows she messed up and think that i'll walk away.....it's just created more questions than answers...and i dont DARE bring it up becasue she always finds a way to turn it back on me...... I have half a mind to have NC for a few days to a week just to let us BOTH sort things out and determine where we both are and what we want for the future....she knows she hurt me and i told her I'll manage....have in the past just fine.
motive2002 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I knew someone that I was attracted to, and had a lot in common with, but I could see how manipulative and vindictave she was with other people. So despite how strongly attracted to her I was, the rest of the puzzle told me it was never going to work out.
Pacman Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 The fact that still wants her ex-bf to still hurt because he hurt her tells me that she still is not over her ex-bf. Everytime i get a new relationship i don't even think of my ex. My focus is on the new relationship instead of trying to "hurt" the ex-gf Oh and also shes immature. I'd say don't talk to her for a couple of weeks and tell her to figure out what she really wants
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