mm4184 Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 i've found myself posting more and more and i think it's helping haha. anyway, just wanted to see what you guys do to distract yourselves/move on/let go/keep busy so that we can all try different approaches we may not have before and see if it fits us. as for me, i've started going to the gym. turbo kickboxing class helps me release my feelings (i don't have that much anger but it still helps) and plus, it's good for us right? i try to listen to upbeat music. LS of course. as childish as it sounds, i bought a coloring book because one of my friends told me it's therapeutic for her to color because she focuses on that instead of anything else. i can't seem to read much anymore because i get so distracted by my thoughts but that's what i hate because i used to read all the time anything else?
Bluebird In My Heart Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Wouldn't it be cool to have a list of distractions here? I like that idea. A lot of it depends on what your personality is - do you like cooking? Gathering recipes, ingredients, making the meal is great - it's something that has a beginning, a middle, and an end - which I hear is v. psychologically healthy for us, when we are in "healing mode". Anything that has a beginning, a middle, and an end really helps us to feel accomplished. Try to come up with a list in your diary of ways different things to do. If there's a free newspaper in your area they often list all types of community events that you'd never know existed sometimes. Good luck in your search!
Author mm4184 Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 i should learn to cook more. maybe that will help. i'm watching tv and on the computer at the same time so that kind of helps. but not for long. and yes, a list of distractions would be great! i guess i can read through posts and see what helps. but feel free to post here so we can all gather them together!
Dumbledore Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Do you really have 42 posts? Wow, you are out of control! As addictions come, you have got it bad.
LiveandLearn Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 LS does help for those times you feel like you're just about to lose it. I've also found myself getting back into the things I used to enjoy, like sports, getting back into the local/indie music scene, and just being outdoors. Videogames help too I, too, get distracted by my thoughts when I try to read, but not so much when I'm reading spiritual/inspirational type books about life and whatnot; only if I'm reading novels or textbooks. I'm considering reactivating my gym membership as well. It'll give me something to do/a place to go when I have nothing else to do with my time. Plus, exercising releases endorphins
Crazy.S Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Lol I know the feeling. LS is addicting. Try reading some of the others sections if you haven't already. There are a lot of interesting topics. Working out is probably the best cure for anger. I take it out at the gym and it feels good. I have been working out seriously after my breakup and I am in the best shape of my life. I am glad I stuck with it.
RogueAC Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 i can't seem to read much anymore because i get so distracted by my thoughts but that's what i hate because i used to read all the time try audiobooks until you can focus your thoughts enough to read.
JamesM Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 You think you are addicted? Do a search of the members and see how many posts is on the high end. Some people who have been here a short time far outpost some of us who have been here much longer. Another thing to check is how many posts average per day a person posts. This will really tell you who is addicted to LS. You average about a half a post per day. There are some members who average almost 20 (yes, twenty) posts per day and that is over a few years. At least one member averages over thirty posts per day over a couple of years.
Author mm4184 Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 ok, thanks. haha. i thought i was getting up there since i felt like i was on LS all day yesterday! i finally went to work today after 2 weeks. and today, i'm being spontaneous and going on a mini-vacation with 2 of my friends. hopefully it helps to be away. although, i know my ex is away anyways for work. ugh, i keep thinking of what he is doing. i hate this! someone take him out of my brain please! hope everyone has a good weekend
JamesM Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 ok, thanks. haha. i thought i was getting up there since i felt like i was on LS all day yesterday! Ah, but then there are those who spend hours READING all of the posts! So your actual time may be greater than those who post alot.
shazam Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I too feel addicted to LS, and I really don’t think its healthy! These stories are depressing…I haven’t even posted my own story because its so damn sad. Im starting to feel like love never works out in the end! And while its comforting to know Im in good company, I feel like LS is making me dwell on it even more. I look at the people who have posted like 5 million times and I wonder, how can you move on if this is what you do all day? Im not judging though, and I think the support provided here is amazing. I also believe there is purpose in our pain, so if you can help others through your own experience, than it wasn’t totally pointless heartache…[/sIZE][/FONT]
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