GodofNietzsche Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Though I removed my ex on facebook and set my profile to private, I can still see her comments on mutual friends' walls. Today, she posted on some girls wall, joking about how she passed out in the VIP section of a club some nights ago. I remember one of the last times we talked, she bragged about not drinking so much any more (then 5 minutes later laughed about how she put herself in the hospital the weekend before for drinking too much. The doctor told her he never saw someone her size require so much iv fluid). What a liar. My friends are right. This girl will be dead in 5 years.
Crazy.S Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 Lol I don't know why she is bragging about that. I am sure no one is impressed. She is only fooling herself.
RogueAC Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I can still see her comments on mutual friends' walls. If you block her you won't see those comments.
Author GodofNietzsche Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 Well, at first I did block her, but on night I got drunk, unblocked her, and found that she had gone private. So, this was my only recourse to said drunken mistake. I was around her long enough to what she's like and that she's not a happy person. It just sucked that for so long, she had to %hit all over me to feel better about herself. And she still continued to contact me after she lost feelings, because she knew I'd put up with her bull****. I guess she'll find someone else to do it. I think she writes/says stuff like that and laughs, so she doesn't cry. If you were to pass out a club, so many people could take advantage of you. Her behavior has got to scare her. I remember once she said she wanted to be a trophy wife. When I heard that I thought "yeah, you could not drink for 9 months, and even if you could, god save that baby when she gets stressed out, and can't handle raising a child." Though, I guess if she's a trophy wife, she can hire someone else to do it for her.
teejsd2008 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 I am a firm believer that EXs use social networking sites to conduct indirect psychological warfare. She'll post on mutual friends pages and paste a collage of images with her and the girls clubbing and living it up, lap dances, flirtatious/sexy photos, etc... but inside they are empty and trying to project an image of moving on, etc... If you take this bait it will mess with your head because they want you to be hurt because they'll feel validated. Who doesn't want someone broken hearted over you, it's an ego boost, and yes very selfish, but it's human nature. I've talked to girlfriends that have admiteed feeling slightly hurt and botherd to see a guy they dumped move on, because it's a blow to their ego. Don't go on her page, and don't do the same thing by leaving comments, so she'll see them. Just avoid it, you're only going to hurt yourself more. I know it's hard, i've been there on those drunken nights staring at my i-phone in a club just to get a glimpse of any comments or her away status on aim. this is stalking, don't do it. you're way better off, she sounds like she's on a road to destruction let smack into a wall.
M3mphisSaint Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I know Facebook is what is slowing me down. If I weren't able to see it I think I would be much further out of the woods now. First relationship I've ever had where Myspace/Facebook was involved. We are all getting so connected it will be damn near impossible to not keep tabs in a few years.
smwhtshy Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 So, my story is kinda like yours...got dumped three (three!) years ago...have moved on, new person 100% better than the old one. But, I got a request to be added on her facebook over the weekend (?), like I say, we broke up three years ago. Isn't that odd..? So, I think no way am I going to do that, I will see something I don't want to see. But, I thought three years is a long time, she is trying to be friends..well, I accepted the request, and guess what, first thing I see is "in a relationship"...Dammit..! Why did I look? Why do I care...? I don't want her..how selfish is it of me to be bugged by this? Then I thought, hey its because for some reason, on some level, I wasn't right for her...and she found someone (maybe, who knows) that IS right for her. I've gotten beat out for jobs before, and had that same pang of rejection when I run into the person who got the job I wanted...and they may have had better accountiing skills, or better whatever..doesn't mean I was "bad", just means I wasn't "right". You've got to look at it that way if you can...its not about still wanting her, its about that feeling of somehow "not measuring up"...and the truth is (I hope), soon the rational thoughts will overcome and replace those self doubts and the pain of that old rejection..good luck man!
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