She still keeps in touch??

[The Young Son]

Hi everyone,

 

I'm new here and feel I need some advice.

 

I met a girl about 6 months ago while on an overseas trip. We had a little fling and decided to end it there. When we got back, I decided I wanted to contact her again. So we did and started talking everyday (she lives in another state). Over the next couple of months we grew very close. She came to see me for a few days and we decided to try a long-distance relationship. Everything was going wonderfully. We were talking everyday and organising dates to see each other again. Then about 5 weeks after she visited, she said she could no longer sustain the long-distance relationship. It was too hard on her and she said she needed to be with me constantly. Unfortunately neither of us were in a position to move to be with the other.

 

Because of my inexperience in relationships (she was first proper one) I freaked out and tried just about everything to get her to reconsider. In the end I embarrassed myself (at least I feel that way) and came on a little strong. She insisted that the relationship couldn't work unless one of us moved so we could make a go of it properly. She said we'll still talk and stay in touch. At the time she said that in a year or so one of us may be able to relocate and we could try then. After a couple of weeks I finally saw it from her perspective.

 

My problem is that I felt that I was in love with her and I told her as much. However she said she was nowhere near to that yet as she hadn't spent enough time with me for that feeling to grow. Fair enough. I decided to just leave her be as she said it weirded her out that I felt I was in love with her. Its been a month and half since then. I finally decided to get on with things and have made pretty good progress.

 

2 weeks ago I made a conscious decision not to text her and just try and do my usual stuff. However I did include her in a xmas text and new year text that I sent to all my friends, but nothing one-on-one. During these two weeks, she texted to ask how my xmas was and such. I responded and left it at that. Then this morning I got another one from her asking how I'm settling in (i just moved towns). The thing is, she never texted me in the morning before. I had to get out of bed to see my phone. Obviously she still wants to maintain contact and be friends. My question is whether she is still thinking we may have a future together. I mean, we could contact each other less personally thru Facebook as all friends do. But instead she chooses to text thus it feels more personal.

 

Just when I was getting the hang of doing my own thing and not relying on her being in my life, she texts me and I get all confused again. I still care for her but I realise there is no chance of a relationship at this point until further down the line. We have both agreed that we wouldn't pass up other opportunities if they came along. I don't want to cut all contact off with her because we parted on good terms and I value her as a friend. I just get all nervous when she contacts me and I feel I should contact her occasionally too, just in case she is still interested in pursuing something later on. Why would she still be texting me if she didn't feel there was something there?

 

I know this is a long post, but I need some advice. Any ideas?