forte Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 My girlfriend broke up with me the day after x-mas and since I've been mentally broken and feeling like I was worthless and on the edge of crying at any second. I had been spending as much time with friends as possible but nothing was helping. Leaving work today, I almost broke down in the elevator... it's been a tough couple weeks but I know many of you have been suffering for much longer and my thoughts go out to you. I've been on an on-line dating site and honestly the first couple dates suxed beyond belief.. it made me realize how good my ex was (czech republic model) and it actually made things worse. I had a date tonight and was complaining to my friend how I didn't want to go and was a millisecond from canceling. Well... I'm so happy I went b/c I met someone fantastic and she took my mind off my ex completely. We had a great date and I'm actually looking forward to seeing her again. Instead of going to sleep with the TV on, I'm going to sleep saying FU to my ex laughing constantly about all the stupid ***** I put up with. I may be on the rebound but tonight I'm laughing.. and happy.. and optimistic.. Anything is better than 'the feeling'. My advice to all is to get yourself out-there regardless if you feel like it b/c someone better will come along eventualy and you too will happily say FU to your ex b/c they don't deserve you. You are too good for them and it's only when they see you're 'happy' with someone else will they realize what they missed out on. I'm sure I'll be back here when she breaks up with me, lol, but until then..let's all join together for one big ex - FFFFFUUUU. I'm going to smile myself to sleep.
Lee725 Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Good for you Forte, i was picturing you lying there grinning from ear to ear :) Sleep well!
Author forte Posted January 8, 2009 Author Posted January 8, 2009 you've just forgotten what it feels like.. trust me. 36 hours later, I still feel great. Just the fact that my mind isn't solely focused on my ex is a revelation. I went from literally OCD'ing over her to... well.. some sense of normality. I still can't listen to songs that remind me of her but I found myself listening to new music, cranking it, and actually singing out loud for the 1st time in a while. While NC is obviously the only choice when talking to your ex, the only choice 'we' have is to to move on and find new love. Someone to take that cold b!tches place and look forward to a brighter future. The only trick now is to make sure and 'take it slow' b/c you don't want to mess things up with your 'new'. And it also feels good b/c it kinda feels like I'm getting revenge on my ex by liking someone else, lol. And what's the harm in getting a profile on one of the dating sites anyway? If anything, the hope alone of finding someone new helped me a lot. I know you don't feel like it... I know I didn't.. but I beg you all to at least try and see what happens. Hugs to everyone.
audrey_1 Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 36 hours later, I still feel great. Just the fact that my mind isn't solely focused on my ex is a revelation. I went from literally OCD'ing over her to... well.. some sense of normality. I still can't listen to songs that remind me of her but I found myself listening to new music, cranking it, and actually singing out loud for the 1st time in a while. While NC is obviously the only choice when talking to your ex, the only choice 'we' have is to to move on and find new love. Someone to take that cold b!tches place and look forward to a brighter future. The only trick now is to make sure and 'take it slow' b/c you don't want to mess things up with your 'new'. And it also feels good b/c it kinda feels like I'm getting revenge on my ex by liking someone else, lol. And what's the harm in getting a profile on one of the dating sites anyway? If anything, the hope alone of finding someone new helped me a lot. I know you don't feel like it... I know I didn't.. but I beg you all to at least try and see what happens. Hugs to everyone. Glad you're feeling better! I can relate; this morning I found myself cranking up the tunes and singing loudly, too. Then I realized it and thought, huh, I'm feeling pretty good today. Woot! Yesterday morning before work, I was sitting in the Starbuck's drive-thru and saw a HUGE, bright rainbow. It was off to the right, and I was floored! It helped brighten my spirits so much and made me smile at the possibilities for beauty when you least expect it. I've been getting a few good emails on a dating site lately, and it's made me feel a lot better, though I haven't met anyone IRL yet. When we get dumped, it's easy to fall into that stupid thinking pattern that no one wants us or we're not good enough. Feh! Plenty of fish in the sea, and sooner or later the right one will be caught or catch us! Cheers!
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