V.Vixen Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 I am going to be on vacation in Florida (I am in NJ), visiting my family. It will mostly be for rest and relaxation, but the nightlife in the town is supposed to be decent. I am shy when not with my friends, but I think this is the perfect opportunity to start going out alone and being totally independent. I just need tips on how to go about it, or ways to not feel awkward. I know that being from "out of town" is a good icebreaker. I am 26 years old, btw,
D-Lish Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 I just got back from vacationing alone in Florida over x-mas. I got my heart broken and just picked up and left x-mas behind this year. I don't think you'll have problems meeting people. My parents keep a condo in Florida and I was at the beach for 20minutes my first day before being approached by a nice dude that introduced me to all his friends. They were all local servers and I had a great time with them. I had a blast- spent some alone time on the beach, and had lots of people to go out with. There is just something about being on vacation that makes people do things they wouldn't normally do- like go out alone. You're a pretty girl- you'll get approached if you go to the beach or to a beach side bar. Not sure where you are going in Florida- Anywhere near Ft. Myers Beach?
Author V.Vixen Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 I will actually be in Naples, then Tampa. I know Naples has a cool downtown area, and I am meeting up with some friend in Tampa. It;s just SO out of my character to go out alone and meet people. I feel so awkward.
Author V.Vixen Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 BTW, D, I am really sorry about your relationship not working out. he seemed like a keeper. Going to FL was probably the best thing for you.
kashmir Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Sorry, I don't have any advice relevant for the thread, but... This is weird. I live in NJ and I'm going to Tampa for a week too on Friday. o_O
D-Lish Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 BTW, D, I am really sorry about your relationship not working out. he seemed like a keeper. Going to FL was probably the best thing for you. Thanks V! It was great to get away. Naples is 15min from Ft. Myers Beach- where most of the people I met hang out. They go to Naples a lot as well. I can hook you up with the people I met if you're open to that. They are cool and completely trustworthy... They live in my parents building. They play volleyball on the beach everyday and always have something going on at night. It's up to you- I can PM you with any info if you'd like. They range in age from 24-34.
Author V.Vixen Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 It;s all new to me because, even though I am usually the life of the (familiar) party, I am not one to go outside of my comfort zone... and I need to learn how! D, PM me with info. I don't want to say "Yes" For sure, but having options is awesome! thank you! Where ya hangin' in Tampa Kashmir?
Shygirl15 Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 lol! I think Kashmir should PM you as well with his *info* Have fun both of you. No advice on going out alone because I never do. Too scared!
kashmir Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Well, I'm unfortunately not there to vacation or party...just train for rowing. When you're there just look for me in the canal, lol. Anything away from NJ is a vacation though.
LoveLace Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 I am more than familiar with going places solo. I've had a lot of good times that way. If your at a club or what not, have a seat at the bar and just relax. Order a drink and smile and be friendly with the bartender...this way you appear approachable to someone who might notice you. If you catch the eye of a cute one, just smile and look away. It might take him a few minutes but usually it isn't long before he's talking to you. If not that, it seems I end up striking up friendly convo with somebody sooner or later, guy or girl. But until then, I basically just chill as though I"m waiting for somebody....play with my cell phone a couple times...look around the room...peak at the tv...sometimes I even stike up conversation with bartenders (if their not up to their ears in orders). You'd be surprised by how friendly the can be...they are pretty used to bar flies and such (not that you'll be labeled as that). You could even ask them for advice on what's cool to do around here? I visited Tampa and Orlando alone and had a blast. I was at an Applebee's 1 day (really waiting for a friend this time) and made about five friends between the bartender and other customers. Not necessarily people I'd click with as more, but they were all friendly is the point. Lastly just remember to be CAREFUL...if a guy buys you a drink then watch him do so...hate to sound like mommy but you don't wanna end up like one of them drugged chicks thrown in the ocean or something. Before deciding to stick with a new pal for the night, make sure you feel they are trustworthy at that point. If you feel like something's wrong -- go with that. Another good trick comes from having the freedom to talk to who EVER you want...so if you find yourself ready to move on, excuse yourself to the bathroom. Then relocate to a different spot where you might meet someone else. Or even to a different establishment all together. Not 100% of my lone excursions have come out smelling like roses, but many times I end up feeling fulfilled - and independent - because of them. I even visited Clearwater beach by myself, took a walk and vegged out in the sand, and it was an awesome day! Have fun!
Author V.Vixen Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 That sounds fabulous, and I know people who do this often, i just wish it wasn't so hard for me. I tend to freeze up from the anxiety of it and don't know how to keep a conversation going. It;s something I really want to break. I wish I wasn't so nervous talking to people I don't know IRL!
LoveLace Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 That sounds fabulous, and I know people who do this often, i just wish it wasn't so hard for me. I tend to freeze up from the anxiety of it and don't know how to keep a conversation going. It;s something I really want to break. I wish I wasn't so nervous talking to people I don't know IRL! Well that's hard; but all I can say is try not to worry about it; maybe have a drink before you go to relax a little. Plus if someone is bold enough to approach you, chances are they will carry most of the conversation...but if they dont see you responding they will lose interest...so try to keep smiling and ask questions if you get the opportunity.
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