WillWondersEverSeek Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Hi, I am new here, and wondering if anyone can help me decipher my dilema? Here is my story.I was engaged to a scorpo last christmas. Years back it was love at first sight for him but we didnt meet each other.. For me he was a man of potential. Years later we were introduced to each other. Lived together he popped the question. Etc In each and every relationship everyone has issues they need to deal with on their own. I understand this. But Nov 25 /08 My scorpion man came home and said he was not happy he was going to move to his dads. But 2 days prior to all this he came home and spoke of all his love for me. Came home packed his belongings but left a few things behind, me I had a canary and asked and yelled a little for I wanted answers to what was and or had gone wrong. He said nothing just gave me silent treatment and even still now. My cell phone is under his name due to a bankruptcy years ago. He texted me and asked if I could disconnect the phone but keep the same phone number that I have. I checked into it and I cant keep the same number and I told him go ahead and disconnect me. Well now my cell phone is still connected. The silence is driving me bizerk. I told him 2 weeks ago on a text I forgive him, love him and wished him a merry christmas. He has not responded back. So now my questions why do men not answer or tell us what is and or went wrong in the relationship? How long is this stupid silent treatment go on for? He said nothing to me, I mean if he would say he hated me, or I was a bitc etc but nothing. How long should I wait to here back from him? Why would he not disconnect my cell phone? Why does he still have some of his belongings here? What do I do, is it best to lick my wounds and be left in silence, do I deserve the right to know what has gone wrong out of respect? Lost dazed and confused. Thank you
wuggle Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Never trust a scorpio, they play way too many games. The only way to keep one is to treat them like s**t and as though you don't care :rolleyes:, but seriosly it sounds like he may be playing games leaving stuff so he can come back, if a man wanted to truly break things off he would probably have taken everything. You could try playing disinterested yourself (a dangerous game) or just think good riddance and get someone else who treats you as a responsible adult and talks to you.
BCCA Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Trust me, its not just men, and its not just Scorpio's. I had an ex who was a Capricorn that was the worst at not saying anything, ever. She did the same song and dance to me, "I love you so much" on day, "Im not happy" the next. No explination, no discussion, no interest in talking things out. You shouldnt wait to hear back from him. He left, its really his loss, and you can expect that if he did come back, you would be in the same spot again someday. Why does he still have belongings there? Because to him, its not that important to get them right now, and he thinks you should just happily store them indefinitely. Want to know what I did? Packed all my ex's stuff up, and shipped it to her parents house. Everything, neatly in a box. She never said thank you. Consider it a done deal. No answers hes going to give you are going to do anything but create more questions. Respect has nothing to do with it, when someone leaves you, they dont feel the obligation to explain their actions to you anymore. Even though it sucks, you'll probably never know for sure, and it doesnt matter anyway. He didnt value what he had enough to stick around, too bad for him. Wash your hands of this guy. Flaky behavior is usually a personality trait.
BCCA Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Oh, I know. Beleive me, I'm not yet convinced its my ex's loss either, but it really is. Being single is better than feeling like crap and worrying about whether someone is going to leave me...again!
EmperorR Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Oh, I know. Beleive me, I'm not yet convinced its my ex's loss either, but it really is. Being single is better than feeling like crap and worrying about whether someone is going to leave me...again! Cosign 110% Love is not suppose to be so stressful always wondering if your going to get burnt again.
Author WillWondersEverSeek Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 Thank you all for your opinions thoughts, and suggestions.I will absorb what each all have said. Its tough, this nagging gut wrenching expereince of ones silence. To me its not right. For I wouldnt wish this emotion on anyone not even an enemy. Why are people the way they are at times? What ever happened to respect? Morals and beliefs of what is right compared to doing the wrong? I at least can sleep at night, for I know I did nothing wrong. I appreciate all the advice given. Thank you again
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