stampdaddy Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 gosh, after peaking around for the last few months and seeing countless: 'I suggest you go read Stampdaddy's posts" or "do you want to become Stampdaddy?" I have to laugh (which is good) Just a quick update: I AM HEALED! This has NOTHING to do with her at all, it is ALL about ME! The way "I" see it is that I, the man, couldnt fix it myself, so God stepped in and kicked me in the hiney (now, remember, this MY story and how I see things in MY life). 4 1/2 years ago, I made a choice, a choice to walk a different path that I was supposed to for my life. I manipulated my thoughts and beliefs AND my relationship with GOD. Now how do you do that and get away with it? YOU DON'T! God would have NEVER wanted me to be having an affair. I would have NEVER been able to show up one day with her hand in mine and saying, "OK big boy, I am ready to walk with you again..." But all that time, 4 plus years, I tried. God had enough. Now I see it clearer than ANYTHING. Again, this has NOTHING to do with her, and for that, I am glad, and can only hope and pray that she too, can find her way back to the path she should have been on all along. AND, for all of you that have been referred to me, good luck.. I will NEVER advise you on what to do for your life, or say, "look how I wound up", rather, I would like to say, "FIND YOUR PATH, the one you are SUPPOSED to be on" SD 1
Die Hard Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 gosh, after peaking around for the last few months and seeing countless: 'I suggest you go read Stampdaddy's posts" or "do you want to become Stampdaddy?" I have to laugh (which is good) Just a quick update: I AM HEALED! This has NOTHING to do with her at all, it is ALL about ME! The way "I" see it is that I, the man, couldnt fix it myself, so God stepped in and kicked me in the hiney (now, remember, this MY story and how I see things in MY life). 4 1/2 years ago, I made a choice, a choice to walk a different path that I was supposed to for my life. I manipulated my thoughts and beliefs AND my relationship with GOD. Now how do you do that and get away with it? YOU DON'T! God would have NEVER wanted me to be having an affair. I would have NEVER been able to show up one day with her hand in mine and saying, "OK big boy, I am ready to walk with you again..." But all that time, 4 plus years, I tried. God had enough. Now I see it clearer than ANYTHING. Again, this has NOTHING to do with her, and for that, I am glad, and can only hope and pray that she too, can find her way back to the path she should have been on all along. AND, for all of you that have been referred to me, good luck.. I will NEVER advise you on what to do for your life, or say, "look how I wound up", rather, I would like to say, "FIND YOUR PATH, the one you are SUPPOSED to be on" SDMan it's really nice to log in and find a post like this! Sure sounds like you got your act together in a big way. I don't mention it here much but I too leaned on God throughout my ordeal. Just like you say, there was NO WAY he'd have approved and there was NO WAY I was in an affair because that's where he wanted me. Like you, I went astray. But always remember the saying "there is more joy in heaven for one that was lost and now is found, than for one who was never lost at all".. well something like that, but you get my drift. I'm sure you're also finding out there is life AFTER the one we thought was our soul-mate. And it only gets better. Congrats Stamps!!! You have your life back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author stampdaddy Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 Man it's really nice to log in and find a post like this! Sure sounds like you got your act together in a big way. I don't mention it here much but I too leaned on God throughout my ordeal. Just like you say, there was NO WAY he'd have approved and there was NO WAY I was in an affair because that's where he wanted me. Like you, I went astray. But always remember the saying "there is more joy in heaven for one that was lost and now is found, than for one who was never lost at all".. well something like that, but you get my drift. I'm sure you're also finding out there is life AFTER the one we thought was our soul-mate. And it only gets better. Congrats Stamps!!! You have your life back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, THANKS.. While I havent and have no interest yet in finding out that there is life after her, I have the faith that MY PATH will be a happy one, whatever that tends to mean.. And yes, I DO have my life back, and even though there is ice on the ground here and it is like 20, it feels like Spring!
Die Hard Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 And yes, I DO have my life back, and even though there is ice on the ground here and it is like 20, it feels like Spring!Damn right baby, damn right! It's 38 here so feeling a tad more like spring than 20 but I don't care if it's 10 below, it's still springtime in my heart! You have a good life Stamps and don't be a stranger! This forum section could use your wisdom from time to time!
quankanne Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 preach on, brother stampy! (it's always amazing what a bit of time and distance can do to lift the fog from our brains, isn't it?) q.
bentnotbroken Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Hey Stamp, it's almost like you had these covers on your eyes and then all of a sudden the fell off and you go .......damn did I do that? It's like this you lost 25 of excess anything( I like to equate it to crap) and you feel so free and lighter. I couldn't believe it when I got slapped by God and my vision cleared. Blessings. 1
wildsoul Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 What a witty title for your post! I don't know your story well, but I like the turning point. Although I'm not religious at all, I pray and try to listen to God. The best changes in my current relationship have happened when I've turned it over to God to "do what you will with it." I know it sounds cliche, but "let go and let god" really works. Your willingess will be rewarded. Betcha God brings you a MUCH better partner soon.
Author stampdaddy Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 What a witty title for your post! I don't know your story well, but I like the turning point. Although I'm not religious at all, I pray and try to listen to God. The best changes in my current relationship have happened when I've turned it over to God to "do what you will with it." I know it sounds cliche, but "let go and let god" really works. Your willingess will be rewarded. Betcha God brings you a MUCH better partner soon. Well, the funny thing is that I did'nt catch that until your post.. I was thinking more of the guy from the movie Old School, honest to God.. ok enough :laugh: Anyway, my willingness has been rewarded already because He did bring me a MUCH better partner: HIM But it is in the same way you look at it, a "personal relationship" and I did preface that at the beginning of this post, so no fears LS'ers. I won't become Pastor Stampdaddy
bentnotbroken Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Well, the funny thing is that I did'nt catch that until your post.. I was thinking more of the guy from the movie Old School, honest to God.. ok enough :laugh: Anyway, my willingness has been rewarded already because He did bring me a MUCH better partner: HIM But it is in the same way you look at it, a "personal relationship" and I did preface that at the beginning of this post, so no fears LS'ers. I won't become Pastor Stampdaddy He is the best partner. I wish I had sought him out so much sooner than I did. So much pain in my life could have been avoided.
Myusername Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Stampdaddy I don't know you at all, but thank you for your post. I have stayed away from God talk and Christ, higher power because I don't want anyone I know finding me out on this site. But I will say BRAVO and congratulations to you. My higher power, for lack of a better word, is what convinced me to not let an old affair continue. I believe that what actually led to me my God was the guilt, remorse and disgust in my heart for being with a married man the effects this would or will have on her, regardless of what she finds out, or thinks. My biggest issue was in my grief and disgust for what I did not HER, not with him. I have my own deep grief and regret for many things but I could not get over the fact that someone elses husband spent time with me in a way he should not. It was not often but it was deeply intense. Anyway, I did not want to get into my novela, yet to say thank you for posting this thread. I believe that without faith in something other than me, I would not have the power to do the right thing half as often as I do. I begged God for my forgiveness in this and although that seems like the tip of the iceberg, knowing you want to change and not repeat mistakes and telling someone (higher power) out loud, helps make it easier I think. Who knows really. God bless and I am delighted to hear you have found some peace and purpose. MUN
Confused4Now Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Amen brother!!!! Finally you said something I totally agree with. I pray I can be where you are at soon...... and I'm the guy everyone tells me look at Stampdaddy's story. You take care brother its nice to hear from you again....
frannie Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Glad to hear that things are working out for you, stamp
allbetternow Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Big hugs, Stamp. I'm so happy for you. Its all a huge lie
Meaplus3 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Its all a huge lie If you don't mind me asking.. how is this suppose to be of any help or support to Stampdaddy? Stamp, I'm glad to hear your doing well. It was only a matter of time for things to turn around for you. Keep up the good work. Hugs. Mea:)
bentnotbroken Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Its all a huge lie Your statement confuses me. ??????
GorillaTheater Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I'm happy for you, Stamp. I'm also reminded of the fact that many of us, myself included, have to stray off the path and suffer some consequences before we get the "light bulb" moment. I've always had to learn the hard way; I wouldn't recommend it but I do tend to remember those hard lessons. God allows us to fall down and to suffer consequences, but He's always there to pick us up and dust us off.
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