BlueHarvest Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Is there a difference between dating and being boyfriend/girlfriend? The reason I ask is because I'm currently in a 2-3 month relationship with a girl who I really like. We've been intimate, but no sex. We've hung out at each others places. (She lives with her parents however). Her parents like me, she's met my parents. We had an excellent holiday. Everything is fine. Yet I feel kind of perturbed that we haven't solidified our relationship. I don't know what it is. Maybe it's the fact that on Facebook we are both listed as single still. Maybe it's the fact that I'm just a shy guy. Regardless, I want to just be simple and straightfoward with her. I've been thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend....is this right? I mean I know she isn't seeing anyone else, I'm dating her exlusively and while I don't know 100% sure that she isn't seeing anyone else either, it just isn't in her personality to do so. Under those circumstances I shouldn't even need to ask her, I should just let our relationship flow right? I'm just a wee bit confused, I was going to ask her ON valentine's day but I figured that would be a bit cliché as well as provide too much pressure for her to say yes. So then I figured asking after V-Day would be too long, nearly 4 months of dating. So I'm left with one option really, ask her sometime before February. My question to you LS'ers is this. SHOULD I ask her? If so....should I ask her before/during/after V-Day? And if yes to all that. How do I ask her without offending her or what not? Advice is appreciated.
dreamergrl Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I think 2-3 months of dating is a fine point to see where you stand with her. Just tell her how you feel, that you don't have a desire to see anyone else, and you'd like for her to be your girlfriend. I think doing it on V-day would be rather romantic
Author BlueHarvest Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 Thanks dreamrgrl. Just for statistic purposes how old are you? Anyone else care to comment?
mindbender33 Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Have you told her you love her yet? do you love her? Thai kinda relates to my current question on the site. Some girls dont want to be intamante with someone unless they know your in love with them. but dont say it unless you really mean it. I am kinda in a simalar situation. see my thread "should i tell her i love her yet". I never say it unless I really mean it. Dont just say it to try to get in her pants. Im 36 and ive only told that to 2 girls
dreamergrl Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Thanks dreamrgrl. Just for statistic purposes how old are you? Anyone else care to comment? I'm 27 years old
burningashes Posted January 8, 2009 Posted January 8, 2009 I'll be 25 soon, and I'm dating a 28 year old guy. I really believe that things like this should be talked about. Never, never assume that the other person is on the same page as you! It doesn't matter whether you ask her on Valentine's day or before/after that day, it matters that you make it a special occasion You could say something along the lines of, "Do you want to be with me?" "You are a special person and I want to be exclusive with you" etc. You can read up my threads, I went through a similar situation, except that my bf put me on the spot to ask him out You can use the advice the others gave me regarding the exclusive talk
Author BlueHarvest Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 I'll be 25 soon, and I'm dating a 28 year old guy. I really believe that things like this should be talked about. Never, never assume that the other person is on the same page as you! It doesn't matter whether you ask her on Valentine's day or before/after that day, it matters that you make it a special occasion You could say something along the lines of, "Do you want to be with me?" "You are a special person and I want to be exclusive with you" etc. You can read up my threads, I went through a similar situation, except that my bf put me on the spot to ask him out You can use the advice the others gave me regarding the exclusive talk Thanks....uh which thread would you be referring to though? Which topic of yours?
kitkat826 Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I say go for it - ask her! I wouldn't even necessarily wait until V-Day...if you do it before the month is out, or in the beginning of February then V-Day will still be special.
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