Heartbreak Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Ok I'll try to make this short: We have a long distance relationship. I broke it off because I thought she was cheating but then I thought I may be wrong so I tried to get back. She said no. I begged and groveled. She still said no. Then I realized I was probably right. We had one more conversation and it got nasty nasty nasty on the phone and text. I then threw in the towel, wished her all the best and went NC. 3 wks to the day she emailed me happy new year and xxxx, etc. I emailed back wished her all the best in 2009 and that was that. It's been 1 more week now and what should I do? I'm not even sure if I want her back because she definetely lied to me and most likely cheated. She was/is definetely with some guy now but she told her friend they were just "friends" and nothing serious. Is she trying to reopen communication? Or just being friendly? Or just seeing if I'm still sweating her?
Weezy Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 She cheated.. she's done.. It's that simple in my book. Plus, the power is all messed up if she can cheat and you'll take her back..
samspade Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Agree with Weezy. Not worth your time anymore, she cheated, or at the very least found a new branch to swing on before letting go of the old one. She's someone else's problem now.
BackonTrack2 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 she's physco, be happy you didn't marry her + you guys were long distance anyway.. find someone local
Author Heartbreak Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 ok i guess you guys are right and everyone told me the same thing. Do I bother being friendly with her? I have when she emailed me because i didn't want to seem bitter or that I can't go on without her (since I was groveling and lost all my self-respect before). But more than that, I don't know if I should talk to her anymore at all. I was really in love with her but what's the point i guess? When she emailed me it brought back old ****ty feelings anyway it's not healthy. You agree or what?
samspade Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Do I bother being friendly with her? I have when she emailed me because i didn't want to seem bitter or that I can't go on without her (since I was groveling and lost all my self-respect before). Just stop talking to her. You won't seem bitter or that you can't go on without her....you will only seem indifferent. Silence and indifference are the most powerful allies you have. I'd only suggest being friendly if you can TRULY handle being friends - sounds like you can't, so move on.
tommiw Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Just stop talking to her. You won't seem bitter or that you can't go on without her....you will only seem indifferent. Silence and indifference are the most powerful allies you have. I'd only suggest being friendly if you can TRULY handle being friends - sounds like you can't, so move on. Exactly, she only contacted you because she wanted to be friendly. She didn't say anything about coming back or etc. So leave her alone and maybe one day she'll realise what she did.
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