hoartiosans Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I'm worried now, I don't know if I should be telling you guys, but I'm scared...All you guys keep saying I didn't really have much of a relationship, it was only a month, and I agree. I'm probably just scaring myself, but I did some research online, and I'm worried I may have a psychological disorder (I researched this one called love addiction) I hardly knew this girl, and I feel like I'm dying, I've told myself over and over, it was hardly a relationship, but somehow I fell in love...now I've had pretty bad depression the last 3 weeks (only 13 days less than we were together), after a couple months of euphoria with this girl. I tell myself, I can be happier with someone else, I believe I can be, I want to move on, but for some reason, I can't. I don't know if I am overreacting to my first relationship, or if maybe I have some sort of disorder like I fear, the only reason I feel that way, is I've fallen in "love" (what was really more of an irrepressible caring for a girl I had a crush on), with every girl I've ever liked, I've immediately jump to visions of marriage and being together forever...I thought I was just immature then, but I even had those thoughts about my ex, the first girl I really liked in 4 years. I'm just scared, that I'm screwed up, and I don't want to feel this crappy anymore. I know my depression over a girl I only knew for a couple of months, is irrational, and stupid (DSM-IV Tom has helped me realize that more than any)...I don't want to jump to conclusions, so what do you guys think? Am I Psychologically Off, or just romantically inexperienced? I'm starting to scare myself...
Joker77 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I'm worried now, I don't know if I should be telling you guys, but I'm scared...All you guys keep saying I didn't really have much of a relationship, it was only a month, and I agree. I'm probably just scaring myself, but I did some research online, and I'm worried I may have a psychological disorder (I researched this one called love addiction) I hardly knew this girl, and I feel like I'm dying, I've told myself over and over, it was hardly a relationship, but somehow I fell in love...now I've had pretty bad depression the last 3 weeks (only 13 days less than we were together), after a couple months of euphoria with this girl. I tell myself, I can be happier with someone else, I believe I can be, I want to move on, but for some reason, I can't. I don't know if I am overreacting to my first relationship, or if maybe I have some sort of disorder like I fear, the only reason I feel that way, is I've fallen in "love" (what was really more of an irrepressible caring for a girl I had a crush on), with every girl I've ever liked, I've immediately jump to visions of marriage and being together forever...I thought I was just immature then, but I even had those thoughts about my ex, the first girl I really liked in 4 years. I'm just scared, that I'm screwed up, and I don't want to feel this crappy anymore. I know my depression over a girl I only knew for a couple of months, is irrational, and stupid (DSM-IV Tom has helped me realize that more than any)...I don't want to jump to conclusions, so what do you guys think? Am I Psychologically Off, or just romantically inexperienced? I'm starting to scare myself... Dude, Relax. I'll never forget the time I was 17 years old and it was the first girl I had ever actually dated more than once. We went out a total of two weeks. She broke up with me and I was freaking devastated. I had no idea about anything in regards to a relationship. I completely lost it. I drove by her house just about every day for weeks after it. I was a complete basketcase. I eventually got over it and now I just deal with break ups. Yeah, I get depressed if it is someone I care about, but I just learn to live with it and try and improve myself. I know a person who actually will appreciate me for me without having to try and change me is around out there.
Riffmeister General Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 It's pretty irrelevant how long you'd been seeing this girl, or how irrational or 'stupid' it all sounds. What matters is how it's affected you. I think inexperience probably has quite a lot to do with it! It's scary, this relationship business! You're reacting in a way that a million people will be reacting RIGHT NOW, never mind have reacted in the past! What do you think we're all here for?! Ok, you HAVE to stop self-diagnosing. If it were that easy, there'd be no need for 6 years of training. As Lewis Black once said "There was a 32 page article on diabetes, and I read every page. And when I'd finished, I had diabetes." It's easy to read a bunch of symptoms and convince ourselves we've got it. When doing that becomes an obsession, it's hypercondria! Do you have a serious mental health issue? I've got a degree in psychology and I'm a year into a PhD, and there's NO WAY I'd attempt a diagnosis of any serious psychological disorders based on what you write in a forum. It'd most likely turn out inaccurate. If you're really worried, the best thing you can do is talk to a counsellor. You may find free youth counselling services in your local neighbourhood who can really help, and if they suspect your symptoms are indicative of a more serious problem, they can refer you to a specialist (I'm a fan of cognitive behavioural therapy myself, but you pays ya money and takes ya choice I guess!)
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