toogood4u7 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I need some advice, my ex bf and I have been broken up for around 9 months now. He had a new gf for 3 months until just recently. He saw me out around 4 weeks ago and has tried to remain in contact with me ever since. Ill admit I did talk to him but I quickly told him I could not continue talking to him while he was with someone else. After I said that he called and asked to speak with me he told me that he broke up with his gf, bc ever since he saw me that night he couldnt stop thinking of me and felt that he was wasting his time with this girl if all he could think of was me. He also said that he missed me and he missed the way things were. At first I thought he might want to try again, but what made me think twice is that he also said he wants to be alone right now because he wants to get his life in order. I never once during this conversation said anything about us being together again. He was the one who kept bringing it up. He said he wants to get together as friends and hangout. Im just not sure what to think of this. I know I should run the other way but it just seems to me for the first time in so long he really seemed sincere and that he does miss me. I know its sounds crazy but I just feel like theres stills something between us. I just dont know why any guy would feel the need to make things right with his ex. Its like as soon as I told him to stop talking to me he wanted me even more. If he really didnt care wouldnt he have been happy that I said that and just went on with his life. I would just like to know what your opinions are on this, sorry for the long post.
openbook08 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 who broke up with who? and how soon after breakup was he with new girl?
Author toogood4u7 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Posted January 6, 2009 he broke up with me in april, and he started dating this girl in im guessing September
openbook08 Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 hmmm... do you know for certain that he broke up with the the new girlf? or is there a possibility she may have ended it around the time he conveniently started pursuing an interest in you again? (or any developments since?) sorry took so long to get back to you
BCCA Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 Everyone wants what they cant have. I went through months of this stuff with my last ex. She didnt want to lose me, but 'needed to be alone'. So, I finally asked her, "since you want to be alone, if you met some awesome new guy in a few weeks, youre not going to date him right?" She wouldnt answer...because its BS. If he wanted to be alone, he wouldnt be calling you. He wants to have his cake and eat it, too, and as was mentioned, he might have just gotten dumped himself. Whenever I get dumped, I think of the last ex I broke up with, and wonder what theyre doing. I dont want to go out looking for another gf, and an ex is so convenient. You can skip all the prelim stuff, and just get to being yourself. Doesnt mean you want them back, though. Trust me, if he wanted to work things out, you wouldnt have to wonder. I think hes giving you vague answers and such because he doesnt want to lose you completely, but doesnt want to be with you either. Do yourself a favor and dont sleep with him. Even as a guy, I've felt so used when I was just good for sex.
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