Prim&proper Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 It's been 3 weeks after the breakup (for some reason I thought it was four) and i have not had a desire to contact him until today. Today, it seems incredibly hard not to contact him. So to distract myself, I want to throw out a question of what YOU do when you feel the need to contact your ex? Maybe that will help some of us itching to make contact.
RM0123 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I am not sure I have the answer because I am freaking out right now wanting to contact my ex. I want to yell and scream at him and ask him why he couldn't just wait until after our vacation! Especially if he said he still loves me and is doing what is best for me. Well, I guess the only thing we can do is vent on here and try to avoid picking up the phone or composing that email.
starzphalling Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 well lets see here....i... come here and yell clean read lay in my bed watching a horribly depressing movie crying and asking myself why he hasn't called listen to exceptionally loud angry music listen to exceptionally loud depressing music play hours of internet sudoku till my brain is numb um.... i don't know i think i've run out..... yup, definately out for now...
belladonna Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I read other people's stories here on LS and before I know time has gone by quickly. I also listen to music, I've been hooked on Queens of the Stone Age and The Cure. And what helps the best is if I call up a friend instead, see if we can go for coffee or a beer. It also helps if you tell yourself to put it off another week to contact, and by then maybe you'll feel differently.
EmperorR Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 leave your phone at home, go out for a walk fresh air to the coffee shop sit down read a chapter of your book until your urge is over go back home. Watch a movie, take teh sim card out of your phone lol.
Goatsbreath Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I usually end up breaking it.......sigh haha, i think im crazy
BikerBeagle Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I fought this on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and NYE, had the emails written and ready to send ...but I ended up posting it in the "coping" forum here under "post here instead of your ex" ...it helped
Helioz Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 hell i wish i even had her number. I deleted it moments after she dumped me. I'd have to ask one of her friends to give me her number and there's no way in hell iam talking to those people.
Ezekiel1337 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 I couldnt say... literally the longest ive gone with NC with the ex, is exactly 24 hours. That was hard enough. Everything reminds me of her... 3 1/2 years. There is not one part of town we havnt been to, or a commercial i didnt see with her. Not a game that i havnt played with her. Im getting so depressed... im starting to drink to much. I dont recommend it.
againstallodds Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Go workout until you're tired and go to bed. You won't think about her and you'll get in shape too. Kill two birds with one stone.
openbook08 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 come to LSorder lots appropriate books on amazonmake plans to visit friends i havent seen in a whilego for a walkgo to gym"window shop" asosactually purchase from asos listen to music, very loud & sing at top of my voice in key of flat ddrive (see above for extra fun!!)visit some family, esp. my younger relativeswrite nice letters/cards to all my friends who've been angels since the break upsometimes ... ... wine!!(back to the v v early days to help me sleep - oh yeah you must handover fone to trusted relative/friend before you embark on this encounter!! - not advocating alcohol consumption, just repeating what i did)learn to cook a new recipe (cheese on toast/beans on toast/sour cream & onion pringles on toast...hey!...im adventurous)FINALLY find a messy room, lots of nooks n crannies, take out your sim and fling the ***** out of it (you should prob. put fireguard up before doin this) by the time you find it youll realise he/she really isnt worth 3years of dead spiders down the back of the couch!!
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 come to LSorder lots appropriate books on amazonmake plans to visit friends i havent seen in a whilego for a walkgo to gym"window shop" asosactually purchase from asos listen to music, very loud & sing at top of my voice in key of flat ddrive (see above for extra fun!!)visit some family, esp. my younger relativeswrite nice letters/cards to all my friends who've been angels since the break upsometimes ... ... wine!!(back to the v v early days to help me sleep - oh yeah you must handover fone to trusted relative/friend before you embark on this encounter!! - not advocating alcohol consumption, just repeating what i did)learn to cook a new recipe (cheese on toast/beans on toast/sour cream & onion pringles on toast...hey!...im adventurous)FINALLY find a messy room, lots of nooks n crannies, take out your sim and fling the ***** out of it (you should prob. put fireguard up before doin this) by the time you find it youll realise he/she really isnt worth 3years of dead spiders down the back of the couch!! DON"T do the wine bit......................if you find it makes you weepy in anyway, like me! bad experiences with wine lately, making a fool out of myself by becoming a shniffling heap.............in public. do not touch wine. vodka is way better!!!
openbook08 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 ha ha dont worry!! when i say early days i literally meant the day it happened!! and i was at home in bed & my mam had my fone! i was well protected. made up with vodka recently too , we'd been apart for a few years...actually most of the 5years with him! now theres a coincidence!! ha ha
starzphalling Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 actually, i can feel it welling up inside me that the NC might be getting easier, im starting to get irritated with him because he hasn't tried to contact me we're both hard headed....we'll probably never have another chance because "well i won't call her till she calls me" and me... "i won't call him till he calls me" lol...wow i can't believe i just realized that. but then again i say this one minute and will be back in 10 begging for you guys to give me a reason not to call... but i'll add that to my list get irritated that they haven't contacted you, and make it a game of who can hold out longer....im sick in the head
Trialbyfire Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 learn to cook a new recipe (cheese on toast/beans on toast/sour cream & onion pringles on toast...hey!...im adventurous) Guaranteed, that will cure you of ever wanting to break NC again!
openbook08 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 indeed!! youll be too busy feelin nauseous to think of anything else!!
alwayssme Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 i write on a journal or call up my best friends and talk to them...
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