JamesM Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I hate to harp on this point but really, I don't think it's the porn. It's not one or the other when it comes to porn or sex. A healthy relationship can certainly have both. Here is why I disagree (some points gleaned from another thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t175164/).... 1. He watches porn at work despite the obvious risk.. 2. He has to pay porn even if there is not money for something else. 3. He has lied about his porn use to gf even though she accepts it. 4. His GF is willing to role play the porn, but he is not. 5. He has no interest in real sex yet watches porn daily and more. 6. He keeps a computer in his bathroom to "watch music videos." 7. He won't watch his gf undress yet will watch porn many times a day. 8. He says he's not a sexual person yet has lots of porn. To me that speaks of someone who needs porn to get aroused. He looks at his GF not as someone to have intimate relations with because he views sex as a non-loving act which is for his fulfillment. Does this apply to every guy who has a porn collection? Does it appear to apply to THIS guy? IMO yes.
Enema Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 I agree with JamesM here. I'm usually one of the most vocal supporters of porn, except in the case where the porn use is harmful to yourself or your relationship. This guy has clearly gone way past what is normal and healthy.
El Scorpio Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 What does it matter all the new porn sucks anyway. Same ol' typical blond chick or latina or generic asian in crystal clear HD clearly not actually turned on but just going through the motions, all smiling and laughing like they're out on a friday night.. I miss vhs with the distortions on top of the screen and having to FF and see them move at 3x speed to get to the good part..
Author polola303 Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 To me that speaks of someone who needs porn to get aroused. To be honnest I'm not even sure he gets an erection from porn, if he watches it at work, his office is right in front of my desk and has no walls, it's all glass, anyone can see in there... but it's not just that, I have the impression he really doesn't get that much aroused by it. I think the type of porn he chooses says a lot about him, it's alll nubiles, all girls no men, no couples, just the girls. They're young, easy preys, you know? So now i don't even think it's so much sexual,i'm not sure where i'm trying to get with this, so any insight ould be great! hahaha
JamesM Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 It may very well be sexual, but this doesn't mean he needs to masturbate every time he watches. Watching it many times and giving yourself a "happy ending" after a few hours would build up the excitement. And if he is watching it in an office with glass windows and you know about it, then someone else either will or does know about it.
Author polola303 Posted January 9, 2009 Author Posted January 9, 2009 well i know our old internet administrator or whatever that's called gave him the progrmas for the video conversors, you know the type needed for the site he visits. and i also think he's the one who gave him the videos he has at home. whatever i'm dumping his sorry ass...
Author polola303 Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 I talked to him about it, just teased him about what i know he does at work, about how i k ow he watches porn all day and that he even pays 30 bucks a month for it and how that sucks cause we don't even have enough to pay rent. obviously he denied watching porn all day at work and being a member, to which i called him by his registration name haha, i laughed and said how come your internet history says otherwise, it's all porn, besides those video converters you have on your computers are exactly for the videos on that site isn't that funny? he was upset, he didn't say anything after that just went into the bedroom. hours later he just asked if i was going to keep on being bitchy to him forever... i didn't even say anything! hahaha LOSER i'm really upset i paid for his weed and porn without even knowing, my savings are gone cause i was always helping with the payments... i'm pissed but relieved to know i wasn't the problem! i really wasn't!!!
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