babybinks Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 HELP ME!!! i need crazy cool ways to make my bf's ex to stop calling. and for him to stop calling her back. nothing scary crazy... just creative funny things i could do... maybe to make her stop calling month after month. ANYTHING WILL HELP...
Geishawhelk Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Unless he intitates - and maintains - NC, I see there's very little you can do to stop it, other than confiscate his 'phone and delete everything you can. Talk to him. If you already have, then you're a sideliner, really, aren't you? What do they talk about? if it's not hostile, and the break-up is recent - he ain't over her.
You'reasian Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 HELP ME!!! i need crazy cool ways to make my bf's ex to stop calling. and for him to stop calling her back. nothing scary crazy... just creative funny things i could do... maybe to make her stop calling month after month. ANYTHING WILL HELP... If you want your boyfriends love and affection back, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way and earn it from him. I'm assuming the two of you had some kind of split and you want him back? Eliminating the competition is not going to improve your situation - your interacting with him will Best of luck!
Author babybinks Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 no... the exgf started calling when we started going out. it's been three years since we've been together.
LikeCharlotte Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Invite her to dinner with the two of you, tell her she can bring a date. Be nice - accept her as a friend of his. This will accomplish 2 things. First, she will see him in the context of another relationship that is healthy and he will see that she has moved on. Second, it will establish something between you and her. You could become friends! Tell him you feel a little jealous and you want to handle it constructively and get to know her. Let him know that you trust him and you want to trust her. Everyone wins. If she has any plans to try to sabotage that will end them. Behave like a rational person. It always throws the crazies off.
smartgirl70 Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 It boils down to trust. Either you trust him to talk to people from his past or you don't. If he's trustworthy and committed to your relationship then you have to find security in that. You will never be able to control his actions, much less hers. Letting go of jealousy is so much easier said than done but it will take your relationship to a new level if you can really do it.
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