edinsvet Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 My friend has a question and he is here with me now: He had a long distance (overseas) relationship and he was madly in love with the girl but after visiting her and coming home things changed. She was going out and it became likely, although not 100% proven, that she was lying and cheating. He found out because she blocked him from accessing all the pictures with the 2 of them together on facebook. She did this because she didn't want him to make comments like "love you baby" and have it pop up on her wall on facebook. Becuase she was out at clubs 3 or 4 nights a week and was talking to other guys. He broke up with her and then thought he had it wrong about facebook and tried to get back. She said no and he groveled for a while, lost his self-respect and eventually came to the realization that she was cheating and it got very nasty. After that, he apologized and left it off. 3 weeks later she contacted him and wished him happy new year and he replied with good wishes. The question is she is obviously trying to reconnect maybe just as friends but she was in love and she may be missing him at this point since he totally dropped out of contact. Does my friend add her as friend on facebook and try to be just friends with her in the hope of getting back eventually? He read this guy Matt Huston's "how to get your ex back" and it said in there this is how you do it. You don't contact her and in 3 to 4 wks is the max loneliness for a woman and she will probably call. She did email so that was right. Then he said you just tell her the breakup was for the best and we should just try to be friends again. This way you can build attraction as it was in the beginning and that way he is not being needy and insecure, which is what probably turned her off in the first place. But she cheated, so does he even try to do it? Another thing he says is that she betrayed her best friend, whom he dated, to come see him and lied to her face about it. So maybe she is just no good? But he is still in love........
Die Hard Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 My friend has a question and he is here with me now: He had a long distance (overseas) relationship and he was madly in love with the girl but after visiting her and coming home things changed. She was going out and it became likely, although not 100% proven, that she was lying and cheating. He found out because she blocked him from accessing all the pictures with the 2 of them together on facebook. She did this because she didn't want him to make comments like "love you baby" and have it pop up on her wall on facebook. Becuase she was out at clubs 3 or 4 nights a week and was talking to other guys. He broke up with her and then thought he had it wrong about facebook and tried to get back. She said no and he groveled for a while, lost his self-respect and eventually came to the realization that she was cheating and it got very nasty. After that, he apologized and left it off. 3 weeks later she contacted him and wished him happy new year and he replied with good wishes. The question is she is obviously trying to reconnect maybe just as friends but she was in love and she may be missing him at this point since he totally dropped out of contact. Does my friend add her as friend on facebook and try to be just friends with her in the hope of getting back eventually? He read this guy Matt Huston's "how to get your ex back" and it said in there this is how you do it. You don't contact her and in 3 to 4 wks is the max loneliness for a woman and she will probably call. She did email so that was right. Then he said you just tell her the breakup was for the best and we should just try to be friends again. This way you can build attraction as it was in the beginning and that way he is not being needy and insecure, which is what probably turned her off in the first place. But she cheated, so does he even try to do it? Another thing he says is that she betrayed her best friend, whom he dated, to come see him and lied to her face about it. So maybe she is just no good? But he is still in love........Why do you need us to tell your friend that he should stay away from a girl who was cheating on him? I can understand him not seeing it but I don't understand you needing us for advice when you're not even involved with the girl. If my friend came to me with this question it would be a quick answer: Hell NO. Are you sure this isn't you?
Author edinsvet Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 Well if you read any of my other posts you can see this is not me. I am not dating at all right now. Taking a little break He wouldn't listen to me. Anyway, I was telling him how much I enjoy this site and he asked me to post this question.
Author edinsvet Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 and he is sitting here reading this with me
Die Hard Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 and he is sitting here reading this with meWell you said "I" in the thread title so it's not exactly clear. My answer is the same: tell him to stay away from cheaters. If he's reading it, well: listen to your friend and quit screwing around asking him to post threads for you. Nothing said here will make her a non-cheater. You're looking for excuses to go back and be a doormat. Hang with your buddy and lean on him. Listen to him when he says to stay away from her. No amount of internet threads is going to make her a faithful partner. Nothing will, so stay away. OTOH, if you're woman having sex with other men is tolerable, then go for it.
Author edinsvet Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks, that is a good answer, The "I" is because he typed it in
Die Hard Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks, that is a good answer, The "I" is because he typed it inFirst you need to biotch slap him for wanting to go back to her. Then just be there for him. I went through a bad break-up over a year ago and my best friend is what got me through. You are his best hope man! To the friend: listen to your buddy and good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can do better than a cheater and you DESERVE better! Don't ever forget that!
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