savvy_girl Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Hi- I am re-entering dating scene and joined an online dating service. I talked with a few guys, and met my first person yesterday. I have not gone out on a date in at least 6 yrs., due to LTR and break-up. Anyway, we met for drinks & appetizers at a nice place. I thought I looked better than my pictures, he looked OK. He wanted to sit at the bar & eat, so I was fine with that. I am very shy when initially meeting someone, which I shared with this person prior to meeting him. There were big TV screens in the bar area, which were very distracting. Add in my shyness, and our proximity to all of the servers, my communication skills were lacking. In fact I do not even know if he stated my name. I stated hi, and was not focusing on others at the bar, but as I said the TVs were very intrusive as the playoffs were on. I am not a football fan, so I was not transfixed or anything like that. He complimented me on my appearence..asked me to kiss him..I was sort of surprised by this, but kissed him on the lips. After we were done, we walked around the mall (his idea). Then he asked me to drive him to his car, which I did. BTW, he wanted to bet on the Vikings/Eagles game for dinner, which I agreed on. He wanted to make out in the parking lot. He is 47. I kissed him a little bit, and then he said goodbye, got inhis car & left. That is it. No emails, texts, or calls. I assume he is not interested. AM I expecting too much? I thought we clicked, but could have talked more if we were not sitting where he chose. I am confused and hurt...Iknow, I better put up steel walls if I am doing the online dating thing. Was he just out for sex? ANy input, comments, ideas? Thanks, SG
Star Gazer Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Being asked to kiss a guy literally within seconds of meeting him, and then having him ask you to drive him to his car so he can makeout with you... This is not typical of the online dating experience, at least not in my experience. It sounds to me like he was lookin' to get some action, and little more. That said, your date was just YESTERDAY. It hasn't even been 24 hours. Be patient. If you don't hear from him by Friday, then write him off.
Author savvy_girl Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks! At one point I had a strange feeling he did not know my name, as usually people will say it at least once or twice....I was about to reach into my purse and pull out my credit card, then decided not to. I though he was too sexually forward as he mentioned "oh you have a thong on" and I said "yes, you will never see it, you told me you do not even like them". I advised him on the phone it takes a while for me to be sexual with someone. I think he was out to have sex...nothing in my profile even suggests it, nor do I bring it up in conversations. If it comes up, I tell people I am conservative & leave it at that. I guess that was my welcome to the dating scene!
Shygirl15 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 How old are you SG? (Too many SGs here I notice ). This guy is 47 and you sound younger. I don't know but from what you described took place he comes across as a creepy old man looking for just casual encounters.
2sure Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Whoa! Ok - first, dont worry about this one calling you back. Asking for a kiss - maybe - but asking if your wearing a thong - no freaking way. Unless you indicated to him previously, you were into this line of info - he is just looking for sex. Your screening skills will improve with OLD - if you are looking for "hook-ups" thats fine but... If you are looking for dates, as in, gentlemen - they wont ask you about things like thongs unless you bring them up and why would you when you haven't met? Yuck
Author savvy_girl Posted January 7, 2009 Author Posted January 7, 2009 Thanks everyone- I am not looking for a "hook-up". I wouldl like to find someone nice & a gentleman. WE were talking on the phone priro to this whatever, and he brought up Victoria's Secret. I advised him there is better lingerie out there, as in quality, but most men are clueless to this.**Not being a snob as I buy things at VS. He mentioned he liked some type of panty but did not like thongs..so I asked"On yourself?", trying to joke around. He replied on "women." I quickly left that subject alone. Our difference in age is not that great, however I looked at least 15 yrs. younger. But that really does not matter. He had an interesting background and could have conversed on a mulititude of things. He did not. ANd as far as I was dressed, I had on a thick cotton cabled Sweater in black, turtle neck as it is cold here, and jeans. Nothing was tight nor revealing. He asked to see my stomach..I looked at him as if he were insane??I said, i told you I am thin, there is no stomach to see, so he wrapped his arm around mty waist, which is how he knew what panties I had on. Yes, I think this one was just loooking for sex, and the more I think of things the creepier he gets. I better up my filters for OLD. Thanks, SG
prettybaby Posted January 7, 2009 Posted January 7, 2009 He complimented me on my appearence..asked me to kiss him..I was sort of surprised by this, but kissed him on the lips. He wanted to make out in the parking lot. He is 47. I kissed him a little bit, and then he said goodbye, got inhis car & left. Awkwarddddd!!!! That is NOT the kind of man I'd want to get involved with. I may be totally wrong, but it sounds like he was just looking for sex, or he's at least wayyy too fast in his approach. I mean, asking YOU to kiss him? Wtf? I would have looked at him like LOL
Author savvy_girl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 I did give him the "WTF" look. No, he is not for me, and I have told him so over the phone.
sid3 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 What a creepy bastard. Another reason why online dating gets a bad rap. I wouldn't let it deter you, it should just serve as a reminder how creepy people are every where.
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