Ratherunique Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Damn, I was on NC for 8 days, then she texted me and called me. I know I shouldn't have but I asked her if she wanted to meet for coffee. Of course, I've been getting blown off. Now it's time to really buckle down and go NC for good.
BCCA Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Dont settle for breadcrumbs, you wont the whole loaf or forget it. The first time you ignore an email/text/call is the hardest. After that though, it does get easier, and as time goes on, you really start to wonder what you have to say anyway. Just keep in mind that she isnt bringing anything you want to the table, so its pointless to drag it out any longer than it needs to be. Just ignore her, completely, from now on, or you'll keep getting blown off and feeling like crap.
Author Ratherunique Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 Yes indeed....I need to have more discipline. NC.....all the way.
openbook08 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 its ok to make mistakes! be easy with yourself. you are healing. the process is not always smooth, its full of ups, downs, progressions, regressions, leaps and backslides! so you may be feeling worse today but dont be too hard on yourself! back to strict NC
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 you'll find however that your relapse wont last as long as the initial shock of the breakup. In my case I was obviously devastated for a while then after a bit got to be pretty ok. Had some devastating relapse, but about 2 weeks later felt better than I ever had before. Over it? **** no, but you'll soon see that this feeling wont last quite as long, Go to NC buckle up and take it in stride, you can do it man.
Author Ratherunique Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 Thanks for the encouragement, I need as much as I could get. I can't turn to any of my immediate friends as they will just immediately write off how I'm feeling and say "your not over it yet"? I am alone by myself mourning, waiting for the day it will not hurt anymore
BCCA Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 I know what you mean about feeling alone. Its hard because the people closest to you know that the situation is no good for you, and to them, everything is so black and white. But thats what makes these forums great. It might be a while before it stops hurting, and really, all you can do is make the best of it while youre struggling.
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