Brady_to_Moss Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 I am part of the whole college scene and was wondering. Most of the girls i know and see at college are with diffrent guys every weekend and i know that its a time to explore yourself but it seems most girls and guys in college dont want a GF yet i am the opposite. I am a lot more mature that my friends and dont think of girls as pieces of meat like my guy friends do. Is it harder to find a faithful girl in the college scene rather than out of college or even not in college and just working?
You'reasian Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 I am part of the whole college scene and was wondering. Most of the girls i know and see at college are with diffrent guys every weekend and i know that its a time to explore yourself but it seems most girls and guys in college dont want a GF yet i am the opposite. I am a lot more mature that my friends and dont think of girls as pieces of meat like my guy friends do. Is it harder to find a faithful girl in the college scene rather than out of college or even not in college and just working? Weigh your options: 1. Don't date in college - for whatever reason (religious, personal, maturity). 2. Date like madman. Meet tons of women. Have a girlfriend a month - whatever. If you don't get it out of you now, it will creep up on you later. 3. Date, but be picky. Make a little extra effort to find someone whose more compatible with your mindset. Take the time to do it right for more long-term reasons. Learn a thing or two about relationships.
stillafool Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 I am part of the whole college scene and was wondering. Most of the girls i know and see at college are with diffrent guys every weekend and i know that its a time to explore yourself but it seems most girls and guys in college dont want a GF yet i am the opposite. I am a lot more mature that my friends and dont think of girls as pieces of meat like my guy friends do. Is it harder to find a faithful girl in the college scene rather than out of college or even not in college and just working? You answered your own question above. Look for a girl who isn't in college to date.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 It seems like dating in college is a little more on the less exclusive side as in dating a lot of people at one. I have seen so many girls and guys cheat on the GF's at school.
BCCA Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 As Ive said before, college is the ONE time in a persons life where sleeping around is not only ok, but the norm. Its your chance to experience new people and see whats out there, and at the same time, find out what youre looking for. You grow up and change a lot from 18-22, and I know people who left college a very different person that the one I met freshman year. At the same time, a lot of people do meet their spouses in college, so its not like everyone is a player. I wouldnt try to hard to find to one, usually, they find you.
D-Jam Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 I don't believe most women in college are into the "hookup culture". Even many times the women I've met who sleep around are mostly insecure. They're not wanting a new guy every week, but can't stand being alone. So they'll bang guys rather than be alone and wait for a boyfriend. I would just tell you to be picky and don't end up desperate to "have someone". Meet women, separate the ones who want hookups, bad boys, etc from the ones like yourself who are more mature and want a real RL. Date the ones you like and who will also give you want you want in a RL. I'd probably tell you to steer clear of the "Animal House" style parties with the "Girls Gone Wild" college chicks. Check out clubs and social organizations in your school. Maybe even do charity work. You'll meet a lot of "good girls" there.
kashmir Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Weigh your options: 1. Don't date in college - for whatever reason (religious, personal, maturity). 2. Date like madman. Meet tons of women. Have a girlfriend a month - whatever. If you don't get it out of you now, it will creep up on you later. 3. Date, but be picky. Make a little extra effort to find someone whose more compatible with your mindset. Take the time to do it right for more long-term reasons. Learn a thing or two about relationships. A lot of college guys don't have these options. It's easy to say, "Just date around and get that desire out of you," but for guys like me at least, , it's very difficult to find ANY girl who wants to be my girlfriend, date me, sleep with me, kiss me, or even pay any attention to me. It might come down to take what you can get, but that does no good if you can't get ANYTHING.
D-Jam Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 A lot of college guys don't have these options. It's easy to say, "Just date around and get that desire out of you," but for guys like me at least, , it's very difficult to find ANY girl who wants to be my girlfriend, date me, sleep with me, kiss me, or even pay any attention to me. It might come down to take what you can get, but that does no good if you can't get ANYTHING. Apologies if you mentioned it before...but why do you think you have so much trouble with women? Not attacking, just trying to get a feel of your situation.
IrishCarBomb Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 My experience must be a little different than other people's. It's easier to meet new women in college. Its easier to date and sleep with women after college. I'd bet that of the groups of girls that you may think are just about partying and sleeping around, at least half of those girls would like to have a steady boyfriend/relationship but just aren't up front about it for some reason. I saw too many self-proclaimed "party girls" turn around and jump into serious and stable relationships in college... they couldn't have always been so relationship-averse.
d0ll Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 deciding whether or not to date someone because they're in college is pretty dumb i'm 22 & in college & do not sleep around & want nothing more than a commited relationship .. every girl is different you can't classify them all as just wanting to party or sleep around because they're in college.
RichGuy Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Short answer: Yes, women in college are hard to date. Why? Because they are in extremely high demand!!!!! Young women 18-24 are at their beauty peak. They are the envy of older women and undeveloped teens. Every man and their uncle is salivating over these sorority girls. Hence they are being propositioned by every Dick and Tom, including rich sophisticates like yours truly. Facing such intense competition, it is no wonder you're having such a hard time dating in college.
RichGuy Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Short answer: Yes, women in college are hard to date. Why? Because they are in extremely high demand!!!!! As a very concrete example of this, as I write this, the other two top threads are "how to choose btwn 2 guys" and "have boyfriend but crushing on another"...
kashmir Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Apologies if you mentioned it before...but why do you think you have so much trouble with women? Not attacking, just trying to get a feel of your situation. deciding whether or not to date someone because they're in college is pretty dumb i'm 22 & in college & do not sleep around & want nothing more than a commited relationship .. every girl is different you can't classify them all as just wanting to party or sleep around because they're in college. While the OP might not come out and say it, the problem isn't that no girl in college wants to develop emotional attachment to a guy and date him. We know that's not true, and while some girls just want to party and sleep around, most girls don't, whether they're open about it or not. The problem is the kind of guys that want to develop relationships with, and having the concern that you're not that guy. I'm not saying the age-old complaint, "waah, jerks always get the girls." No. I'm an ******* on the outside. Girl friends have told me that I'd make the perfect movie villain. Do I get girls though? No. So I have doubts with the whole "nice guys finish last" thing. It's just easy to believe that girls will go for every other guy around you except for you, like there's some sort of invisible shield that repels them. Guys make up excuses like, "Well, girls just don't want relationships" or "Girls just don't like sex," but in reality they want that stuff just as much as a guys and IMO even more, just not with ME. And it seems like it comes so easy to so many other guys. WHy do you think there's so little stuff on here about college dating? Because it's so easy for everyone! And it's everywhere. I mean, hell, my dorm this year had 6 guys and 64 girls. You think that'd be heaven, right? Hell, any girl I made a move on wasn't interested, and every day I'd see boyfriends about going into their girlfriends' rooms. It's everywhere, but I'm not a part of it, and I don't get why.
stillafool Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Kashmir why don't you try dating girls that aren't going to college?
movingonandon Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 A lot of college guys don't have these options. It's easy to say, "Just date around and get that desire out of you," but for guys like me at least, , it's very difficult to find ANY girl who wants to be my girlfriend, date me, sleep with me, kiss me, or even pay any attention to me. It might come down to take what you can get, but that does no good if you can't get ANYTHING. Girls in college still think that they have "all the time in the world", that's why many of them ignore serious relationship potential even when it bites them in the azzz, and that alone explains a lot of the difficulties in dating them. Then all of a sudden they're 30 and get the "marriage itch", but then the quality of men they can get often begins to deteriorate little by little soon after that unfortunate anniversary.
Viking Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I'm not saying the age-old complaint, "waah, jerks always get the girls." No. I'm an ******* on the outside. Girl friends have told me that I'd make the perfect movie villain. Do I get girls though? No. So I have doubts with the whole "nice guys finish last" thing. Have you ever considered the fact that you *might* be average and not a bad boy or a nice guy? In all of your posts you kind of give off a whiny vibe. As for the OPs question, yes, women in college are hard to date because they oftentimes don't know what they want. Same can be said for guys, but women seem to have it worse... Part of the plus side to dating in college is that they're all at least "smart" and not going to be ringing you up at the check stand at your local grocery. I work with both college age girls and non-college age women. I would want someone who has a similar educational background. She has to be educated and it can't be an arts degree or something. Something concrete that shows higher level thinking is what I strive for. However, we find what we want in the least likely of places sometimes...
lazlow99 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 My university is pretty small, and I think guys do outnumber girls here by quite a lot. Also when you fall into your different social groups you don't really meet many new people. In my group of friends they're pretty much all in relationships, and while I am pretty confident and good with people, I'm not as overbearing and loud as a lot of my friends, so they tend to get the girls. Not really cause I'm shy, but because I don't like to be all loud and force myself on new people. I've only had one relationship in University over the last year and a half, the other two were outside. Really you can't generalise because everyone will have a different experience depending on who they make friends with, where they go etc. What does make relationships difficult is the different social pressures here, you can imagine what thousands of teens who've just left home are like in terms of being immature, materialistic and judging other people. The last thing I want to do is compete for girls, and I know with my friends when they're single (which is a week long gap between each relationship usually), that's what I'd have to do and I don't want to do that.
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