My bf cheats on me over and over again but I cant leave him.

[zyne_03]

My bf has cheated on me many times already but I can't seem to leave him. Lately, I caught him cheating with a married woman. It hurts so much because he has liked this girl since they were still in college. At first, he told me they were just friends. So, I believed him and trusted him. The girl even gave me gifts and stuff. And just this December, I learned that they were seeing each other in a different way. My boyfriend secretly went to see the girl and just told me that he had overtime at work. They started texting each other sweet words since the woman's marriage is not going well. My boyfriend and I settled this issue and he told me that he would stop their relationship. I suggested that he should cut all ties with the girl but he disagreed. He still wants to have stable communication with her. But he assured me that he would end the relationship. I must be crazy or something but no matter what I do, I just can't leave him. I tried many times but I just ended up wanting to be with him even more. Now, I have trust issues with him. I love him but my mind isn't at ease. I keep on thinking that he might be texting her or sending her emails. Now, he decided to enroll in grappling classes. My mind is going haywire because I keep on thinking that he might go see her after his classes or just use his classes as an excuse to see her. I'm really troubled right now and I'm about to lose my mind. Can anyone please tell me what to do? I'm about to snap and I really don't know what to do about this. How can I ever trust him again?

[atwitsend]

Contact her husband. I'm sure he will have an issue with her catting around. He will take her off the market. That is if she wants to save the marriage.

[quankanne]

the question isn't "how," but "why" ... WHY should you trust him again? WHY does he deserve additional chances? WHY can't he be faithful? WHY are you throwing your life away for someone who obviously doesn't "get" fidelity? WHY don't you realize that there's more to love than what he can offer? WHY won't you see you deserve much, much better than this?

 

loving him is good, but loving yourself is better. Meaning, if he can treat you like shxt, then you must REALLY be treating yourself crappily to even put up with this awful behavior. He isn't going to change. Maybe YOU should, but shxt-canning him!

[marlena]

Why do you think that you can't leave him? What are you afraid of? What is keeping you to him? What is his major hold on you?

 

Face your fears and insecurities, as well must, and turn your back on him once and for all. Serial cheating is just that...it never,ever stops. And with it come the lies that hurt so much. Unless you like the drama and the pain, the "fix" so to speak, work through your own issues and have no part of it.