mm4184 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 so i think i'm going to see him tonight to finally exchange presents and i'm just preparing how i'm gonna tell him that i know he's been trying to talk to other girls i know and that i just don't want to hear anything anymore so i'd appreciate it if he would talk to people i didn't know. as much as it might seem to ask, i think i can after 3 years of being so close and respecting each other's wishes. especially since he says he wants me to move on. he doesn't have to follow it, but at least i can say my peace. we broke up september and last slept together mid-december but it's been pretty much NC. my only issue is i keep hearing things about him talking to other girls etc. i hate how people think we're gonna get back together because it gives me false hopes. they said he's just going through his 30 year old crisis and wants to "explore" but that he'll realize his loss one day. NO HE WON'T! after this meeting, i plan strict NC. i had talked to him earlier today because he was acting angry and had told my sister i did something wrong but then his bipolar ass says he was just testing her to see if she would tell me he was mad and now he can't tell her anything. idiot. of COURSE my sister will tell me that! and then he said some stupid things like how eventually he's gonna sleep with someone else but "not within the next week or so". i know he was being sarcastic cuz he's always been a joker but seriously, it hurts me. i was egging it on saying that he just wants to not see me because he wants to sleep with someone else so he said that. anyways, just venting. hope tonight goes ok. i know i'll cry but at least i have it in me to say i don't wanna hear anything anymore and i would appreciate if he stayed away from people i know so that i can move on... don't know what else i would say
openbook08 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 why are you exchanging presents?? is there some new 'thanks for dumping me' and 'my pleasure' gift etiquette now?? you cant ask him not to talk to people you know...you dont own him, you dont get to control him & thats the only way hes gonna see it (for the record, i do understand what youre saying BUT its none of your business now. and why would you want it to be? he sounds like a right knobhead) i personally think its a BAD idea to see him at all, "pretty much NC" is never gonna work. its gotta be total NC. ??????????????????
Riffmeister General Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 why are you exchanging presents?? is there some new 'thanks for dumping me' and 'my pleasure' gift etiquette now?? you cant ask him not to talk to people you know...you dont own him, you dont get to control him & thats the only way hes gonna see it (for the record, i do understand what youre saying BUT its none of your business now. and why would you want it to be? he sounds like a right knobhead) i personally think its a BAD idea to see him at all, "pretty much NC" is never gonna work. its gotta be total NC. ?????????????????? Sorry MM, I agree with all of this. No good can come of this, and like you say, you'll get upset. Call it off before it's too late! And Openbook 08, "knobhead"? You have GOT to be British, right?! Haha! Haven't heard that word used since I left Blighty!
openbook08 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 ur close!! hop across the water!! knobhead is a classic right? i just feel mm is bein set up for a fall & taken for a complete ride
Riffmeister General Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 ur close!! hop across the water!! knobhead is a classic right? i just feel mm is bein set up for a fall & taken for a complete ride Ah, not the Emerald Isle, to be sure?! [/terrible affected Irish accent] I think so, it's that false hope we all cling to for too long...
openbook08 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 home of the leprechauns! got it in one hey you forgot turty tree and a turd!! (33 1/3)!! fyi, i do pronounce my th's!! mm, i think if you can stay away from him & initiate NC immediately thatll speak words louder than ever meetin him & venting. what do you hope to achieve?? keep your dignity darlin, trust me youll be glad you did X
starzphalling Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 he was acting angry and had told my sister i did something wrong but then his bipolar ass says he was just testing her to see if she would tell me he was mad and now he can't tell her anything. idiot and you want to see him why? i mean did he get you a REALLY good gift? from what you said he dumped you? i think if you go you're just going to let him hurt you more, and he lost all rights to hurt you in any way when he broke it off, i mean he doesn't even have the right to tell you you have a bad hair cut anymore.
Riffmeister General Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 home of the leprechauns! got it in one hey you forgot turty tree and a turd!! (33 1/3)!! fyi, i do pronounce my th's!! Hey, I'm not judging! Must have been awkward when that turd (sorry, third) Naked Gun movie came out, eh? Sorry, off topic, insensitive.
Author mm4184 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 haha thanks you guys made me laugh. he came to my house christmas eve to give my parents chocolates and stuff. he doesn't have much of a family so he always treated mine like his own. i asked my friends to come out with me tonight so i might not even go through with it. i'm being kinda selfish BUT i do want to see what he got me! my friend may actually just come with me to meet him so we won't be alone. and reading more and more about the NC keeps me going so i am going to try.. as hard as it sounds.. just a question though about NC. does it ever fade your thoughts of always wondering what the hell they're doing or who they're with? because i feel like i'm obsessed! i heard some people say they went to a sex and love addicts annonymous meeting!! maybe those 12 step things work haha. at this point, i'm willing to try anything. i just can't help thinking of everything we've been through.
Riffmeister General Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 haha thanks you guys made me laugh. he came to my house christmas eve to give my parents chocolates and stuff. he doesn't have much of a family so he always treated mine like his own. i asked my friends to come out with me tonight so i might not even go through with it. i'm being kinda selfish BUT i do want to see what he got me! my friend may actually just come with me to meet him so we won't be alone. and reading more and more about the NC keeps me going so i am going to try.. as hard as it sounds.. just a question though about NC. does it ever fade your thoughts of always wondering what the hell they're doing or who they're with? because i feel like i'm obsessed! i heard some people say they went to a sex and love addicts annonymous meeting!! maybe those 12 step things work haha. at this point, i'm willing to try anything. i just can't help thinking of everything we've been through. Yes, it does fade those thoughts. That's what it's designed to do. Try it, you might like it!
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