blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Well it finally happened, my ex took me off her top on myspace. I know it doens't seem like much but for some reason it meant something to me. I remember telling myself i should delete her when she takes me off Now i've deleted her like 3 times since our break up 2 months ago and each time drama comes up and i don't want to deal with it. so we'd add each other again. I know she'll contact me So should i play it cool? Or delete her and ignore the message she'll prolly send
northstar1 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Well it finally happened, my ex took me off her top on myspace. I know it doens't seem like much but for some reason it meant something to me. I remember telling myself i should delete her when she takes me off Now i've deleted her like 3 times since our break up 2 months ago and each time drama comes up and i don't want to deal with it. so we'd add each other again. I know she'll contact me So should i play it cool? Or delete her and ignore the message she'll prolly send Black - are you trying to get over this girl? If so, then delete her off that site. Social networking sites cause nothing but problems for relationships and breakups.
EmperorR Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 delete her, who cares what she thinks, she's not your gf anymore.
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 yeah i am. It's kinda hard though. ahh i guess i have to they're nothing left for me there anyway, besides the pictures. which she'll end up taking off. You ever find trouble in doing things you know are good for you? but don't seem so tasty.
malibustacydoll Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 delete her, and block her from seeing your profile. It sounds like both of you are way to involved with having drama between you.
spupwc Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 delete, she's just messing with ur head,ur her rebound. don't let it b that way.. seriously, wish I had done that, mine kept me around awhile n weening me off her mind littl by littl and then bam, dropped me like a ton of bricks so ur only gonna hurt urself worse by hanging in there.. take bak ur power man...good luck
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 delete her, who cares what she thinks, she's not your gf anymore. I was just about to talk about how i know shes gonna send me a huge long message. But i'm realizing that i told myself i don't want to date this girl because she's not even the same girl i loved anymore. It just kinda sucks.
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 it's gonna feel good, but what also sucks is that she used to post surverys (thought she said she wouldn't) and i'd be sad when i read them cause they would say how great her life is now. So i stopped reading them. and now she posts them like twice a day and i was proud to not read them and laugh. and i'd laugh at the pictures she posts of her trying to be "cool" and thinking she is such. And that would fuel me for getting over her. But i don't know You think it's better to just delete her?
Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 You think it's better to just delete her? yup ditch tha b....
surviving you Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 delete her , dont check her myspace or anything like that no cyber stalking resist the urge to click dont give her any satisfaction I saw someone use that quote form 300 on these forums recently and its totally on the spot Give them nothing! But take from them everything!
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 alright, i did it, i delete her. (it was the 300 quote that got me) I feel better now, she shouldn't have ya know dumped me, if she wanted me to have a good opinion of her so why should i stay on her friends. But should i make my myspace private? or should i give her a taste of what she's missing (ya know, posting pictures of myself in a bathing suit. jk haha) And since she prolly will send message or text, i'll post it here
Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 haha yeh play mind games lol. leave yours to public for a while and get loads of pics showin yourself enjoying life, go out, get girls to surround you etc, put up the pics. then after a few weeks make it private .
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 lol thanks man. that was hard, but i know it's good for me, but it sucks. kinda like vegetables!
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 well she sent me a request again, and a message asking "so whyd you delete me this time" and i'm not replying, or caving in, because it won't do any good
openbook08 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 NO CONTACT now darlin do not respond you are stronger than you think this will help you move on ok
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 ok so she just sent me "your not gonna respond are you" NOPE! I'm so alive right now lol what's better is that i'm talking to two girls wayyy hotter then she! THEN she goes "that's really low, whatever, have a great life" yeah i'm sure not responding to you is one step lower then breaking my heart 2 months ago right?
e.clipse Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 whatever. you know you want to get back together with her, otherwise you wouldn't let things like MySpace and Top 8's or whatever affect you in the way that they do. right now you feel excited with those two "hot" girls and are feeling really good about yourself for not answering her, but this type of high lasts only for a moment. whether that moment is a few hours or a few days, it doesn't really matter, because you will go right back to square one: you're going to reply, maybe even apologize, add her again, and continue the same thing. the truth is you're a long way from being over her, especially considering that you're not even sure you want to be over her.
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 oh no! well i'm sure i want to be, because if i didn't i know i wouldn't have done what i did, i thought long and hard about it. She doesn't deserve my respect after the **** she's done
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 congrats dude, that was a big step. i deleted my ex ages ago. it really helped. yeah i know i want to know what he's doing...........kinda? deep down it will hurt to know, so i'm better off to not think about it.............deleting was therapeutic! as was deleting his mobile number..................even though i know it by heart................so that when he sent a happy christmas text, it was just a number came up, not a name.............(i had changed it to a*hole before deleting it! that would have been funny too!) i just deleted his friends tonight, because some photos came up with him in them............ didn't mind looking at them so much............he's a good looking guy!!! but it's not good for me. not bothered if i offend friends of his..............they're good people, they'll understand. i need to not know what he's doing! believe me, this will help you no end. well done. do not cave, you don't owe her anything. do not text her back! and see how you're driving her nuts by doing so!
LikeCharlotte Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 If you really mean it make it private. No games. I'm sorry but the longer you engage her in anyway the more power this has over you. You cannot move on until you decide you are going to. You took the first step... keep making them. PRIVATE. Your choice. Ther is no one answer that fits all. Some people tell thier ex that they need NC, others just delete and move on. Some just have LC. Whatever the case myspace isn't good for either of you. You need to disengage. Great first step.
Author blackrider27 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 well what kinda bothered me about it is not that i was sad that i had to do it cause i still love her cause i know i don't. But it's that i can't believe that she couldn't respect it When she broke up with me i was forced to cope with tht and respect it though i didn't, but in a way i understood that we faught a lot and she can't deal with the pain. And she said she had to focus on other things Well i'm doing the same thing! She's posting surveys about how great life is, and posting pictures of her "drunk" and having great times with friends and guys. Well i don't need that ****, i deleted her, and i can't believe that's a shocker to her. It just even shows me more that this is for the best about how immature she is and that she can't respect the simplest things. ya know?
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