confuzledman83 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Here is to different examples of what I have said and her replies: My fiance has told me its over a few times but we still say I love you and call each other baby and babe, don't fight anymore. She hung new pictures on the wall of her and I and Our son and myself and all three of us. She said even if I change back to who she fell in love with she said she doesn't know if she will take me back. But she says She doesn't think I will change. Does it sound like she is saying it to keep from being hurt and/or does she really want to see change and stay with me or whats your opinion? I am going to be the man she feel in love with because that is the me I love as well, I am going to do it for me and my family. But does it sound like she is giving me that chance without saying it so she doesn't get hurt? Well I asked my wife if we were ok. She replied and said "the only reason I keep you around is so that you can make sure our son gets off to daycare(I love our son but he is not mine she brought him into the marriage)". And she has said that I feel bad cause you have no where to go. But she still says I love you and calls me babe. She doesn't want to talk about us staying together even if I change back to the way I was before I got hurt. I lost my job and have basically been "mooching", and I persecute her for going out(I am wrong there and have admitted to being wrong). I love her more than anything! I am getting a job and have been moving forward. I tell her I am going to be more supportive and be the man she feel in love with. She says I don't see you changing, but she also said we will talk like half way through you changing back to who you are and see if I still want to be with you. She says I have till June to show her I can be the man she feel in love with. Does it sound like she still loves me and wants me to be who I was and keep it together, or is she just keeping me around for other reasons? Every time I say something about the future with us in it she says yea or agrees with me. This is my thought she is keeping herself from being hurt, but also wants me to be in our future. If you think differently let me know. Thank you in advance I appreciate all comments and opinions!
LostNLonely Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Honestly, Although I have never been married and probably know as much about women as you or the next guy, from the outside looking in, your losing her if you haven't lost her already. Don't eff around any longer than you need to if you love her and want to stay together. Women can turn it on and off like a tap. When they twist the tap off, it usually stays off. I don't know what your doing, but you'd be sexier and more appealing with a job, regardless of your personality. Oh, and from experience, she is probably holding on to you so she can "balance the books" financially and otherwise, she's out d*ck shopping every day, it's just a matter of time before your replaced.
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