Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i get that my ex moved on straight away etc and ive got to a point where it dont bother me like it did, but i do still miss the company and feel as though we could have worked if she did give me and us that chance. if she hadnt had moved on and we met up 6 months later it would have been nice, like re discovering each other. and i feel like things do happen for a reason but do sometimes miss the old her. I know she is happy with her new guy and so thats kool. but reading something like she has the best bf and she loves him so so much, is a bit strange to hear. cause that used to be me who she would say that about. and i know i took things for granted. makes me laugh to some degree, like i wonder how long she will love him so so so much for... oh well ive learnt a lot and so thats good. and i am happy with mates i have now etc. but yeah, everynow and then i feel lonely. would be soo nice to meet someone again and have all that good stuff and why is the word "opinions" blocked from the title of these threads lol...
Joker77 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i get that my ex moved on straight away etc and ive got to a point where it dont bother me like it did, but i do still miss the company and feel as though we could have worked if she did give me and us that chance. if she hadnt had moved on and we met up 6 months later it would have been nice, like re discovering each other. and i feel like things do happen for a reason but do sometimes miss the old her. I know she is happy with her new guy and so thats kool. but reading something like she has the best bf and she loves him so so much, is a bit strange to hear. cause that used to be me who she would say that about. and i know i took things for granted. makes me laugh to some degree, like i wonder how long she will love him so so so much for... oh well ive learnt a lot and so thats good. and i am happy with mates i have now etc. but yeah, everynow and then i feel lonely. and why is the word "opinions" blocked from the title of these threads lol... I've been battling this on and off for a month. Sometimes I could care less, other times I'm about ready to go nuts. I think for me, it's missing our talks every day even if we didn't see each other. I compare the relationship to a race car. We were going 150 mph for almost six months, and then she decided to ram the car head first into a wall. There have been times I have wanted to call her, but I just refuse to do it. I believe if you want someone bad enough, 1. you won't break up with them to begin with and 2. if you do break up with them, you will contact them if you want them bad enough.
Surfer Dude Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 I've been battling this on and off for a month. Sometimes I could care less, other times I'm about ready to go nuts. I think for me, it's missing our talks every day even if we didn't see each other. I compare the relationship to a race car. We were going 150 mph for almost six months, and then she decided to ram the car head first into a wall. There have been times I have wanted to call her, but I just refuse to do it. I believe if you want someone bad enough, 1. you won't break up with them to begin with and 2. if you do break up with them, you will contact them if you want them bad enough. Correct. They know where to find us should they want to talk to us. No need to initiate contact first. The ball is totally in their court.
northstar1 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i get that my ex moved on straight away etc and ive got to a point where it dont bother me like it did, but i do still miss the company and feel as though we could have worked if she did give me and us that chance. if she hadnt had moved on and we met up 6 months later it would have been nice, like re discovering each other. and i feel like things do happen for a reason but do sometimes miss the old her. I know she is happy with her new guy and so thats kool. but reading something like she has the best bf and she loves him so so much, is a bit strange to hear. cause that used to be me who she would say that about. and i know i took things for granted. makes me laugh to some degree, like i wonder how long she will love him so so so much for... oh well ive learnt a lot and so thats good. and i am happy with mates i have now etc. but yeah, everynow and then i feel lonely. would be soo nice to meet someone again and have all that good stuff and why is the word "opinions" blocked from the title of these threads lol... Glad to see you've reached a new spot of moving on Peter, good on ya. Where are you reading this info about her new boyfriend?
Author Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 Glad to see you've reached a new spot of moving on Peter, good on ya. Where are you reading this info about her new boyfriend? i was drunk the other nite and looked on a social networking site it like gives you a little piece of what the person says. she had it to private so couldnt look on it
northstar1 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i was drunk the other nite and looked on a social networking site it like gives you a little piece of what the person says. she had it to private so couldnt look on it Peter, you know better than do that mate!
surviving you Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i was drunk the other nite and looked on a social networking site it like gives you a little piece of what the person says. she had it to private so couldnt look on it gotta love yourself more than that
Author Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 i no i no dunno what came over me. i was kinda wanting to test my own strength kinda thing
surviving you Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 it happens , dont hate yourself over it just keep yourself in check and dont do it again , you only gotta play with fire once to figure out it burns
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i notice you say you miss the old her. i miss the old him..................seems to be the same for so many people here..............whatever happened to the people we knew and loved so well eh?
LikeCharlotte Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i notice you say you miss the old her. i miss the old him..................seems to be the same for so many people here..............whatever happened to the people we knew and loved so well eh?I figured out a long time ago that I don't miss the old him... i missed the delusions I had of who he was. He was never what I thought he was. I just wanted him to be. Sometimes the worst parts are the things you did to yourself. My ex was an okay guy, I guess, but he is nothing like what I thought he was or who I thought I was with. Most of it was projection on my part. Funny how love can color your whole world. I don't think love is blind but it certainly wears tinted shades!
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 so true likecharlotte. la vie en rose! people go into relationships on their best behaviour, generally................but given enough time, their true colours begin to show. sometimes, they're not what you want or thought they would be
fabulousgal Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 you don't strike me as one that would be too upset, but good thing her profile was on private...no good can come out of it!
Author Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 yeah it does happen but i knew what i was doing. seeing pictures of her with him isnt a big issue its looking at her and remembering who she was and how we used to be. thats the hard bit. and because ive not found anyone else, or anyone thats interested in me its a lot harder. @charlotte i agree with you on some level but i do believe at one time she was the person i wanted but for some reason rejected, she always loved me so much and i never felt the same truly. only towards the end i would have done anything for her. and i guess at that point i was hoping she was the person i first met but she wasn't, she let me down and it hurt. and i never would have guessed she would or could just go off with a new love interest. all i could feel was betrayal and anger and sadness. @fab, i was mearly interested at seeing some photo's of her now to see if she really is different. even though judging by the written bit, thats clear to see. in a twisted kinda way i cant wait for them to break up. not so i can get her back. but so she know's what its like
northstar1 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 yeah it does happen but i knew what i was doing. seeing pictures of her with him isnt a big issue its looking at her and remembering who she was and how we used to be. thats the hard bit. and because ive not found anyone else, or anyone thats interested in me its a lot harder. @charlotte i agree with you on some level but i do believe at one time she was the person i wanted but for some reason rejected, she always loved me so much and i never felt the same truly. only towards the end i would have done anything for her. and i guess at that point i was hoping she was the person i first met but she wasn't, she let me down and it hurt. and i never would have guessed she would or could just go off with a new love interest. all i could feel was betrayal and anger and sadness. @fab, i was mearly interested at seeing some photo's of her now to see if she really is different. even though judging by the written bit, thats clear to see. in a twisted kinda way i cant wait for them to break up. not so i can get her back. but so she know's what its like Peter, it sounds like when you were dating, she was the one who showed more of the love, affection, than you. It's become a case of then wanting the one you can't have, once it's truly gone. But now you've realized she's not the same person who loved you, and now you can let go and move on, as you are.
Author Peter_pan Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 that is bang on mate. yeah kinda sucks how i wanted her so badly once i knew it was truly gone, and would i have actually been happy with her?... life..
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