hereandnow Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Talking to friends about a breakup, I've found, you get some very different advice than on here. I was talking to one of my best friends about my breakup with my gf, and the first thing he said was, "Got a new girlfriend yet?" Another friend said the answer was to "date, date, date, date. Even if they're uugh." Almost a direct quote. I would love to start dating, in fact, talking to other women is one of the things that really helps to ease the pain, but unfortunately an opportunity I'm interested in really hasn't come up. At least now that I've returned to college there should be some opportunities once school starts. But I'm still in a lot of pain. Even though I'm 27 this was my first real relationship/breakup. Is it just that friends don't quite comprehend the severity of the pain or loss of the connection or what? I suppose anyone who's not going through it at the time doesn't really understand. Thank God for LS!
EmperorR Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Everybody heals differently, if you haven't been out on a date yet, it doesn't hurt to try, maybe just talking to someone of the opposite sex and spending time with them will help you maybe not.
surviving you Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 lol , sounds about right my friends did their best to help , but the advice on these forums has been so much better, in my case it was because my friends would rather say what I wanted to hear than what I needed to hear in any case , im in the same boat, would love to date but nothing has popped up yet , best thing for both us to do would be to put ourselves into situations where something is bound to pop up eh?
californiadreaming Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 That is my best advice. - This is my first serious relationship/break up too, I haven't sought out advice from anyone but my mother, g-ma, and here. With that said I don't think that if a person has never experienced this they would understand the severeness of it or what it feels like. I am not sure how long your relationship was but if it was longer then 3 years then you probably feel the amount of pain if not more then I do. I personally come from a situation where I forced my ex to request space. We never fell out of love, I was just a horrible person. So, I have taken this time to better myself for either her or whoever I date next. I cannot focus on dating right now, and honestly I am not ready for it. That is where my heart is. You have to follow what your heart says. Friends can't tell you what your heart says only you can.
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