Esotlam Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 So I was talking to this girl online for a few days and all has been going well. In her profile, she has a picture which I think is pretty attractive. Yesterday she friends me on facebook, and now I can see a lot more less glamorous pictures. Apparently she is a *lot* (maybe 30lbs) heavier than the picture in her profile suggests. I want to end this now, but in a tactful way. Another thing is that we have a lot of mutual friends, so I don't want to just blow her off disrespectfully. Any thoughts on how to proceed? Thanks
Love_Forest Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 you can meet her in person to see how is she for real and they you can decide
Author Esotlam Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 you can meet her in person to see how is she for real and they you can decide no - i dont need to
malibustacydoll Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Maybe you should just continue talking to her online for a while and being friends for now. Did you meet her on a dating site? If so, then you may want to have low activity on it for a while. You could meet her in person though because then 1. you may end up liking her anyway-- who knows, 2. afterward you could say she was nice but you didn't have sparks. It would be nicer than not giving her a chance because of her pictures. I vote that. Or.. if you don't want to be alone with her try to set up a get together with mutual friends there as well-- less awkward.
Confusedalways Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 If I were in your shoes I would probably tell them, you know I think you're a great guy (girl in your case) but I actually just met someone else from (enter dating site and/or name of a social scene here) and we've been kinda hitting it off. I'd love to continue to talk to you as friends and such, but I just wanted to let you know the timing is all off! I wish I had met you a couple weeks sooner! Then maybe lay low for few days. And that is the lie I would craft
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 So I was talking to this girl online for a few days and all has been going well. In her profile, she has a picture which I think is pretty attractive. Yesterday she friends me on facebook, and now I can see a lot more less glamorous pictures. Apparently she is a *lot* (maybe 30lbs) heavier than the picture in her profile suggests. I want to end this now, but in a tactful way. Another thing is that we have a lot of mutual friends, so I don't want to just blow her off disrespectfully. Any thoughts on how to proceed? Thanks You've already been disrespectful, so that part is out the window. What you're now asking/pursuing is how to deceive her. And now that you've made it clear to us that deceit is your motive and intention we can correctly classify you with certainty in the very category of people with which you have initially grouped her. She's still one-up on you as it remains possible that someone more perceptive would not have been so easily fooled by a photo. Your deceit is without question intentional, while hers still might have been a product of your own inability to discern all there was to discern about the woman in the photograph.
Jilly Bean Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 You've already been disrespectful, so that part is out the window. What you're now asking/pursuing is how to deceive her. Uh, no. It was the fattie girl who was being deceptive. Any chick who posts hot pics to grab a man and is hiding a weight problem is the one who is being deceptive. At least the OP is being decent enough to get rid of her NOW, rather than blow her off after seeing how chubby she is in person. I'd tell her you got back together with your ex-gf, and end it at that.
BobSacamento Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Not only is false advertising wrong but it's also illegal. Bring her to court
Frankasy Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 Dude you haven't even met this chick, just eliminate all contact with her, it isn't a big deal. So what if you have mutual friends? If your friends ask you about her just tell them that it's none of their business. I don't see how this is a problem since the only contact she has with you is Facebook. Delete her from your friends, block her from MSN if you have her there and you're done.
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