bobbeepin Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 My b/f, clinton, and i have been together for a year and a half. we broke up for two months in august because he cheated on me. While we were broken up me and my friend went out to the bar, i met a guy, and him and his friend went back to my friends house afterward to go swimming. we didn't have bathing suits so we just went in our bra and underwear. later that night me and the guy i met were talking on the deck and we kissed, and then up walks Clinton (he knew where my friend lives) and saw us. he was coming over to talk to my friend about me and if he'd made a mistake in breaking up and blah blah blah, but was extremely hurt and upset about me and the guy. well, he's slept with someone while we were broken up. We are back together now,and about a month ago we went out to the same bar that i met the guy at, and the guy was there. I was tipsy and said something to Clinton's friend about it because Clinton ended up playing pool with the kid, and i wondered if he knew that it was the same guy or not. last week Clinton and his friend went out, and he told Clinton about it! Clinton wasn't that pissed off about it but i could tell he was bugged. Here's where the story is going: the other night we went up to the bar again, and the guy was there. we sat down and Jamie said "don't you feel awkward with that guy over there!" right in front of Clint, and i looked at him and said "wtf, why would you even say that?! and no i don't feel awkward." so he knew i was pissed off at him. later that night Jamie was sitting next to me at the bar while Clint was in the bathroom, and the guy's friend i had met was sitting at the bar also, and said something to me about the skinny dipping, and i knew Jamie could hear it. I don't know if Jamie told my b/f, but since then he's been being distant and moody, so i think he did. which pisses me off because it was while we were broken up, and Jamie is just creating tension in our relationship that isn't necessary. So what do i do if clint asks me about it? He shouldn't be pissed about it b/c we were broken up, but i know he will be. and should i be pissed at his friend?
atwitsend Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Just sit down with him and tell him: "We both did things during our break-up that we aren't proud of, that we wouldn't have done if we were together. Look at the pain we have caused each other. I would like to move forward in our relationship and put the past behind us. I am with you because I want to be with you. And I assume that you are with me because you want to be with me too. If there are any questions you have about what has happened. I propose that we ask them now, as many as we want. If it takes two days of us sitting here and working things, out I am happy to do that. But lets make a pact that the Q&A we have will be the last we mention to each other about it. I want us to be able to look down the road and see us getting closer. And I think this might be the way. We should also agree, if someone/anyone comes to one of us with an accusation about the other, we will not let if fester, but come directly to the other and find out in person. I am hoping this will let us take our relationship to the next level."
milane Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 stop going to the bar. the other guy obviously frequents the same bar so you, your boyfriend, and your friend are bound to see him.
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