Bells Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 If you recall, the woman that I told you about that "couldn't make plans just in case always something might come up" (or something better rather). Well, I eventually got tired of it and moved on. So far I had gotten 2 phone calls from her within the past 3 days, but she hasn't been leaving messages (she's in my caller ID). When I last talked to her, and she gave me her excuse(s), and apologized, I kind of blew it off and decided not to continue arguing about it. So she might have figured I forgot about it. With that said, would you return their call and explain to them where you stand, how you feel, and say "You know, what you did was kind of a turn-off, and well....was unacceptable." Of course she'll have an excuse to come back with. Basically, I'm asking, should I give her another shot? Since she's pursuing me now?
You'reasian Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 If you recall, the woman that I told you about that "couldn't make plans just in case always something might come up" (or something better rather). Well, I eventually got tired of it and moved on. So far I had gotten 2 phone calls from her within the past 3 days, but she hasn't been leaving messages (she's in my caller ID). When I last talked to her, and she gave me her excuse(s), and apologized, I kind of blew it off and decided not to continue arguing about it. So she might have figured I forgot about it. With that said, would you return their call and explain to them where you stand, how you feel, and say "You know, what you did was kind of a turn-off, and well....was unacceptable." Of course she'll have an excuse to come back with. Basically, I'm asking, should I give her another shot? Since she's pursuing me now? Sure. Any relationship, whether on the same page or not, deserves honest/open communication - even if the other person is incapable. Its about being the better person, regardless of what kind of games or mentality they have. Do call her and tell her about the infraction. Let her explain herself and if its BS, then let her slide right out of your life.
Author Bells Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 Sure. Any relationship, whether on the same page or not, deserves honest/open communication - even if the other person is incapable. Its about being the better person, regardless of what kind of games or mentality they have. Do call her and tell her about the infraction. Let her explain herself and if its BS, then let her slide right out of your life. Well, I'm kinda at that point now.....she's only available on the weekends, we've been out a couple of times...(she's out of town on the weekdays) so she wants to squeeze everything inon the weekend with other friends, activities and the like. So everytime I ask her, "So you want todo something Saturday" she goes, "I'm not sure what I have going on that day. I can't make plans" She says she only can know the DAY of (I guess if plans with other friends fall through and no one else is available..then that's when she contacts me) One time she actually stood me up, claimed she tried to text me while I was waiting, but I explaiend to her Id idn't have textingon my subscription....ands he used that as excuse...but if I'm waiting for her and I'm not responding to texts..woudln't common sense depict to think, "Hm, he's not responding to my texts....after about 4 times...I should call him instead." What was wierd was....when we were suppose to meet, that was the FIRST time she used texting with me, previous times we always talked on the phone.
You'reasian Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Well, I'm kinda at that point now.....she's only available on the weekends, we've been out a couple of times...(she's out of town on the weekdays) so she wants to squeeze everything inon the weekend with other friends, activities and the like. So everytime I ask her, "So you want todo something Saturday" she goes, "I'm not sure what I have going on that day. I can't make plans" She says she only can know the DAY of (I guess if plans with other friends fall through and no one else is available..then that's when she contacts me) One time she actually stood me up, claimed she tried to text me while I was waiting, but I explaiend to her Id idn't have textingon my subscription....ands he used that as excuse...but if I'm waiting for her and I'm not responding to texts..woudln't common sense depict to think, "Hm, he's not responding to my texts....after about 4 times...I should call him instead." What was wierd was....when we were suppose to meet, that was the FIRST time she used texting with me, previous times we always talked on the phone. What does she do for a living? You know, I was in a situation just like that with a girl whom I really, really liked, many months ago. My job sometimes requires me to come in at least opportune times and this is possible to explain to folks who do not do it - it just happened that my phone died at the same time. We were supposed to meet up and I really, really wanted to see her but felt terrible about making plans and finding out that I had to go to work, but I had to and I did. She probably thought that I was some kind of game player and that probably screwed things up for me. Never the less, she knows that I care about her and love her so we'll see if she'll understand.
Author Bells Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 What does she do for a living? You know, I was in a situation just like that with a girl whom I really, really liked, many months ago. My job sometimes requires me to come in at least opportune times and this is possible to explain to folks who do not do it - it just happened that my phone died at the same time. We were supposed to meet up and I really, really wanted to see her but felt terrible about making plans and finding out that I had to go to work, but I had to and I did. She probably thought that I was some kind of game player and that probably screwed things up for me. Never the less, she knows that I care about her and love her so we'll see if she'll understand. LOL...well we're not at that point of "being in love" just the initial stages. So we really cannot even get that far without her being too busy. We had been out a couple of times and that's it. I'm guessing she might LIKE me, but being in serious love with each other. We only had been out a couple of times and talked on a phone a few times. But my pet peeve is when someone goes out with me only when it's convenenient to them. But when she is home on the weekends, she tries to squeeze in her sociallife with regular friends, activities like Yoga and other such things into an entire weekend. One time she went to a Japanese cultural event without even inviting me. You'd think she'd think of me, and invite me one weekend right?
carhill Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 If she leaves a VM, return her call, definitely. If she calls and you pick up the phone, talk to her. Other than that, numbers appearing on screens is just a bunch of electrons flying around, IMO. Don't infer anything. Maybe she just likes to hear the sound of your voice on your VM
Rebellious Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Sounds like she was playing hard to get and it backfired on her. I'd give her a chance if she calls again, but girls play this game too often so I can see why you're turned off. She's either a player enjoying this game or she's insecure or inexperienced. How old is she?
mortensorchid Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Not playing hard to get here, she's just a flake. Move on. I know it's difficult, but you have to move on.
Author Bells Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 Sounds like she was playing hard to get and it backfired on her. I'd give her a chance if she calls again, but girls play this game too often so I can see why you're turned off. She's either a player enjoying this game or she's insecure or inexperienced. How old is she? She is 26..............................
Thunder77 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Women are a strange breed, once you back off, they pursue you. Never really quite understood that part.
Star Gazer Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 She's not pursuing you if she doesn't leave a message. For all you know she got a flat tire and needed someone in a pinch or something.
You'reasian Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Express your intentions....then sit back, relax and strap on your seat belt.
BCCA Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 She's not pursuing you if she doesn't leave a message. For all you know she got a flat tire and needed someone in a pinch or something. I kind of agree here. Calling without leaving a message is a pretty minimal effort. She could have been drunk and needed a ride or been horny, she couldve been bored, other plans fell through, etc...you'll never know. What is obvious is that shes a flake, at least toward you. Trust me, if she was interested she would make time. Waiting until the DAY of and then seeing if she had time tells me that youre the 'if all else fails' plan, and even then, she still faked out before. She randomly started using texts coincidentally at the exact same moment of standing you up? Come on, she just flaked. I wouldnt even bother if it was me, but if she doesnt at least leave a message that should tell you something.
Author Bells Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 I kind of agree here. Calling without leaving a message is a pretty minimal effort. She could have been drunk and needed a ride or been horny, she couldve been bored, other plans fell through, etc...you'll never know. What is obvious is that shes a flake, at least toward you. Trust me, if she was interested she would make time. Waiting until the DAY of and then seeing if she had time tells me that youre the 'if all else fails' plan, and even then, she still faked out before. She randomly started using texts coincidentally at the exact same moment of standing you up? Come on, she just flaked. I wouldnt even bother if it was me, but if she doesnt at least leave a message that should tell you something. Actually, we re-established contact....she works out of town actually, sometimes her work even might require to her to work on a Sat or Sun even, so sometimes she can't even get time for her friends as well.....she says they get upset with her because she's not been able to hang with them....not her fault her job requires her to be out of town almost all the time.
zenith Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 it seems like she's not that into you or you are just her friend move on and live your own life, bro
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