fallendisguise Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I'm hoping my fellow daters can help shed some light on my little situation. (I will keep it short) I'm in my mid twenties and have been out of the dating game for about 4 years now, so I'm quite clueless now as to how things work. I met a guy about two months ago through a friend. He seemed kind of shy so I made the suggestion that we go out sometime and we exchanged digits. We have a little bit different work schedules, but he still manages to text me just about every day. However, I've only seen him TWICE since I met him. We went out for drinks and then caught a movie a few nights ago with a heavy make out session. Each time I've had a good time and walked away feeling good about the situation. He's a nice guy (insists on paying which I'm not used to, opening doors, very polite, etc), but just about everytime we talk the convo turns towards sex. I flirt and kind of play along, but I've also made it clear that I'm not looking to just get laid right away. I try to give hints that I'm interested in him without coming across as desperate. I say I have a good time when we have gotten together and even suggest getting together sometimes, but he always turns me down (usually because he has to work). Also, if I text him earlier than when we normally talk I get ignored for a few hours. I'm just not sure if this guy is into me or what the deal is. I suggested getting together tonight, but got rejected again because he's feeling a little under the weather. It's frustrating, but I don't want to ask if he's just looking to get laid because I don't want to come across as me being insecure or trying to find out where this is going. I just don't want to waste my time. Please help!
You'reasian Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 So you've given him hints that you want more from him. I think he's probably picked up on this and is probably thinking more and more about you in his life. You said that you text him early and he doesn't answer for a couple of hours? Do you know what his schedule is like? I'd imagine if you text him early on, he is probably at work. If he's very focused at work, chances are that he puts his cell phone away and is glued to whatever he's doing at the moment - I know I get that way... As far as what your expectations are, you should bring this up in your next conversation. Best of luck
Author fallendisguise Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 Thanks for the reply You'reasian. His work schedule is a bit hectic. He works in 24 hour shifts and then has a day or two off in between. He usually texts me towards the end of the night (when things have slowed down) while he's at work. So usually, I don't text him during the day especially if I know he's working and I just kind of wait for him to when he is. When I wait a few hours, it's on a day that I know he has off and I say send him a text at 4 pm and then he doesn't reply until the time he normally does when he's at work. I guess I'm just a little out of practice with this whole thing and can't really tell if he's interested or not. I feel like I don't have much to go on with being able to tell or not. When I used to date before I was always used to the guy wanting to get together all the time and maybe this one just has a slower pace?
You'reasian Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I'm not sure what line of work he is in, but if he is an alpha male, he probably really dives into his job and if he has hobbies, is probably really into those too. Sure he probably spends alot of time being productive, but I'd wager that when he has time off, he spends it thinking about you and thinking about making out with you and being intimate with you He's probably thinking about you right now. Perhaps he's moved slower because he wants to get to know you and make sure that you do things right. Give him a call, see what he's up to. He might answer
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