Peter_pan Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 look people i dont care how much you love them, want them.... if they left you just say f**k you and move on. why wait around or live in hope that the person you "thought you knew" will come back or think of you and want to be mature enough to work it out? i talk from experience and it took me a long long time to actually accept that "yes it can happen to me" "i can get dumped" "i was left for some one else" no matter how they try and sugar coat it, F them they are the most shallow people on the earth. they dont deserve our thoughts or energy look, i get that they once meant everything to us and its horrible that they can just move on and not look back, it hurts... we all know this. but over time you will see that they dont mean S**T and that you never really knew them. while your weeping your eyes out, they are off shaggin someone else. true fact. just f THEM and move on. its gonna be a long and bumpy road, but your get there, trust me. its funny because over a long enough period of time you will realize that they just didnt feel the same, and if you have been with someone else and it didnt work out then your know the feeling... no there not the most horibble person on earth and no you dont have to "forgive" to move on, just have your say in the present rather than later and move on. it sucks that years and years of memories and photos dont mean **** anymore but hey thats the way it is. again, its hard, but just let it go. please dont wait for these people, they wont come back. find some one new and exciting or just find good friends. there are better things out there. good things come to those who wait try not posting on here for a few weeks and reflect on your thoughts, you WILL feel better you need to just find yourself again and move on. its the best thing you can do. i found this impossible at the time, i never thought i would be making this post, but look at me now !!!! move away if possible from this person who hurt you ( will heal quicker not being in there presence ), hide away all evidence of there existence and dont look back. its the hardest thing to do but the best way. in the long run it will all make sense. i still wish i could go back 4 years but you cant. live in the moment and keep it real sorry for anyone going thru pain. you have to go through the hell in the corridor to get to the door the other side. please feel free to pm me or anything to chat. i know how ****e it is going through heart break.
Surfer Dude Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Congrats man, you really made it. Just compare your previous state from last month and now, it's obvious you've made huge progress. Make sure you keep it that way We can all make it, it's just a matter of time and NC.
EmperorR Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I agree 110%, rhy wait or have hope for someone who kicked you to the curb. While your at home crying being sad etc., there out having club being happy not even thinking about you. I mean looking back I realized all I did all I sacrifice and she did nothing, I can't believe I almost married such a selfish cranky me first human being.
TG84 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 congrats peter pan -- i wish i had your stength, but especially the years of photos thing just has me reeling right now. I have so many memories with my ex and our relationship was so good, and yet she threw it all to the curb suddenly without any communication. and no she's so cold and doesn't really care what happens to me it seems.
Author Peter_pan Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 thanks guys. emp, exactly !! tg you will get to my point in strength it takes time and keeping busy, you will get there. cut her lose. dont wait around dont do anything. just move on and forget her as much as possible. and if anyone needs closure, get it. have your say and move the hell on. it works. trust me
foxh1234 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 thanks guys. emp, exactly !! tg you will get to my point in strength it takes time and keeping busy, you will get there. cut her lose. dont wait around dont do anything. just move on and forget her as much as possible. and if anyone needs closure, get it. have your say and move the hell on. it works. trust me Hey PP, glad to hear you talking like this man, welcome to the other side. Remember, no looking back.
cheung888 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I am going through this hurt now, we both work in a small firm, we are literally 15 feet away from each other in work, I don't know if she has someone new yet but it will kill me and put me back to square one when it happens. We broke up end of Oct and I am still a wrek, shes so cold and ignores me, won't speak to me, makes me feel like ****. How can I block her out, the hardest thing is hearing her and seeing her most days. We both do professional exams so moving jobs is unrealistic as we are tied in to contracts, this really sucks, I am so confused and hurt, we return to work tomorrow. My performance has dropped significantly, how can I get like this over someone who it seems does not care about me anymore?
Author Peter_pan Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 you just look at how much they have hurt you, you see that this person is not the one for you, if they were how could they do this? and you dont care for them anymore. its the hardest thing but the only way
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