Hexaggrm Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 So i dont go overboard and write an entire bible. Il make it short. At work, i met a girl who Looked fairly interested in me, we talked, and got to know eachother when i invited her To Import Night To see the cars.. and my collection. Nothing happend between us at all, and its been two weeks. my friend invited me over to see a movie with them *a Set up* so i could get better aquainted with her. after a few hours.. and at 2AM, she starts to fall asleep and goes to the opposite side. Then after a few Minutes, She comes over, lays on my shoulder and stays there for a couple of seconds, then moves back. So i figured she wanted me to say something like * do you want to tay down on my arm?* So she fell asleep on my chest, And at 4 am i left home and that was the end. We didnt Kiss, touch, etc. So, My question is, Is she waiting for me to *make a Move* or is she taking it slow Like i am.
You'reasian Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 I've been there and that is generally a good sign. I'd take it slow.
wuggle Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 IMO opinion a woman doesn't rest her head on the shoulder of someone she thinks is an ar*e, so looks good so far. Talk to her, ask her out, what have you got to lose ? , if she says no then put it down to experience.
The Collector Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Should've kissed her when she laid her head on your shoulders. You wanted to, right?
Author Hexaggrm Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 yea, i wanted to kiss her, but i didnt want to make a mistake that would cause the moment to cease. She invited me today again for some get together with the same people. and watch other movies.. so in the Pro's eyes *you*,What should i do?
wuggle Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Say yes you idiot, and stop asking strangers for advice on the obvious !!
Author Hexaggrm Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 @wuggle = I did tell her that i wanted to get to know her a little better after a week, She felt a litle awkward, but after i told her how i felt, She started calling me everyday from that day forward.
wuggle Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 That is why I flippantly said 'yes you idiot'. It seems obvious that she is interested. No-one finds these situations easy, she is possibly nervous or shy. Go fo it, if she says no, fine, you've tried. When you get older you don't want to be looking back saying 'what if' or 'I wonder what'.
The Collector Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 yea, i wanted to kiss her, but i didnt want to make a mistake that would cause the moment to cease. She invited me today again for some get together with the same people. and watch other movies.. so in the Pro's eyes *you*,What should i do? A mistake many men make is to not make a move, out of fear of rejection, or some misplaced sense of showing you are a 'nice guy' and subsequently finding yourself in the FriendZone. So make a move. Get her alone, put a smug sexy look on your face, start touching her hands, arms, make sensual eye contact, brush her hair away from her face, pull her towards you and kiss her.
Author Hexaggrm Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 Ok cool. il try to do that tonite, Thnx alot =)
The Collector Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Great, please remember to tell us how it went. And always remember, girls want to be kissed.
Author Hexaggrm Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 well...it wasnt what i expected but, here's what happend. I went inside, ate what she cooked, and then started to watch a movie. Around 2 Am she falls asleep again, but this time she doesnt lay down on me, she just falls alseep on the opposite side. She wakes up in 10 minutes. and then we both give this very happy and comfturable smile to eachother, she then says *well im going upstairs, cuz im rly tired and i go to wrk tomrow ar 7am.* So i was about to kiss her...but i instead completly moved my direction and kissed her on her cheeck. And i couldnt see any facial expressions. So, nothing happend.... again. and i could tell by her friends that they were saying *uhhh.... What the #&&%... you didnt kiss her... again.* and her other friend looked at me like... * seriously.. what are you waiting for....* I think i might lose her and im porbbably heading towards the *friend* zone.. So Ive decided, that tomrow, im going to kiss her after work, While walking her to her car. I will determin what will happen after that.
MichelleS1983 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Just a question Hex. Why are all your "dates" spent sitting on a couch watching videos? On your last "date," you said she cooked dinner, too. Why don't you take this lady OUT for an evening for a change, and get out of this kiss-of-death situation where you're watching videos all the time - and she's falling asleep? You've done this twice now, and both times she's fallen asleep. That's hardly the thing dreams are made of. She cooked you dinner, now it's YOUR turn to reciprocate and take her OUT to dinner. Stop stagnating on her couch watching stupid videos. There's nothing less appealing than a slug who continually comes over and eats your food and plants himself on your couch all night watching mindless videos. And that's how she's going to see you if you don't start reciprocating.
Author Hexaggrm Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 well yea, But shes the one inviting me over. But yea ur right; Ive got to take her out somewhere, i just have no idea where since its a small city with very minimal choices. In a period of 6 months you would have already explored the entire city. I Do want to take her out to a place shes never been to be4. Its just most of my income goes to my Cars, so im left with some cash at the end of the month. I spend about 8K on performance parts for my cars every month, im left with about 5K left and thats for housing n stuff. but im going off the topic. Ok, ilt ake her out somewhere. il do it today, Thnx Michelle
the_blur Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 > Its just most of my income goes to my Cars, so im left with some cash at the end of the month. You have no idea how sad that makes you sound. Never type anything like this into your computer again. If you feel that you are about to do so, please go pull a frozen fish out of your refrigerator and savagely beat yourself in the face with it. It will make me feel much better. How about you forgo upgrading one of your toys and show someone other than you a nice time? Do you like this girl Einstein? Maybe you don't get that cat back exhaust and take her to a movie, maybe to a museum. You probably won't even need to spend more than 100$ (although that's about how much I would spend without batting an eye, but I drive a stock ford focus and donate 10% of my poor-house income to charitable causes) (You know that guys who upgrade their cars are *exactly* like women who are obsessed with buying shoes) Signed, Dominic Toretto =p
BlueHarvest Posted January 6, 2009 Posted January 6, 2009 > Its just most of my income goes to my Cars, so im left with some cash at the end of the month. You have no idea how sad that makes you sound. Never type anything like this into your computer again. If you feel that you are about to do so, please go pull a frozen fish out of your refrigerator and savagely beat yourself in the face with it. It will make me feel much better. Blur, thats not nice... Character and conduct Civility and respect We expect that all community participants interact in a manner conducive to free-flowing, collaborative participation from all visitors, fostering an environment free of harassment, character attacks, and other forms of individual and group berating. We realize that all members may not share the same definitions on issues surrounding personal morality, appropriate behavior, and other sensitive topics of discussion that often appear on the site; we encourage all to voice their own opinions while refraining from criticizing other participants for the perspective they hold. Each person that posts on the forum is to be treated with the utmost respect and civility regardless of how absurd or ridiculous the opinion expressed might seem to you from your perspective. Personal attacks against other participants will not be tolerated under any circumstances. We define personal attacks as posted comments which are intended to provoke, demean, or ridicule another participant. Try and play civil now ok? He's just letting you know that he spends his money on cars. It's good to have a hobby, albeit an expensive one, it's part of his life and she'll have to realize that if she is to become a part of his life. If she doesn't, then she isn't the right woman for him.
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