Am I suppossed to be offended by, "Let's just be friends."?

[hoartiosans]

I just hate the thought that all those romantic feelings she had for me, is now crap, and she now want to be friends, It's like I'm just not good enough for her little fantasy, I hate it. I never want to see her again.

[surviving you]

There can be no middle ground. Not when our hearts are at stake.

 

wow , thank you , those are some powerful words

[Riffmeister General]

I have never understood people like that. They don't want you, but they want you to stick around and be friends with them and pretend that you never had a romantic history with them. I think that's completely selfish on their part.

 

Ah, you know man, you've just nailed it there. I'd be too ashamed to expect anything.

 

Of all the things she said in her final email a day after the breakup, the two things that pis*ed me off the most were

 

"You'll be ok" - HOW F**KING DARE YOU?!?! That is completely NOT something you have ANY right to say to me. That's the kind of thing the friends I turn to have to say!!

 

"I don't expect you do right now, but if in the future you want to be friends again, please get in contact" - WHY do you think I'd ever want to see you again, and "get in contact"?! I'm not emailing my BANK for fu*ks sake!! Shows how much I really meant to you!

 

Perhaps some Oscar-worthy over-reactions there, but really, they were the bits that got my blood boiling!

[hoartiosans]

I know What you mean Riffmeister General, I was surprised at how mad It made me when she said that to me, I was like, No I don't ever want to be your friend, ever. I was nice and said I just wouldn't be able to move on though.

[Riffmeister General]

I know What you mean Riffmeister General, I was surprised at how mad It made me when she said that to me, I was like, No I don't ever want to be your friend, ever. I was nice and said I just wouldn't be able to move on though.

 

Yeah, you're never quite as harsh as you intend to be when the moment comes, eh?! I said something like I don't want to say NEVER, but it's gonna take a long time... wish I'd been a bit stronger, but in the moment, strength was a commodity in short supply.

[hoartiosans]

Boy, it really tore me up inside too, I hated it when she said that, I knew it was crap. I wanted to scream at her in that moment, but I couldn't (Broke up with me over a text) I feel like I wasn't good enough, like I did something wrong. You know, all I needed was for her to love me, but that wasn't enough for her, she needed to fulfill some ridiculous fantasy.

[Riffmeister General]

Boy, it really tore me up inside too, I hated it when she said that, I knew it was crap. I wanted to scream at her in that moment, but I couldn't (Broke up with me over a text) I feel like I wasn't good enough, like I did something wrong. You know, all I needed was for her to love me, but that wasn't enough for her, she needed to fulfill some ridiculous fantasy.

 

You know, that's what hurt the most. I asked NOTHING of her, just to love me the way I loved her. I did nothing wrong the whole time (except perhaps coming out to Canada for a year, but it was her idea to have the LDR in the first place!), not once did I offend her in any way. I'm athletic, decent looking (if I do say so myself...! ), loads of interests in common... but then she leaves me for a fat sweaty metaller because he's THERE for her.

 

C'MON!!!!

[hoartiosans]

I don't know what she's doing right now (Going NC) but the bad part of me hopes she's unhappy, even though I loved her, I just hope she regrets this decision for the rest her life. And I can't even stand the thought of her with someone else, it kills me just to imagine it, she was supposed to love me!!!

[Riffmeister General]

I don't know what she's doing right now (Going NC) but the bad part of me hopes she's unhappy, even though I loved her, I just hope she regrets this decision for the rest her life. And I can't even stand the thought of her with someone else, it kills me just to imagine it, she was supposed to love me!!!

 

You can join the back of the queue with that sentiment! It's wrong for me to want it to all go horribly wrong, but I'm not feeling guilty for that feeling. I guess I should be thankful that I know she's already with someone else, so I can get that healing out of the way right away, rather than worrying about it happening and setting me back in the future.

[hoartiosans]

Yeah, I'm trying not to think about her too much, but I'm home from College for winter break, so I've got nothing to do except think about her, and I hate it every second of every day, it's just one memory after another killing my spirit, setting me back every time I remember something else I didn't before. I just couldn't wait to get back and see her, now I hope I never, ever, ever see her again, Unless she admits this is all stupid and she want's me back (even then I don't know if I could take her back after all this bull****)

[not_a_happy_camper]

I had been NC for about 5 days prior to that.

 

you're right to feel you have the upper hand. i wish i was in your position. i unfortunately was the one texting how much i missed him and wanted to talk to no avail. lack of dignity not a nice place to be

[not_a_happy_camper]

Ah, you know man, you've just nailed it there. I'd be too ashamed to expect anything.

 

Of all the things she said in her final email a day after the breakup, the two things that pis*ed me off the most were

 

"You'll be ok" - HOW F**KING DARE YOU?!?! That is completely NOT something you have ANY right to say to me. That's the kind of thing the friends I turn to have to say!!

 

 

 

i got, "you'll be ok in a couple of weeks". I hear ya! i'm glad he was able to put a specific time frame on recovery..............apparently four weeks later, he wasn't coping so well..........kinda made me feel a little better. not because i want him to feel bad. i don't wish him that. but after he said the above..........

[Riffmeister General]

i got, "you'll be ok in a couple of weeks". I hear ya! i'm glad he was able to put a specific time frame on recovery..............apparently four weeks later, he wasn't coping so well..........kinda made me feel a little better. not because i want him to feel bad. i don't wish him that. but after he said the above..........

 

I'm sorry, but I got away lightly!! "Glad he was able to put a specific time frame on recovery"... classic! It's not a goddamn broken finger!

[not_a_happy_camper]

I'm sorry, but I got away lightly!! "Glad he was able to put a specific time frame on recovery"... classic! It's not a goddamn broken finger!

 

i know exactly.............don't worry, tis only my heart, sure it'll put itself back together in no time!!! tosser!!! i'm now deleting his friends off my facebook account. his picture came up on my news feed. he looked happy. f him! oh begrudgery is not nice..............karma karma karma

[hoartiosans]

I've gotten rid of everything that reminded me of her, I'm avoiding shows and movies we watched together, I've deleted her email address, messenger, and facebook accounts of my stuff, and just today took back her christmas present I bought 2 days before she dumped me (that made me realize it was really over). My mind's a mess, and my heart is aching...this sucks.