ruggy Posted January 3, 2009 Posted January 3, 2009 So we met for a first meet/date for a drink. She kissed me on the cheek and we called it a night. Too public for a kiss, at least I thought. Called her today to see if she wanted go out to dinner, she say yes, but she already had plans. Wanted to schedule dinner for tomorrow (Sunday). Said I could not make it and suggested next Saturday. She said works for her. We are on a tentative date for this coming Saturday. Assuming everything goes well, how do I say I would like to see more of you without sounding too needy? When we chat, I leave a day or two in between not to look so clingy. We are both 30 and live about 30 mins from each other via car.
hotdancer2009 Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 It will all happen naturally. You won't seem clingy unless you do something weird like call her ten minutes after the date to ask her out again. Usually it is pretty obvious in the way that people say "goodbye" whether or not they want to see each other again. Give a warm hug or kiss goodnight :-).
JohnnyBlaze Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I agree with HD; chances are, you'll just feel the time is right and blurt out the right thing (or, like every other guy, something that sounds cool in your head but is so ridiculous when said aloud that it makes her laugh). For now, just keep doing the have one date, plan one date routine. After a few rounds of this, she'll get the picture without you having to say a word. Also, one thing I've found on LS (like most any other forum) is that weekends, especially evenings, tend to produce fewer immediate responses. You posted your question Saturday evening - that's when people are having dinner and planning to go out. I'm certainly not saying there's anything wrong with posting then (as I've done it myself on more than one occasion), but just be prepared to wait a little longer before replies come flooding in.
D-Lish Posted January 4, 2009 Posted January 4, 2009 I don't think you have to worry about appearing clingy or needy- if anything I would be careful not to always wait too long to contact. I know if it were me- I'd assume the other party wasn't too interested and keep my options open if he was taking too long to get back to me all the time. Of course there is something to be said for taking it slow! There is nothing wrong with that. But do it because you want to get to know her better, not because you think there is some unwritten rule that says you have to wait "X" amount of time before getting back to her- becasue some gay book has told you this is the way to a womans heart. It's not. I met someone on a dating site a month or so back- and he wrote me first... but always waits 4-5 days to send the the next message. I am just sort of at the point of witing him off. I feel like me being in my 30's, I am beyond that crazy game. I've moved past most games. I don't know If if I set the precedence by returning his initial mail 4 days later. But I was on vacation and hadn't chacked my mail. Truthfully, I like it when a guy shows interest and pursues me. Doesn't have to be every single day all the time- but once a day is cool. That's not too long or two much. We need to feel "wanted" and believe the meeting is something you are happy about. The fact that you asked her for dinner and she had other plans but STILL suggested a meeting the next night is a proper answer when someone is interested. If your getting togther next saturday to hang out again- try an send some "hey looking forward to out date' texts until then, Just tell her know you are thinking her during the downtime. Pursuing with a vegence and just following the nbatural couse of dating again is different- and it's your better choise of action. You can be cool with out being over the top. I am just wondering why you wanted to wait for next saturday (one week) to get together again. What's worong with meeting sooner? Both in your 30's - where dating in a different game! Most of woman reallt don't wantgames (or percieved games.)
Author ruggy Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 Thanks for all the replies thus far. We've been e-mailing each other back and forth for a couple of weeks. There were days that se took her time in responding. I guess for her to be more comfortable, or she was busy. I assume she's interested She gave me a nice hug and kiss on the cheek after we met for drinks. During the week it is pretty hectic, so I really did not have amble time to give to her during the week. Would it be too aggressive to say I'd like to see more of you?
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